Should she replace it? SHE RETURNED IT!

[Langarg]

Goodness me. I can’t believe I am back with an update. After starting the small claims process, look what turned up on my doorstep today! My Dyson Airwrap!!!

I hadn’t heard a single peep from my friend since my last updates on the previous thread.

What a shock I got when I got a notification from my ring doorbell this afternoon saying there was person at my front door. I checked and it was my friend sheepishly dropping a bag on my doorstep!

I was at work and knew I wasn’t going to be home for a few more hours. I sent my neighbour a text message asking her to take it in. I couldn’t wait to get home from work to see what she had dropped off 🤣 was it the original? Was it a brand new replacement? Was it the £150 replacement from Facebook?

When I got home and checked it out it appeared to be my original airwrap. I tested it and it worked just fine (so much for the sister spilling the wine!) and I checked the serial number and it definitely is mine!

What an absolute rollercoaster! I wasn’t sure if I should text my friend acknowledging the eventual return of the airwrap or not?

Link to my original thread for anyone interested who may have missed it… https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5241002-should-she-replace-it?page=40&reply=141090978

I agree OP - I think CF will try and spin this another way with your mutual friends.
You have nothing to hide from or be ashamed of in this situation - I really don't think giving your other mutual friends the heads up on her behaviour is the wrong thing to do.

I would hope she's learned her lesson on taking advantage of people's good will, but your silence on the issue might make her feel emboldened to pull a similar stunt on someone else.

OP, I really don't understand why you didn't tell your other friend what the CF did in detail, otherwise she's likely to try it with others. I think under the circumstances, I think you would be fully justified in warning others of her behaviour, not brushing it under the carpet possibly leaving other friends vulnerable to her sneaky ways.

I agree

@Langarg

I agree. You should have told your friend "X borrowed my hair wrap and when I kept asking for it back she finally said her sister broke it. Of course, I asked her to replace it. Then all of a sudden she dropped it on my doorstep and just left it there. Weird, huh?"

No mention of theft. Your mutual friend can draw their own conclusion.

Got to say op I'd think someone was a bit loopy if they cancelled a lifelong friendship because they didn't return an airwrap for a couple of weeks after their wedding. You might want to drop her in it just a TINY bit so you don't look like you've lost the plot 😂

I also agree with this. I think you leave yourself vulnerable to her spinning a story that makes you look like the bad guy and also leave your friends vulnerable to her taking advantage of them. You have done absolutely nothing wrong in any of this, so you shouldn't be afraid to tell them the truth about what has happened. I think the one thing you could do wrong now is staying silent!

I wouldn’t worry what people think, I lost a long ‘strong’ family relationship due to low morals and excessive lying and manipulation.
that person doesn’t know that I’ve finally realised the extent of their duplicity and has happily spread their version of ’our’ story to family and our many mutual friends.
I am relieved to have that person out of my life , and by association, those who know what this person is like and prefer to believe a known cheat, thief and liar and overlook all of that .
i cba to waste my energy explaining something to people who have already made their minds up about me, life is too short

OP, honestly you do yourself no favour by protecting her.
Send your friend the link from the Daily Mail and let her join the dots.

She's a common thief.
I also would be forwarding to the hotel too.

She blackened their name and staff.

You are protecting the wrong person.

Yeah I too would either tell the whole story or nothing. You
sound a little bit loopy falling out with someone just because they didn’t return a hairdryer for a few weeks!

I agree, it's not "wasting your breath" on a situation, it's making it very clear that it took up to the threat of legal action to get her to return it. Plus all the lies.

Saying you've permanently got rid of a friend because she took a few weeks to return an item and nothing more makes YOU look bad, and I'd be wondering as a friend if you'd chuck ME over something similar.

Especially when she's just married.

Friends will be thinking "well she's been so busy with the wedding, a couple of weeks isn't totally unreasonable to return it, OP has been so harsh dropping her for just that"

Very dignified and mature of you!

She will always be airing on the embarrassing side of caution around your mutuals I feel, wondering if they know of her actions 😂😂

Also, she’s likely to deceive them in similar ways, so it gives them a heads-up