To think bums should be covered in a public pool?

[Whatkatyforgottodo]

I may be being unreasonable and I’m just old and out of touch… took my kids swimming today at our local public pool and there was a lady wearing one of those swimming costumes that is basically a thong at the back? I saw lots of them in the beach during the summer which I kind of understand as it helps you get a very high cut tan/eliminates tan lines but I felt a bit weird seeing one in an indoor pool? Not sure where boundaries lie…? Happy to be told IABU but wondered what others think?

Depends on the bum, I suppose…
Not a look I like, but I hate the judgement that a thong on a bum more aesthetically pleasing to you,is more acceptable to see than a less attractive (in your eyes) bum.

This doesn’t bother me.

I do hate men with hairy builders bums because their trunks are 4 sizes too small though

Whilst I don't really care what people wear, our nearest pool has a shallow bit for kids to play in and you walk through to go to the deeper bit. The thong wearers end up with their bare arses in the kids faces - difficult to explain, but it's grim.
Also can't understand how they are comfier.

"Being naked in public" and "indecent exposure" are two different things.

Being naked in public is generally not an offence, even in England and Wales - it only becomes an offense if it can be proved that the person stripped off with the intention to upset and shock. The complainant has to prove this.

I'm pretty sure those who would rather not see bare arses would say the same if men were also wearing thongs at leisure centres, or indeed if it were a uniquely male fashion instead of uniquely female.

Just been to centre parcs, there was a girl wearing one having a piggy back, while swimming round the rapids. My teenage son nearly got flung face first into her backside, so I just shouted 'careful of that lady's big arse' and she soon moved. Why would anyone want a birds eye view of her arse, mind boggling!

Centre parcs surely isn't the place for thongs, it's full of little kids.

If you don't like what someone is wearing, don't look. You're at the pool, concentrate on yourself/your DC and stop paying so much attention to what other people are doing.

On a related note, reach your DC that it's rude to comment on other people's bodies/clothing. I've raised four DC, including two with zero filter, and they have never commented on how other people look from around the age of 2-3 because it was instilled in them from the first instance that it's not polite to do so.

@DeffoNeedANameChange “How naked is too naked?” is a question that frequently arises as temperatures soar. Naked yoga was seen to be the latest trend at Glastonbury festival this year and research conducted by the British Naturism organisation suggests that more Britons are going naked than ever before. But what are the legal boundaries when it comes to public nudity?

The law -
Firstly, it is not an offence to be naked in public in England and Wales. However, it can become an offence if it can be proven that the naked individual caused harassment, alarm or distress to another person. In the absence of any sexual context and intention to cause alarm and distress – being naked in public is within the law.

https://www.kingsleynapley.co.uk/insights/blogs/criminal-law-blog/public-nudity-staying-within-the-law

Exactly

A thong swimsuit is no less hygienic than standard swimwear.

Now swim nappies, they're unhygienic.

I think thong swimwear in any public area is indecent. Bottoms are a private part. I feel the same way about topless sunbathing.

You think women's bums look like horses bums?
Okay

We are allowed to think they look horrendous on people male or female, they remind me of baboons. This is not personal to you. I think thongs are regressive as only women wear them, and it looks like they are trying to flog their wares rather than simply going for a swim like everyone else.

I associate them with seedy pornography and prostitution. Attention seeking and inappropriate around children.

We are all saying what everyone else is thinking btw.

@ChicLilacSeal You can feel however you feel but you have no right to dictate anyone else's choices other than your own or comment on them.

The law does not agree with you.

It's very murky water though (excuse the pun). If a man were to be naked in a public swimming pool, I would 100% assume it was a sexually motivated power play. See also, men being naked in women's changing rooms.

I guess my real point is that dodgy behaviour should always stand out a mile. And if we as a society keep pushing the boundaries of "socially acceptable", then "socially unacceptable" becomes much harder to prove.

"On a related note, reach your DC that it's rude to comment on other people's bodies/clothing."

It's not commenting on people's bodies, it's kids recognising something that's outside of societal norms. I think it's important that children know what's outside of normal so they can recognise potentially harmful situations. People showing what's usually considered a private part of their body should be okay for children to talk about.

I’m in my twenties but still think it’s disgusting and creepy that woman would wear them to a kids leisure pool.
Imagine the uproar if a man wore a thong speedo there. Most likely would be branded a nonce!

I can guarantee you're not.

Seedy pornography and prostitution? Those are not normal thoughts.

@Yogaatsunrise Again you make assumptions about everyone else.

You can only ever speak for yourself unless you have conducted and published research on the matter. Have you?

It's not outside of societal norms, it's a swimsuit at a swimming pool and it is rude to comment on what other people are wearing/what they look like.

@Beeloux Speedos are absolutely fine swimwear for a man to wear.

I believe in France they are compulsory in some public pools.

Yanbu. It's very uncomfortable when you have kids there or your partner (to a lesser extent). Decent men don't want to be confronted with bum cheeks in a public area. I feel especially sorry for teenage boys.

At our DL spa phones are supposed to be banned but it isn’t enforced. Cameras definitely are banned but it’s not difficult to use your camera while pretending to do something else.

I asked a woman to stop using her camera on a video call in the women’s locker room- all open plan. She looked very irritated by that. I mentioned it at the desk but honestly DL don’t care. All they want is more members and more cash flowing in.

A thong is fine for the beach but I'd prefer not to see arse cheeks at a public pool tbh.

I absolutely agree with this - you've put it better than I did.