To think DP is being selfish

[kiana2015]

We've just moved home, I would like to get a couple of bits for the house, new rug, curtains etc, the bits I've picked doesn't amount to more than £200. I was about to buy and my DP insisted I wait until payday which is 2 weeks away, baring in mind he had just spend 400 on a new gaming set up and spends about 200 every 2 weeks on pints after work.
Aibu to think he's being selfish

Oh doll, you asked an innocent question and got a roasting 😧. Honestly yes he is being selfish but you are being a bit of a mug. You don't sound happy but at the moment you don't want to split. That's ok, but no point brewing resentment, try to roll back on the financial bailing out. Also perhaps take a look at if you are a people pleaser or have low self esteem? Do some self work then decide if he's a keeper.

You need to stop giving more money every month and start to saving it in an account he doesn't know about. A running away fund if you like!!

I agree.

They do exist. I have a friend who I'm pretty sure would put up with this exact same treatment. She already puts up with BS i can't comprehend right now. She says she knows it's not right but she doesn't want to start her life all over again and who else would want her. She suffers from low self esteem. I've advised her so much over the years but eventually had to give up

Absolutely this.

@kiana2015
Mate, if you want to stay with him then he needs to stop drinking every night.
£100 a week on booze is not a good thing. When I got with my DP I had no idea he drank every day. Then I found out that when he was with his ex, he would drink a litre of vodka a day (for a very long time) and if he went to the pub he'd have whatever there too. I had no idea he had become an alcoholic.
"But it's only two cans a night", he'd say to me. So I told him how he is still damaging his liver and before he drank because he was unhappy (depressed) but he was happy now; life is good now. So he cut down and then stopped the week drinking.
DP only drinks at the weekend now, 4 beers Friday, Saturday and Sunday.
Your DP has to contribute to the daily life of you and the DC you have together; food, child expenses.
The unnecessary spending has to stop.
It's no good you bailing him out all the time. That will never change.
Good luck

You have no boundaries. What the heck are you teaching your DD about relationships? That a female has to be the one to step up and be the responsible adult while a male can opt out and be a perpetual child. Your poor DD.

Listen to Katy Perry's "Roar". Maybe it will give you some insight because you certainly don't have any right now.