To believe my house is haunted?

[rockpops]

Moved to a new house 2 months ago. Felt lovely and inviting upon viewing and certainly didn’t feel any bad energy.

About a week after moving in things started happening! At 6pm every evening I would hear things, first the dishes being moved around in the sink, then a cupboard poor upstairs being slammed shut, loud bang in bedroom I heard from monitor that make her wake jump and woke her up, then one evening I was on the phone to my mum talking about what’s been happening I said to her “as long as it doesn’t scare me I don’t mind” and right in front of me my daughters baby monitor turned itself on and started beeping loudly like the battery was low but it wasn’t. The monitor wasn’t plugged in or charging and the camera upstairs was turned off! When I looked at the time it was 6.02pm! My blood literally went cold was so scared.

Then my son had left this robot fish toy on my bedside table, it only starts moving in water. I was talking to DP from the bedroom he was in another room and this fish starts flapping. I shouted “oh my god”, it stopped then did one last flap before fully stopping. Again this toy has never just turned itself on and there was no water on the table. Shortly after this I was standing at my sons bedroom door and I could see smoke in his room, I panicked and ran in as was sure there was a fire but then it was gone.

Christmas Eve I was wrapping some last minute presents upstairs and I had my daughters monitor on with white noise in the background so couldn’t hear properly but thought I could hear talking. First I thought it was just the neighbours then I turned the monitor down and realised the TV was on that had been turned off and was playing Maria Kerry all I want for Christmas is you. I was the only one awake and when I tell you I was petrified to go downstairs that is an understatement! So I went down to turn it off with my hairs standing up all over my body and said out loud “Merry Christmas, but you need to leave me alone” then right after I said it one of the presents piled under the tree fell for where it was placed. I froze in absolute terror. We then had family staying for a while so thing went quiet.

After they left one night I hear a noise and had no idea what is what went downstairs there was no noise so checked all the rooms and the shower has turned itself on (slow flowing but still on) but wasn’t turned on at the nob. I stood there staring at it for a while trying to figure it out and turning the non off and on but it wasn’t stopping. I walked out the bathroom to get DP and it stopped. Another time I was in my sons bed with him trying to get him to take an afternoon nap and his box of Lego tipped over on the floor and went all over the floor. It was on top of another box but has never done that and he’s had those boxes for years!

Last night was my scariest experience yet!!! I got up to pee in the night at around 1am went I got back into bed I could hear a a faint giggle and muffled talking very low from the corner of my bedroom next to the window I thought maybe it’s just the neighbours but then the muffled talking moved next to the bedroom door and then I hear a loud bang that made me jump out of my skin right next to my head. When mustered up the courage to look what it was my phone has “fallen” off my bedside table onto the floor and must have hit my daughter’s next to me cot. I was scared stiff in bed then my dog starting barking down stairs and once he starts he goes on and on until someone sees to him so I had to go down even though I was too scared to. I went down tried to settled him in his bed then noticed the TV was on again!! I’ve had this TV for about 10 years it has never ever turned itself on! Apart from these two occasions in this house but never in my old house. Wtf is going on. There is no way all of these are just little coincidences, I tried to explain it away at first but feel like that’s not even possible anymore. What do I do? Do I get a priest in?

Oh there was another occasion where I was trying to fall asleep and heard in the corner of the room a pop like when someone puts their finger cheek and out again to make a pop sound. It was as clear as day I even got up to try and recreate the sound with stuff in the room but I have nothing that could make that sound. My DP doesn’t believe in this type of stuff and it seems like it’s just doing it to me as my son has never said he’s seen or heard anything. I also keep having nightmares.

Any advice? Has anyone dealt with similar?

<Sings> All I Want For Christmas Is Woo.

What's not nice or kind is telling someone who is seeing and hearing things to get a priest or its definitely a ghost instead of telling them to see a doctor to rule out schizophrenia, epilepsy or a brain tumour etc.

When the physical has been safely ruled out then there no harm getting a priest in, burning sage or whatever. But medical attention should come first.

@rainbowstardrops

I get so pissed when I read 'woo' posts and people say ghosts aren't real. Are you mental etc etc. You don't know any more than the next person! Just because you haven't experienced the same things, you simply have no way of knowing for sure.
Even scientists have only scratched the surface of what is possible and what isn't.
Fine if you don't want to believe but it's so incredibly bloody rude to suggest someone should go and get some mental health tests done, or the, 'Of course they don't exist', or 'Get a grip'.

Yes some of the replies on this thread are very rude and totally dismissive of how the OP is feeling. I would bet my hat on it that those jeering at the OP are not sat in a house where strange things are occurring, making them feel unnerved. I suppose anonymous forums bring out the worst in some people.

Anyway - I don’t know if ghosts exist - I suspect not personally but then again I’m not arrogant enough to be absolute about it because I’ve never had the misfortune of experiencing anything out of the ordinary. My parents have however & they are the most down-to-earth, logical and in-woo people I’ve ever known.

Prior to having the kids, they lived in a house which used to be a police station or a police HQ. A long time ago. They said it just had this really unpleasant energy about it & there was one room - a child’s nursery - that they would never use. My mum often said she saw a figure rushing across the balcony above the hallway. She was convinced it was a woman. My dad used to work late shifts to avoid coming back there alone if mum was out for whatever reason. They used to eat out a lot and called time on the place within six months (they were renting at the time.) And this from two people who are self confessed sceptics. But even they couldn’t explain some of the weird stuff that went down in that place.

MN loves putting people in their place.

unloved in a haunted house. It was terrifying and got worse and worse. Luckily we were renting and we could move but for the 18months we were there it was awful.
believe me I tried to chalk it up to everything and a thing but when you exhaust all rational reasons it’s hard to simply be ok with it

I found out that my aunt and uncle instigated a seance in my house at a New Years Eve party as my aunt wanted to contact her dead sister who was quite unhinged and died young from alcoholism. They were too scared to do it in their own house, but for some reason thought they'd take the liberty of doing it in ours! I was a child so asleep in bed at the time, and only found out a few years later when I was 15. My mum didn't want to do it, but felt pushed into it and had had a few drinks so went along with it.

I always remember my childhood being happy and our house having a nice feeling, but when I entered my teen years my dad changed and started drinking heavily and having affairs, and my mum was very unhappy. I've always wondered if it was some kind of malevolent spirit caused by the seance, and still hold bad feeling towards my aunt and uncle today.

“What's not nice or kind is telling someone who is seeing and hearing things to get a priest or its definitely a ghost instead of telling them to see a doctor to rule out schizophrenia, epilepsy or a brain tumour etc.”

I mean this is just becoming beyond ridiculous now. But I’ll add schizophrenia and epilepsy to the list of possibilities 🤔😅 What odd things to say to someone simply questioning if their house is haunted. Like the theory and belief in spirts, ghosts and hauntings are completely unheard of. You don’t have to believe it yourself but don’t try to gaslight someone by saying it’s mental illness or a medial condition.

You would rather believe it's ghosts than a medical condition?

Does it not make sense to rule out the most likely possibilities first?

You seem to think the suggestion it may be illness is somehow an attack on you. It's not.

It is simply far more likely that there is something medically wrong with you than it is that you are being haunted.

What's wrong with ruling out a medical reason before deciding it's ghosts?

Process of elimination. Rule out the most obvious things first.

I believe you OP our house has a presence - walking on the landing at night. Being woken by bottom of bed being shaken. Doors closing for no reason. It does not happen all the time but when it first used to happen I was scared to say the least. It’s nothing bad - but does like to wake you up at night. We have got used to it by now. Sometime’s I smudge the house with sage which helps make the house feel calmer.

@Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast
Saying someone is mentally ill because they have different beliefs than you is gaslighting. It’s ridiculous, rude and is a characteristic of certain personality disorders that are actually mental illness. Is every religious believer mentally ill? As there are more people in the world who follow various religions than there are atheists. My DP doesn’t believe in this stuff but wouldn’t dream of calling me mentally ill or telling me to go see a doctor. The difference is he isn’t a d*ck or gaslighter.

Who's Maria Kerry?!

Mariah Carey

@rockpops

Is every religious believer mentally ill? As there are more people in the world who follow various religions than there are atheists.

Exactly. Good point, well made.

@GutsyShark perhaps you need to explore why someone with a different opinion to you triggers such a belligerent response.

Do you get angry with religious people too?

“No explanation except ghosts” and that’s the flaw in thinking.

You might just as well say “no explanation except the tooth fairy/an invisible pink dragon”. You can’t use something there’s no evidence for, to explain something else you don’t have an explanation for 😂

If someone claimed to see jesus standing in front of them but nobody else sees him then yes I would suggest they rule out physical causes before considering they may be seeing him.

I honestly do not understand what is wrong, mean, unkind or gaslighting by suggesting eliminating medical reasons before turning to spiritual ones.

I absolutely believe that you are telling the truth about what you are seeing and hearing.

That doesn't mean those things are happening.

I was sectioned as a young woman and put on anti psychotics. I 100% saw figures in my room. I heard whispering voices. I truly believed there was a giant orange spider thst wanted to kill me because I had murdered its babies. I'd be doing my hair at the mirror and my face would change and it wasn't my face any more.

A few years later I had my son and had post partum psychosis. I believed that he had died during labour and been replaced by a demon. I saw his face twist into a grotesque leer.

Those things were 100% real to me.

They just weren't objectively real.

You are determined to interpret every suggestion to rule out medical reasons as an attack upon you and this is untrue and unfair.

Suggestions to rule out physical reasons for seeing and hearing things is not insulting. It's a sensible place to start.

I’m not angry about it I just don’t understand why people believe in nonsense. Actually googled explanations for ghosts earlier, some interesting thoughts about it being to do with brain activity while sleeping etc.

Religion is the same, if people want to believe in zombies or that granny didn’t die she went to live with an invisible man in the sky that’s fine. But I dont need to play along with their delusions.

Maybe I’ll change my mind if I burn some sage though.

We didn’t believe in anything spooky until we moved to this house 20 years ago. We live very rurally, no streetlights for miles. One night I thought DH had come to bed as I’d felt him breathing on the back of my neck. I got up for a wee and he was in the lounge watching TV. We’ve also had the duvet pulled off us and small children, including DS when younger, have asked who ‘the man’ is. No rational explanations for any of it so now we try to accept it.

@JustCrow

You can’t use something there’s no evidence for, to explain something else you don’t have an explanation for 😂

Religion?

For people saying the OP must have a mental illness because YOU don't believe in ghosts/spirits whatever, should be ashamed of yourselves. You wouldn't mock someone and say they were mentally ill for going to church every Sunday would you? Because tbh it's pretty much the same!

Sounds bloody creepy OP. I believe in this stuff, my OH is on the fence but more likely to find rational with it which is fine, but he works in an old primary school as a site manager and he's said there's some stuff he can't explain that happens but he would rather not think about it because he's all alone in the school!

My mum's beat friend had a horrible house like this. Children laughing running up and down the landing when no children were there nor next door (plus it was heard on the landing!) doors slamming shut for no reason I could go on. Worst one was her best friends husband died suddenly at 35 and she hadn't done anything with his ashes due to not knowing what to do with them as they hadn't spoken about that type of thing when he was alive, but one evening the urn dropped to the floor when she was getting her baby a bottle and when she walked into the living room (where the ashes were) she said the room felt 'angry' at her and it was such a horrible feeling she bolted up the stairs terrified and didn't come down again til late morning. Was very unlike her as she was a bloody strong, no nonsense woman (think of sister evangeline in call the midwife!) but she got rid of the ashes that day after that happened.

But for some reason it’s ok to believe in a God, or Gods and eternal life after death - but not spirits or ghosts. There’s a flaw in your logic there

I think there are some things that can’t be explained away but some could be dodgy wiring or anppliances etc. I grew up in a ‘haunted’ house and heard some stuff but my mum experienced a lot more things, and she wasn’t mentally ill and there wasn’t carbon monoxide so who knows. Just glad I don’t live there now!

There was a woo story thread on here a while back about haunted places which was an interesting read, one post that always stuck with me was someone posting about living in an apartment block and the neighbour committed suicide and things that happened after including a black pool appearing where he’d done it, it was terrifying but can’t remember the thread.

Apologies if my mental illness post offended. 😂

My line of thinking was that if somebody sincerely claims they were abducted by aliens and now unequivocally believe that we're not alone, it's statistically more likely to be a personal delusion than proof of anything.

Not must

Would be sensible to rule out. Mental and physical. Medical causes.

I'm truly not sure what's controversial about that. It seems a more sensible starting point than ghosts.

Follow your natural instincts and make notes . Also you could leave your phone on record in certain rooms . I have visited houses that are haunted for reasons unknown to the owners . Do your research and leave video camera on or record in the room . You can ask them to speak to you . You can also tell them you are unhappy about their presence and ask them to leave you . Tell them you live there now . They will hear you . Seems like they are wanting your attention . Yes I am a paranormal investigator . Best wishes

There are issues in my house. Ages ago I asked the local minister to visit but she just laughed (which made me feel ridiculous). Then o discovered my house had been mentioned in an academic book about haunting. FFS.