What do you practically do if your adult child wants to live at home but cannot find a job

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This really; let's say you have an adult daughter who is mentally capable and is going into her 20s but does not know how to find a job. Let's say you don't mind her living with you, but does she need to apply for a benefit or ?

It is a question really.

Yes if she has no income then she would need to apply for universal credit and pay you some of it for board unless you are happy to keep her. If she claimed Uc they would expect her to job search for 35 hours a week assuming she has not health conditions preventing her from doing so. they may also be able to give help with CV writing or direct her to courses to boost the chances of her finding employment.

I’d insist that she has to get a full time job. It’s a condition of living with you. Waitress, shop work, McDonalds. Anything.

If she doesn’t work from the start it becomes a slippery slope. And she may lose (or never find, if she doesn’t already have it) a work ethic that she needs to live in society.

Why can’t she get a job?

Why is she 20 and doesn't know how to get a job?

UC is for people in between jobs, If she claims then she can give you money towards food/bills, and be able to buy clothing etc for herself.
Hopefully she wont be on it for long.

Yes, if they live at home she claims UC and gives you rent.

It's a hypothetical question for now, what is the best practical decision for you as a mother if you don't mind the grown child living with you , the reason could be anything ...

They need to be doing something. Either working or at college.

Id be supporting her to get a job. Any job.

Thank you

She needs to find a job - she can claim UC but she'll need to attend regular appointments and spend 35h a week job searching.

You need to help her build some resilience if she doesn't know where to start - it can be soul destroying to get rejection after rejection and chances are she'll need to send 100s of applications out. Gone are the days of walking into a job with no experience!

Mine doesn’t .. she’s 18, and will be 19 this year. Looking for an apprenticeship / job. She does have a few hours on a zero hours contract, and I pick up thr cost if anything else.

She won’t be applying for UC .. I don’t want some DWP worker pressuring her.

Obviously ideally she needs a job, but if that isn't going to happen then yes apply for UC. I would be taking a lot of it off her though bc you want to incentivise her to look for work.

Or maybe you don't, I don't know.

This means you cover her needs...yes?

The reason she doesnt know how to find a job matters, even with a hypothetical.

Learning difficulties? Mental Illness?

Or no one has shown her how to use indeed?

Cant answer personally without knowing WHY she doesnt know how to find a job. It changes everything.

Just let's say there is turbulence with keeping jobs

Sorry but why/how doesn't she know how to apply for a job?

Not sure this is doing her any favours
if you have to take this approach I’d definitely make it time limited

Do you have this situation or you’re just making it up?

No, I'm asking on behalf of someone who isn't very rich but loves the child being home. Turbulence in keeping a job.

Either college, work, apprenticeship, voluntary work in an areas she’s interested in or benefits. Or a combination of these.

Thank you

She doesn’t need to apply for uc she needs to work! At 20 she would have been shown how to do this at school, college, by a respectable adult in her life surely.

I would be offering lots of ideas and support to help her work out her next move. Lots of research to give her lots of different possible options. Advice to apply for loads of different things as there are always likely to lots of rejections. I really struggled as this age as I was an adult and so was left to figure it all out myself. In contrast i have really supported DS and as a result he has been much more successful.

If I had a child in their 20's who was mentally capable but literally "does not know how to find a job" I'd probably feel like I'd gone wrong somewhere as a parent.

I really don't understand how anyone "does not know how to find a job".

Does she think she just has to sit at home and her phone will ring one day and it'll be someone offering her a job?

They definitely need to do something. I would get them to claim UC and support them with job searches ir apprenticeships