To not want to sit and watch YouTubers all night?

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Been at work all day cooked put the DS to bed who is a pain for bedtime takes me a good 45 minutes to get him to sleep. Finally come downstairs to relax and have a cuppa DH is watching his fav YouTubers one after eachother. Really cringy childish stuff I can’t stand it. Had a huge argument about it and he’s gone upstairs in a huff and kicked the bin over!!

Am I supposed to just go along with what he wants.

It depends what you watch on YouTube, but in many ways it is no different from any tv channel.

There are some brilliant podcasts that are as good (or better) than mainstream tv or radio programmes, with just as good production values. The Rest is History, for example, if you enjoy history, with a huge following.

There is some quality stuff on YouTube, but I also can't stand "YouTubers" just listening to people go on and on. I don't let my children watch it because I think it's mind porridge but I don't tell my husband not to, I just go sit in the other room. Or ask him "hey do you want to watch ---- together" if you want to spend time with him.

Do you listen to any talk radio? Because that's basically all a podcast is.

I think we should use this thread to recommend all the good stuff on YouTube.

I nominate JCS Criminal Psychology channel. Someone has also uploaded all of the Ricky Gervais Show cartoon series.

Oo I did listen to James obrien when I used to work - loved mystery hour but didn't like anything else on lbc

Oh okay - they have hey duggee and a compilation of Mr tumbles songs, I know that much 😄

My DH watches middle aged men talking about fantasy golf. It's not even real golf!

I've found I just do something else now and he misses out.

Nope I generally tend to switch off from "all talk" programs. Prefer music on radio or narration over something visual on tv / youtube.

I mean technically it's demonstrably not for kids as you have to be 13 to use it unsupervised according to the TOS.

I watch loads of science, cooking, news and history stuff on there, very narrow view you have if you think it's just for "kids and makeup".

Im fine with having a narrow view on the various uses of YouTube 😄

It feels icky honestly because i only ever used it as a teen so it doesn't seem age appropriate for a grown up but I accept that there's more to it

It feels icky honestly because i only ever used it as a teen so it doesn't seem age appropriate for a grown up but I accept that there's more to it

This is such a strange thing to say. It's just a media platform. There are millions of things on there.

It also has lots of audio books, including Terry Pratchet 😍 it's like any other media source, has plenty of mindless crap (from my definition of mindless crap, of course!) and plenty of good content. I don't want to watch everything that's on BBC iplayer either, though it has lots I do want to watch.

Another thread that makes me so glad not to be married any more.

Imho, what you are watching on which channel, or the device you are watching it on, is not the issue really.

It’s just difficult sometimes as a married couple to communicate about how each of you want to spend your down time together.

Some couples let life flow spontaneously. Others prefer a more curated approach. And many of us have a mix of both.

It’s very easy to get in to the habit of making an effort for children, family and friends and others in your life, such as colleagues, while you and your spouse fall in to a familiar pattern of unsatisfying low level interaction eg watching telly or You Tube together. Blokes are particularly bad at this sometimes I think.

If you are feeling slightly disconnected from one another, or you are very different in your approach to down time, it can lead to problems over time.

I think it’s particularly important when you have young dc to properly connect with each other every three or four days by going out on a walk, or agreeing to eat a meal and watch a film together or just go out for a coffee, or just get in to the habit of having a drink together and discussing the day before any devices go on.

So I am voting that you are both being unreasonable op. Your dh for just selfishly doing what he wants as though you are not in the room. And you for getting in a huff and not discussing this issue with him and suggesting that you agree to do things differently.

It’s probably not so much the choice of channel that angered you, it’s that you felt ignored and disrespected in your own home maybe? And that you weren’t consulted?

😄😄 okay I'm willing to die on this hill

Watching YouTube as a grown man is icky! Watch a proper show on a proper streaming platform!

You couldn't have watched something else on laptop with headphones? I love YT, though. So much I pay for it. The anti-mlm channels run on loop when I do boring chores.

Watch a proper show on a proper streaming platform!

Ok 🤷🏻‍♀️ You die on that hill and I'll crack on watching documentaries, enjoying gems from the BBC archive, following Dean and Nala's adventures round the world on 1bike1world, and discovering new music on NPR's Tiny Desk Sessions.

I'll also thank YouTube for most of our home renovations as my handy husband used YouTube tutorials to help him with everything from tiling, to plumbing, to carpentry. Hardly ick.

You have a projector?!

I have no TV either and mostly watch YT and Amazon Prime. That sounds ideal. Is it an old style projector?

If he's watching something you don't like, either say you'd like to watch something together or go upstairs and watch something on your iPad or whatever. I don't see the big deal. I can't stand YouTubers, my DH isn't into them but he sometimes watches sport on tv which I hate so I just leave him to it, it's his house too.

This is a very dramatic overreaction to my lighthearted comments 🙄

I've said that YouTube for diy is great too and I've used it for that

Please try to relax.

And yes, I'm standing by my icks 🥰

I would have taken myself to bed and watched what I wanted on my kindle! But if you want to relax in the living room, you could have reached a compromise - maybe 1/2 hour of his YouTube crap and then you get to choose something else to watch?

I'm not sure how watching YouTube is any different to anything else he might have been watching on tv. Couples often have different tastes in programming, and there's always an element of compromise or turn-taking.

He shouldn't have gone into a huff, but it's annoying when someone complains about your choice of entertainment and interrupts when you are enjoying something. The two of you just need to come to an understanding about what happens when you want to watch different things at the same time. Sharing your toys isn't just for kids.

OP... why is your husband behaving aggressively when you ask him to watch something else (which I assume you both enjoy)?

There is so much more to it. I watched a video earlier today that showed how to take apart my shower drain. Loads of educational stuff on there. I use it loads and I'm a middle aged woman.