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Spaghetti is the default pasta

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RawBloomers · 26/01/2025 20:44

My DH asked me what I’d like to eat and I said pasta and pasta sauce. I was picturing spaghetti with a lovely tomato and basil sauce, generously sprinkled with black pepper and parmesan. This is also DC1’s favourite meal.

Spaghetti is the default pasta and should be assumed if no particular type of pasta is mentioned. AIBU?

He has made a mix of penne pasta and macaroni. And put sausage in the sauce. I want to pout and stamp my feet like a four year old. (I have not I have thanked him and told him how lovely he is).

There is plenty of spaghetti in the cupboard. We only have penne in because they had no spaghetti in the shop once, months ago. We only have macaroni in because DC2 likes mac&cheese and I make it - for them alone - from time to time. He made this penne/macaroni monstrosity for me and DC1 as DC2 has already eaten and he had something different. He and all right thinking people should know better, right?

OP posts:
UpToMyElbowsInDiapers · 28/01/2025 02:28

Sparklfairy · 26/01/2025 20:46

I was about to say 'pasta is pasta' but somehow I have recoiled at the thought of mixing pasta types Shock

This exactly. Everyone knows that fusilli is the default pasta. Any other pasta is forgivable though ill-advised.

But A MIX?! Does he put cream in tea instead of milk? Are we quite sure he isn’t a mass murderer?

EliflurtleAndTheInfiniteMadness · 28/01/2025 02:48

UnhealthyCopingStrategies · 26/01/2025 21:02

YABU - however mixing pasta is also unthinkable!

This. The mixing types is all kinds of wrong.

Default pasta is dinosaur for kids and fusilli tor adults here, can't remember the last time I bought spaghetti or spaghetti type pasta.

RawBloomers · 28/01/2025 02:54

Default pasta is dinosaur

Okay, you got me. IABU. Everyone should get dinosaur pasta! Grin

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DifferentLandscape · 28/01/2025 03:04

TimetoPour · 26/01/2025 21:19

You are both unreasonable. It all depends on the sauce

Bolognese or meatballs = linguine/spaghetti
Pesto = fusilli
Garlic, spinach and pine nut = farfalle
Roasted veg = rigatoni
Duck ragu = pappardelle

Not that I’m fussy or anything!

Hear hear!!

Alaimo · 28/01/2025 03:37

UpToMyElbowsInDiapers · 28/01/2025 02:28

This exactly. Everyone knows that fusilli is the default pasta. Any other pasta is forgivable though ill-advised.

But A MIX?! Does he put cream in tea instead of milk? Are we quite sure he isn’t a mass murderer?

This. Although I might accept a penne - fusili mix. But only in a pasta bake. At least they're a similar size.

sashh · 28/01/2025 04:07

BitOutOfPractice · 27/01/2025 19:16

Of course if you go to Bologna and ask for spaghetti bolognaise, you will be immediately castigated and ostracised as bolognaise sauce is always always served with tagliatelle that must be of a regulation width. So I think that is the law and I declare this thread CLOSED!

That's what Rick Stein said. Then he went to Bologna and an elderly Nona with no English cooked it for him.

In my house the default is tortellini because the 'baskets' make it easy to measure.

marshmallowfinder · 28/01/2025 05:19

It depends on the sauce really, but I'd have preferred spaghetti.

Yabvvvu to call it Mac & Cheese though, unless you're American. It's Macaroni Cheese.

YorhshireTeaIsBest · 28/01/2025 07:47

Mamma mia!
It's spaghetti in this house.

I had a similar reaction last night op when dh said, don't worry you have a nice bath, i'll bake you a potato. He then WhatsApps me a picture sime time later, of a totally black potato asking if he should bake another one & blaming me for turning the oven up too high to warm it up! 🤬

YorhshireTeaIsBest · 28/01/2025 07:48

VotingForYourself · 26/01/2025 20:47

What are those little bows called. They're nice

Farfalle 🎀

WildCherryBlossom · 28/01/2025 11:02

This is the current durum-wheat-based-carbohydrate of choice in our house. Technical term: "fusilli lunghi". I refer to them as telephone cords due to their springy, spiral shape (cue blank stares from the DC who have no idea what a telephone cord is).

Anyway, try them. They are lovely.

Spaghetti is the default pasta
FlappingMadly · 02/02/2025 08:17

I'm team dh. If there's just a little left in a bag I'll chuck it in. If different cooking times I'll just add later. And I smash spaghetti for soup if I have nothing else. And I have a nespresso machine. Are any Italian fairies still alive? I do take care over my tomatoes. I believe! I believe!

SALaw · 02/02/2025 08:36

Penne is default pasta. Spaghetti is far too messy.

Hillarious · 02/02/2025 09:11

There’s no such thing as default pasta. All depends on what the sauce is.

SisterMaryLuke · 02/02/2025 09:35

Penne is the default pasta in our house. I don't know if this has already been answered, but what is the issue with mixing different types? We sometimes mix if there is a small amount left in a bag. Probably wouldn't mix rigatoni with orzo, but can't see the issue with say, penne and fusilli.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 02/02/2025 10:15

SisterMaryLuke · 02/02/2025 09:35

Penne is the default pasta in our house. I don't know if this has already been answered, but what is the issue with mixing different types? We sometimes mix if there is a small amount left in a bag. Probably wouldn't mix rigatoni with orzo, but can't see the issue with say, penne and fusilli.

If you're a person who would buy those bags of multiple types of snacks all mixed together instead of thinking that it's a clever way of flogging off the leftovers and sweepings from the machines, I can see how it wouldn't be an issue for you.

It's the differences in taste and texture that are so wrong IMO. They're just too close to be a defined separate thing but too different to be anything other than an unpleasant distraction - like wearing one sock that's long, thick and fluffy and one that's short, thin and means you have to tie your laces up tighter on one shoe; it just feels wrong.

User1786 · 02/02/2025 10:25

LOL, you are being SO unreasonable!! There are so many types of pasta and some just do not go with certain sauces

SisterMaryLuke · 02/02/2025 10:33

NeverDropYourMoonCup I am not the type of person who buys bags of multiple types of snacks - I've not seen these, but I shall look out for them.

Pasta (to me and my family, as I have just asked) tastes exactly the same whether it is penne, spaghetti, rigatoni. It has the exact same ingredients. Different texture - not sure I agree with this either. But horses for courses I guess, some people are more sensitive to textures.

Halfemptyhalfling · 02/02/2025 10:39

Spaghetti was the default pasta in the1970s when pasta first arrived in the UK. It arrived in Italy with marci polo who had seen Chinese noodles so was the original.However it's very difficult to eat and can make a mess on clothes. Also more tricky to cook as you have to push it into the water. So my least default pasta.

Greypinkskies · 02/02/2025 10:40

Another thread about pasta being the wrong shape? 😕 goodness me. This post scarcity abundance is truly torturous for us

Vermerling · 02/02/2025 11:04

Halfemptyhalfling · 02/02/2025 10:39

Spaghetti was the default pasta in the1970s when pasta first arrived in the UK. It arrived in Italy with marci polo who had seen Chinese noodles so was the original.However it's very difficult to eat and can make a mess on clothes. Also more tricky to cook as you have to push it into the water. So my least default pasta.

Pasta has been in the UK for far longer than that! Mrs Breton has a macaroni and cheese recipe from 1861! (Ok, she specifies you need to boil the pasta for 20 minutes, and half an hour if it’s ’high quality’, but still…)

MadameCholetsDirtySecret · 02/02/2025 11:18

www.delish.com/cooking/g26990388/best-sauce-for-pasta-type/

NeverDropYourMooncup · 02/02/2025 11:31

Halfemptyhalfling · 02/02/2025 10:39

Spaghetti was the default pasta in the1970s when pasta first arrived in the UK. It arrived in Italy with marci polo who had seen Chinese noodles so was the original.However it's very difficult to eat and can make a mess on clothes. Also more tricky to cook as you have to push it into the water. So my least default pasta.

But you just twirl it on your fork - and for cooking, you just give it a twist/flick for the ends to splay out in a starburst shape?

cassie2and2 · 02/02/2025 18:32

recently making lasagne and ran out of sheet pasta so half and half sheet and tagliatelle

OneLemonDog · 02/02/2025 20:20

cassie2and2 · 02/02/2025 18:32

recently making lasagne and ran out of sheet pasta so half and half sheet and tagliatelle

Reported.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 02/02/2025 20:42

OneLemonDog · 02/02/2025 20:20

Reported.

TBF it saves a shed load of slicing doesn't it ?

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