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Spaghetti is the default pasta

400 replies

RawBloomers · 26/01/2025 20:44

My DH asked me what I’d like to eat and I said pasta and pasta sauce. I was picturing spaghetti with a lovely tomato and basil sauce, generously sprinkled with black pepper and parmesan. This is also DC1’s favourite meal.

Spaghetti is the default pasta and should be assumed if no particular type of pasta is mentioned. AIBU?

He has made a mix of penne pasta and macaroni. And put sausage in the sauce. I want to pout and stamp my feet like a four year old. (I have not I have thanked him and told him how lovely he is).

There is plenty of spaghetti in the cupboard. We only have penne in because they had no spaghetti in the shop once, months ago. We only have macaroni in because DC2 likes mac&cheese and I make it - for them alone - from time to time. He made this penne/macaroni monstrosity for me and DC1 as DC2 has already eaten and he had something different. He and all right thinking people should know better, right?

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roibustea · 26/01/2025 21:32

No, spaghetti is spaghetti. If I asked for pasta and received spaghetti, I'd be confused. Pasta is be fusilli, spirali, conchiglie, farfalle... Not macaroni though, macaroni is macaroni. And tagliatelle is tagliatelle.

PsychoHotSauce · 26/01/2025 21:33

Sparklfairy · 26/01/2025 20:49

"Whenever you snap pasta in half, there's an Italian fairy somewhere that falls right down dead."

I'm sure I read that in Peter Pan.

Grin
Astrabees · 26/01/2025 21:33

Penne here too.

Blondeshavemorefun · 26/01/2025 21:33

WhySoManySocks · 26/01/2025 21:23

Different pasta works with different sauces, because the texture of the sauce needs to work with the shape of the pasta to create the optimal stickiness. For example, bolognese sauce should never go with spaghetti.

Sausage meet in pasta is lovely. It would probably work with penne.

Mixing two pasta shapes is unacceptable under any circumstances. You have my blessing, if you need it, to LTB.

Yet a main well known meal is spag bol

Waffle19 · 26/01/2025 21:33

andHelenknowsimmiserablenow · 26/01/2025 21:32

Penne or rigantoni is default here, they hold the sauce lovely- except for with bolognese, or meatballs and sauce, which is always with spaghetti, and I do snap it to get it all in the pan.

Oh I forgot about rigatoni, a great pasta

Doubledded123 · 26/01/2025 21:33

You cannot mix pasta, I am Italian and this is against the law. The vigile will be out and they will find you. My Italian mil would feint if shc read this.

Differentstarts · 26/01/2025 21:33

Penne is our default pasta, anything else gets mentioned by name or shape. Most pastas work for most dishes but I wouldn't be happy about macaroni being used outside macaroni cheese. We also mix sometimes but not through choice only when where low on one

AntigoneFunn · 26/01/2025 21:35

Every day goes by and I think - surely we've run out of things to talk about on MN. And yet here we are.

NotAnotherBirthday · 26/01/2025 21:35

Penne is the default.

Every other type needs to be specified at the request stage.

ItsNotYou852 · 26/01/2025 21:35

what is this strangeness of snapping spaghetti? i've practically stopped buying it since you can't get proper long spaghetti any more!

APushbikeNamedReluctance · 26/01/2025 21:35

Sugargliderwombat · 26/01/2025 21:28

Penne and spaghetti are both disgusting. Rigatoni is the default pasta.

Who the hell mixes pasta?!!!

Psychopaths mix pasta. It's the first thing on the checklist.

AffableApple · 26/01/2025 21:35

VotingForYourself · 26/01/2025 20:47

It's not if you snap it in half.

recoils in Italian

HolyPeaches · 26/01/2025 21:35

Spaghetti is the default pasta and should be assumed if no particular type of pasta is mentioned. AIBU?

If someone offered you some pasta bake would you expect it to be spaghetti used?

poemsandwine · 26/01/2025 21:35

Spaghetti is spaghetti. Penne or Fusilli is pasta in my home.

Magnoliafarm · 26/01/2025 21:36

Why is nobody talking about that you had 3 different meals in your house tonight?! The washing up!!!!!!

HereBeWormholes · 26/01/2025 21:36

I agree with @PrinnyPree :

"Fusilli is our default pasta, (really good at sauce retention)
Spaghetti is spaghetti and only the default for bolognaise or with meat balls.
I like linguine if we're doing a carbonara."

Linguine with cab every time. And farfalle is asking for floppy ends and chewy middles, no one wants that. Penne doesn't hold any sauce.

And conchiglie only holds a horrid pocket of boiling water to burn your lip and dilute your sauce. It's the nasty booby prize of pasta.

Swearwolf · 26/01/2025 21:36

Just need to drop in and say that farfalle are BUTTERFLIES, not bow ties! Good grief!

RawBloomers · 26/01/2025 21:37

BunnyLake · 26/01/2025 21:30

I really hate mixing different pastas so penne and macaroni together wouldn’t be great for me.

I only really use penne (or fusilli) if we’ve run out of spaghetti but i always use them if I’m making tuna pasta.

I would have used spaghetti with your sauce unless I planned on turning it into a pasta bake.

Some sanity. Thank you.

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SushiWarrior · 26/01/2025 21:37

Penne or fusilli is the default surely!
Definitely not spaghetti, although mixing pasta shapes is terrible! lol

justlonelystars · 26/01/2025 21:37

Rigatoni is the default pasta in our house. Holds a pleasing amount of sauce in. Penne is too narrow.

MrsSunshine2b · 26/01/2025 21:37

If someone says pasta, spaghetti is the last type of pasta I expect. If it's spaghetti, I expect them to say spaghetti.

Mixing pasta shapes is sacrilege though.

SecretSoul · 26/01/2025 21:38

RawBloomers · 26/01/2025 21:30

Not weird. Right.

I don't know what all these other posters are smoking.

I'm the same. Although I have to say pappardelle has been a game-changer for me. Like upgraded spaghetti imo 😅

I really like spaghetti (and pappardelle) but I don't really like other types of pasta. I mean, I could eat it if I have to but I don't really enjoy it.

I couldn't explain why but then I read a description somewhere that explained different pastas have a different thickness, and a different sauce-to-pasta ratio and I realised that's the issue for me! Pastas usually feel thick and heavy with more pasta than sauce/cheese etc whereas spaghetti and pappardelle has a better ratio so you get a more flavourful mouthful without having to munch through a load of heavy pasta.

I particularly despise those horrible little penne tubes which are just rigid and thick. Bleurgh.

Might go into hiding now to avoid being annihilated by Italians 👀🫣😅

Scammersarescum · 26/01/2025 21:39

There is no default pasta shape!

Goodness me, i can feel thousands of Nonnas welling up at our collective ignorance 😂

Isittimeformynapyet · 26/01/2025 21:39

eightIsNewNine · 26/01/2025 20:50

Penne is the default pasta in our home.

When we make spaghetti we call them spaghetti, not pasta.

"It". You call it spaghetti.

And quite right too.