Party bag gate part 2 - enter DH stage left

[JandamiHash]

Original thread https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5252894-child-didnt-get-a-party-bag?page=40&reply=141398805

To all the baked potato loving legends out there who followed my original thread, I couldn’t resist sharing what I think is a rather funny update.

So I’ve been away for a work conference today and didn’t check my phone til 2pm. Amanda had called me again! And messaged to say “Jandami can you call me please when you get the chance so I can find out what to ask this magician?”

I assume she means she wants to find out if I’ll pay for a party bag. So I messaged DH (who is fully invested in the drama) laughing about it. I didn’t reply to her as had to go back in the conference (and still haven’t replied only just got home).

Anyway at pick up, DH was standing in the playground waiting for DS and Amanda sidled up to him and said “Excuse me Neil? Is your wife’s phone broken?” (emphasis on the ‘is’ apparently). He just looked at her, said “No” and walked off to wait at the other side of the playground 😂 the best bit is - his name is not Neil!

I can only assume she’s either micro dosing with hallucinogenics or is genuinely mad. Nobody normal behaves this way.

PS jacket potato with pancetta, cheese, soured cream and chives tonight 🤤

Thanks to everyone for the Motherland mentions - I'll be watching it on iPlayer tonight. Hope it's as funny as you all say.

😂

“Is your wife’s phone broken?”
”No, Amanda. I think she’s probably just ignoring you.”

I think you have missed out. Nothing is against Amanda as a person. It's all about her CF entitled behaviour. We have all had people like that exploiting us. Yes, exploiting because we are too Nice and well-behaved to call them out on it. So OP has got the hero status as a role model how to deal with these people who just think that the red carpet should roll out as soon as they are in the vicinity. So this is not a mean girl conspiracy, quite the contrary : how nice girls can deal with entitled CF.

Amanda was chosen randomly (I suppose) as a synonym by the OP. Never seen Amanda figuring before in this context. Gives me Melrose Place vibes which surely gives my age away😅

it's not a "derogatory term" its a light hearted reference to a popular tv show that is relevant and funny in this particular situation

i take it your name is amanda😂

Pseudonym not synonym. Sorry been helping DS with his homework...

Crikey. I’ve just read the first thread and some people are really “why won’t you think about the children!!!!”

The last party I had, we did it at soft play. The kids could order what they want, and instead of party bags, I handed out sweet cones. I didn’t order any spare just in case a sibling turned up or what not. In the end, I actually had one left over cos someone didn’t come, so I handed it to a sibling who had come with her mum to drop off but didn’t stay.

I wouldn’t have ordered extras just in case. Just like I wouldn’t have forked out for vegan, gluten free or dairy free items if the children that have RSVP that they are fine with everything.

James’s mum is cheeky fucker especially only giving a cheap shitty present

Amanda is a character in a programme called Motherland, she’s very OTT - it’s well worth a watch!

Neil. The Husband.

Ooh perhaps!

Apparently Jandami Hash is not a curry. Imagine my disappointment!

I think that the magician is the one to blame here. He should have provided @JandamiHash with a crystal ball, so she could have foreseen that James would be at the party. What sort of fake magician couldn’t predict the future for the OP? 😉😉😂😂

It’s starting to think like it’s made up tbh.

TBH I think if you spend your life being a dickhead you should expect to be talked about. I’ve no doubt (in fact I know) she’s put other people through soul destroying experiences, who have done absolutely nothing wrong.

Maybe I’m just extra hardened in life but I think piss takers stay piss takers because people are too worried scared or intimidated to do anything but pander to it (understandable, we’ve all been there) and it won’t harm for them to be made aware of their behaviour now and again

@incandescentglow
No, I'm not an Amanda.

I just don't understand the double standards.
I am in the minority on MN that doesn't get outraged by 'Karen' so I'm really not bothered by the term.

i want to hear your stories!

I think it’d be interesting to hear a few whilst we wait for Amanda to make her next move. I’m pretty sure she is going to do something, my guess is turn up on OP’s doorstep with James crying dressed as Harry Potter 😂.

Fully agree with this. If she reads it, maybe she will reflect on how her behaviour is going to hamper her son's social development and opportunities.

Fuck around and find out, basically.

It’s describing a character from Motherland which I made clear in my last OP. The same way people have used for example “Dudley” to describe a brattish child

It’s brilliant - watch the pilot it’s probably the best episode, and the swimming pool party one!

People like that have the sensitivity of a toilet seat.

Further more, she's fucking around and she's finding out, as far as I am concerned. Walking off with the pizza that OP paid for is bad enough, but hounding her about the party bag when it's the grown woman's own fault her kid was disappointed is obnoxious, rude, entitled and crass. Reacting to that is not "mean-spirited." Nor is discussing it openly.

are you sure.... you seem a tad bothered

Quite, it's just putting a name to an archetype as shorthand.

I can't believe she's still chasing you.

On a separate note, excellent baked potato topping!

It’s not double standards, it’s a pseudonym that only refers to a specific person in this situation. Not a stereotype of women who act a certain way (rightly or wrongly, depending).
I see other posters beat me to it!

This is actually hilarious. Will make my commute home very entertaining reading these comments.
She must have so much time in her hands and a screw loose.