Can your husband cook without a big fuss?

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For example could he make a roast dinner and sticky toffee puddding without trashing the kitchen, pestering you for help/asking where things were and without losing his cool?

Yes!

Yes absolutely.
He does all the cooking.
I can cook and enjoy it but he likes doing it , he does it when people come round as well.

DH cooks every night for us, he cleans up a bit as he goes and then I do the "proper" cleaning up after dinner
works perfectly for us, he loves to cook and finishes work earlier than I do, I like cleaning up with a podcast on

He can do a main meal no problen and washes up as he goes along.
He can put a sweet together but I do any actual baking as I enjoy it.
My late DDad was a fantastic cook, baker and loved to make fudge ect.

My husband is the king of meal prep, it's not uncommon to get up and find him with a pot of soup or chilli on at 6am to be portioned up and frozen. He enjoys cooking and is better at it than I am so I let him crack on. The only thing he doesn't do is baking.

DH is a great cook so yes to the roast 👍🏻

Neither of us would usually make any kind of dessert so he’d be unsure but if someone wanted it he’d get a recipe and give it a good go 🤷🏻‍♀️

Generally speaking, he’s better at cooking savoury and I’m better at baking.

We’re both “clean up as you go” types in the kitchen fortunately so it’s never too chaotic. Usually one of us cooks and the other does the final clearing up after if we’re both home.

Yes,he does a lot of cooking now he's retired. He wouldn't make a sticky toffee pudding. We rarely have any kind of pudding.when we do , maybe in an afternoon,where we have had an early Sunday lunch,he has perfected microwave sponge pudding. It could be syrup,jam,pear or pineapple, then being more like an upside down cake.

Yep, whereas I would trash the place. All our friends of a similar age (late 20s / early 30s) have the same dynamic - the men do the cooking.

Not a chance! He can just about make spaghetti bolognaise and that's inferior to mine and takes so long.

He retires soon so I will be getting him to make meals from Gousto as they are pretty idiot proof (the easier ones at least, not ones that involve the food processor )

He makes up in many other ways so I'm not complaining

My DP is an excellent cook. He even tidies
Up as he goes along (which I really struggle with). He wouldn’t cook a roast tho as he didn’t it stressful pulling it all together at the end.

He can feed us. He can't cook.

He's far too adventurous when he tries to cook - for example, giving chow mein "a twist" by adding peri peri seasoning. Oh, I made beef stew but I tried putting lemons in it.

FFS man, give me beans on toast if you want (minus the adventurous devilled anchovies or truffle-whelks or whatever).

He would probably strike on a genius combination one day, but I can't endure the "monkey bashing a keyboard" approach to flavour in-between.

Much prefer him to stick to the classics.

He does all the cooking for the household. I bake, but I'm not that interested in cooking. He's away for a week for work, and has left a freezer full of things to reheat because I have a lot on.

Well no to the roast and the sticky toffee pudding but then we don’t eat that kind of food.

He doesn’t cook anywhere near as well as I do but he can put a meal on the table without trashing the kitchen or losing his cool. I’d find either of those very unattractive.

No

Cooking dinner yes, baking a dessert no. The former is a vital life skill, the latter is a leisure activity / hobby if you enjoy it.

He cooks but doesn't do the 'what are we going to have for tea?' thinking very often.

He can and will happily do the thinking about, shopping for and cooking of roasts, cooked breakfast, omelette, stir frys, fajitas, spag bol and BBQs.

He has some kind of mental block on making soups, stews, pasta other than spag bol.

He is a perfectly good cook but doesn't want to every look up a new recipe. He just glazes over. It's not his thing.

He's baked a cake once, happy to eat a cake I make, but would just buy one if he wanted one. Also the contents of the baking drawer would just annoy him as it's arranged the way I like it. Or, as he would say, thrown in at random.

I still get asked every night 'what's for tea?' - most times I say I don't know and leave him at it. But run the risk of getting his default frozen fish and chips dinner.

He's a very tidy cook. I'm less so...far less so.

I can look in the cupboards and will put together something tasty and healthy without too much bother - he needs the ingredients in for the things he can cook - if you see what I mean.

I think I need to have a think about why this prompted such a long post from me...

Yes, he's a very good cook for the most part. Doesn't always follow recipes, and was responsible for the worst meal I've ever tasted, but he's made some really good meals as well. Much better at a roast than me too, I'd just use bisto gravey, but he's not keen so will make it from scratch himself. He is a very messy cook though, but give him his dues, does tend to do most of the clearing up.

Yep my DH does pretty much all the cooking in our house and just gets on with it. He is a far better cook than me and enjoys it. He tidies as he goes along but will do the washing up and put everything away once we've eaten.

My jobs are to put a wash on, sort the dogs out, hang the washing out to dry and put all clean clothes away.

That's our after work / evening routine (before sitting down to watch TV) and works for us 😊

Actually, I forgot, he doesn't do desserts other than a victoria sponge or trifle, so I do those!

Yes to the roast and frequently does. He cooks about 75% of the dinners nowadays.

Neither of us have ever made a from scratch STP and probably never would, but we're both quite capable of following a recipe, so could do it if the need arose.

Yes he does pretty much all of the cooking and washing up for the last couple of years, he just cracks on and does it, he does mostly French cooking and bread making as thats what he grew up with but if we were craving sticking toffee pudding he’d just look up the recipe and do it

No. He doesn’t enjoy cooking. He finds it very stressful. He is very good at tidying up after himself though. I really enjoy cooking so it is one of my jobs.
I don’t think I could keep the garage tidy and do the gardening without a lot of commotion but he enjoys it so it is one of his jobs.

Oh yes, absolutely. My DH is a great cook.

I find it a bit of a turn off if a man can't cook, or faffs about like an idiot in the kitchen!

Yep! Dp quite often says thinking of going to a butcher, getting a joint and doing a roast this Sunday? What meat do you fancy?

I'm sure he would do the sticky toffee pudding if asked but if he was doing the roast I'd attempt to make the sticky toffee pudding.

Yes my DH is a great cook, he also bakes bread and makes pizza from scratch.

The remarkable thing though is that when I met him he ate four things (pasta, chips, burgers, pizza) and didn't cook at all - he has taught himself over the years (with some, ahem, encouragement from me). He meal plans, does the shopping, cooks, washes up. I also do these things, we just muddle in as and when. That's as it should be IMO.

I have a friend whose husband never cooks. She dislikes cooking, but has to do it for the family every single day. How she doesn't strangle him I don't know. I sort of like him as a person but I consider him very very selfish to expect his wife to serve food up to him every day. I can't respect him because of it.