Party bag gate part 2 - enter DH stage left

[JandamiHash]

Original thread https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5252894-child-didnt-get-a-party-bag?page=40&reply=141398805

To all the baked potato loving legends out there who followed my original thread, I couldn’t resist sharing what I think is a rather funny update.

So I’ve been away for a work conference today and didn’t check my phone til 2pm. Amanda had called me again! And messaged to say “Jandami can you call me please when you get the chance so I can find out what to ask this magician?”

I assume she means she wants to find out if I’ll pay for a party bag. So I messaged DH (who is fully invested in the drama) laughing about it. I didn’t reply to her as had to go back in the conference (and still haven’t replied only just got home).

Anyway at pick up, DH was standing in the playground waiting for DS and Amanda sidled up to him and said “Excuse me Neil? Is your wife’s phone broken?” (emphasis on the ‘is’ apparently). He just looked at her, said “No” and walked off to wait at the other side of the playground 😂 the best bit is - his name is not Neil!

I can only assume she’s either micro dosing with hallucinogenics or is genuinely mad. Nobody normal behaves this way.

PS jacket potato with pancetta, cheese, soured cream and chives tonight 🤤

NotNeil is a legend 👏🏽

I have my jacket either covered in cheese or with chilli. Not a fan of things like tuna topping. Too cold on my hot.

Overdoing it now

First day on Mumsnet?

@JandamiHash

Just tell her (as you are clearly such a novice when it comes to children’s parties) that:
In case you forget to reply to any future party invites, that your son will only eat Beluga caviar. Also - please ensure your son is always fully catered for with a personalised party bag. You may or may not come, depending on other commitments.

I’ve really enjoyed your threads @JandamiHash

Can I just ask why you didn’t just tell her to ‘fuck off’?

CF for turning at a party after not rsvp ing then expecting you to immediately accommodate her dietary requests, but also the following day source a party bag.

her last text didn't hold any question marks and why would you want to speak on the phone..

who is doing the school run tomorrow?

Can't believe entitled mother is still on the case.
I do think your DH should have ignored her/asked 'Who's Neil?' but that's only because I'm petty.

I had jacket potato for dinner last night. With ratatouille, peanut butter and hummus. It was vegan but I didn't feel the need to inform the whole neighbourhood, just adapted it to my requirements (I'm dairy intolerant, and veggie).

I have just caught up with the previous thread. My party bag days are years behind me but I have to say I would NEVER have made spare party bags and neither would I have expected anyone else to. Apart from anything, party bags already stretched my meagre budget to the limit.

I can only assume that all the people on the previous thread insisting that 'everyone' makes up spare party bags are CFs who regularly gatecrash parties with their kids and don't want them to miss out.

Tip for older kids: for my DD's eleventh birthday I didn't bother with party bags but instead bought each child one of those mega (c.350g) bars of Dairy Milk. They were a wild success - the talk of the playground the following Monday.

A little off topic… (and completely lighthearted) Pancetta, cheese and sour cream… sounds delicious….(adding ingredients to shopping list) … But OP… it’s not vegan… what if James had been brought over unexpectedly for lunch… poor mite would just be having potato and chives…. Amanda would definitely have something to say about that… perhaps it would be okay if you wrote his name on the polystyrene carton with a sharpie… so he could take it with him… 🤣🤣 just catching up on threads 1 and 2… OP I am completely with you… I can not believe the audacity of that woman… and her persistence…

What in the Hesten Blumenthal is that kind of topping (I might try it actually!)

Just read through both threads and OP, I love you. So funny and not willing to be guilt tripped into making up for her error.

Good on ya!

Oh and I like jacket potato tapas. Cut into quarters with four different toppings

She’ll go up in my estimation if she has done this.

"Wazzock"! Haven't heard that for years, haha!

These kind of posts are the gift that keep on giving. Genius!

Big up to your DH for absolutely investing.
And Amanda isn’t derogatory it’s referring to a fictional character who is an entitled arsehole.
Is your wife’s phone broken? Clearly on-the-cadge-Mand has sod all to do with her day.
All she had to do was contact the magician and ask could he make up a personalised party bag? Not knowing our Mand, but sensing a future customer, he might have knocked on up as a goodwill gesture.
Do these people have any boundaries? Any sense of embarrassment? No idea that real people have busy lives.
James has probably moved on by now but his mother is not going to let this one lie…

Just had a quick read of your previous thread. You and your husband sound amazing. Some of the other posters, though, wow 👀

Late to the thread but totally seeing your point of view! Everyone else who has stuck up for Amanda has probably exhibited some Amanda type behaviour.

Yes!

1. cheese and beans
2. bacon and cheese
3. tuna and sweetcorn
4. cheese and coleslaw

Eat 1) first as it’s hot. Oops I think I eat too much cheese!

By the way - worst filling: prawns marie rose - the prawns go a bit lukewarm and probably poison you 🤢

The audacity of some people - fortunately the school / social circles my kids networked with meant we avoided the likes of her !
Happy meal at McDonalds sufficed :)
In February, there is a spin off of Motherland called Amanda land !

You have to say what the toppings might be

Tbh, I would apologise to the child. Probably while his mother was right beside him.
"Hello James. I'm really sorry you didn't receive a party bag but your mother did not reply to your invite so we thought you didn't want to come/were busy elsewhere.
I hope in future your mother will reply so that you are included if you want to attend parties!"

That way the child knows it's nothing he did!

BTW, did she supply him with a gift to bring for the party boy?

Mixed together???