Party bag gate part 2 - enter DH stage left

[JandamiHash]

Original thread https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5252894-child-didnt-get-a-party-bag?page=40&reply=141398805

To all the baked potato loving legends out there who followed my original thread, I couldn’t resist sharing what I think is a rather funny update.

So I’ve been away for a work conference today and didn’t check my phone til 2pm. Amanda had called me again! And messaged to say “Jandami can you call me please when you get the chance so I can find out what to ask this magician?”

I assume she means she wants to find out if I’ll pay for a party bag. So I messaged DH (who is fully invested in the drama) laughing about it. I didn’t reply to her as had to go back in the conference (and still haven’t replied only just got home).

Anyway at pick up, DH was standing in the playground waiting for DS and Amanda sidled up to him and said “Excuse me Neil? Is your wife’s phone broken?” (emphasis on the ‘is’ apparently). He just looked at her, said “No” and walked off to wait at the other side of the playground 😂 the best bit is - his name is not Neil!

I can only assume she’s either micro dosing with hallucinogenics or is genuinely mad. Nobody normal behaves this way.

PS jacket potato with pancetta, cheese, soured cream and chives tonight 🤤

Anyway, my takeaway is to be less 'inclusive' of the difficult children and their families in the future - will save a lot of hassle.

I think there has to be something about the high number of women who get diagnosed with chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia, POS, autoimmune conditions etc. etc. and the high number of women who feel they have to be nice to the Amandas of the world. I bet the naturally Neils of the world don't get as chronically ill.

I guess some people just think once you become a Mum you need to be a never ending pit of selfless giving (i.e. a doormat) with zero expectation at all of any kindness or even basic respect in return.

Well fuck that shit.

İt's also interesting that OP's son has two parents, and no one has made a single comment saying it should have been Neil to equally accommodate James' party bag.

Another new thread is needed here.
A baked potato without either butter or melted cheese? Is this a baked potato as we know it?

I somehow missed all this when it was first posted, and just having a scroll now. You really have attracted some absolute grade A batshitters haven't you OP?

I want, with all my heart, the BBC to commission a TV version of party bag gate starring Lucy Punch in her Amanda role and Ruth Jones as the OP in Nessa mode. Perhaps they could do it for Children in Need (of a party bag) 😁

OP ignore the people who clearly behave like this every day and don’t like being called out on it wish to disagree. You, and now your DH, are my heroes.
And my DH is grumpy, has little charm and would have told Amanda to fuck off in front of the whole school and I’d still rather be with him than the entitled twats some posters are married to.

No, it is an abomination in the sight of the Lord.

See also decaf coffee.

Current time: nearly 1 pm.
Just waiting for a school pick-up report. Not long to go!

Well, I watched the pilot & 2 ep's of Motherland last night & enjoyed them even though I haven't suffered through school runs & parties myself - I'd imagine it's even funnier if you have. I'll be watching the rest of them.

I loved the bits with Julia's husband, which are exactly like a recent MN thread in which OP's 'D'H said Saturday was HIS day (footy coaching & drinking with his mates) & Sunday he was doing DIY for a friend - oh, & coming home from work early didn't mean he'd look after their son while she had a bath.

In fact, the whole thing was like a sort of televised MN. I did recognise types I've known IRL, too, including an Amanda. I'm glad they made her naff instead of perfect.

@MyrtleLion , some pages back, made a good point about Amanda's son being embarrassed by her or fed up with her - even though OP said she thought not. Sometimes kids don't (fully) see it, but sometimes they do but they try to cover it up or deny it for their own self-protection. I wonder how things will be when he grows up. I mean Amanda HAS to be a nightmare MIL-in-waiting, doesn't she?

My contribution to the baked potato recipes is peppered mackerel (Tesco do a great little tin of them - pic attached because it's so pretty). With butter & cheddar on the spud, of course.

He'll probably see it. I have spent nearly 45 years being mortified by my dad, much as I adore him. He'd never pull this kind of stunt, but with what we know now, is clearly autistic, and as a kid, I was aware he'd open his mouth and insert his foot given half a chance. Never demanding though. Just weapons grade embarrassing, and he enjoys being so.

The kid will see that Amanda is not behaving 'normally'.

I'm so glad you have started a second thread! What a looney tune Amanda The Alpha Mum is! I bet you ignoring her is driving her even more mad. Ha ha! I wonder how long she intends to keep this going!

Here is my suggestion for jacket potatoes. Buy at least twenty and fill them with various meat, vegan, vegetarian, gluten free, dairy free and halal options in case anyone happens to turn up for dinner at the point you eat yours. Party bags of discarded potato skins and potato 'eyes' to be provided at your discretion. 😉 😀

@JandamiHash have you got an allotment? Bit of a drip feed.

I blame the magician. His magic should have told him that Amanda hadn't RSVP'd and that James was a vegan. He should have waved his magic wand the minute she walked in and conjured up an extra personalised bag and a vegan pizza

Amanda sounds like an entitled fking loon. Glad you stood your ground. I detest people who go through life taking advantage of others kindness.

Your genius knows no bounds 😁

Agree. Also it's quite hypocritical of MH users to criticise other people for....using MN. Maybe they should contact Justine Roberts and ask her (nicely, of course) to take down the whole site as it's so mean.

Firstly you sound like a kind and thoughtful mum. Secondly I had to reread a post reply on your earlier thread where Livinglavidababyshower refers to you as hateful white woman hiding beneath suntans etc. this thread shows that there are a lot of mean spirited jealous women out there but you are definitely not one of them you are generous and kind and I hope your little boy has a lovely year,

Same! I always miss the good stuff

Ime the only people who hate those who stand up for themselves and refuse to be taken advantage of more than CFs are doormats who let everyone walk over them and hate being reminded you don't actually have to be like that.

Again, just in my experience.

I can’t remember which posters/s have said that James is suffering due to the lack of a party bag - but my jaw hit the floor when I read it! Surely it is, at worst, a disappointment and he’s a bit sad - and Amanda has been told how to alleviate this small disappointment.

Some people need to get a sense of proportion. If I recall correctly, @JandamiHash‘s son has a medical condition that causes him real pain and suffering, but she is supposed to focus all her kindness and care on sorting out James’ mild disappointment. Sod that for a game of soldiers!

Did you think my text was rude?

How do you respond to rude texts?

I haven’t responded beyond one text message and don’t intend to

I live and work in York, i'd expect it here now sadly 😦