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Tony Blair says we need a national conversation about MH as its costing too much

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B0xes · 14/01/2025 11:55

Tony Blair said recently on Jimmy's Jobs of the Future Podcast (clip available on youtube) that we need to have a national conversation about mental health. Why are we spending so much on it. Why are people self diagnosing. He believes people are being encouraged to view everyday challenges we all face as mental health issues.

Is he being unreasonable? In one sense, I'm inclined to agree to an extent, in the other, I believe he led the charge for so many of the social changes that have made us less resilient and many of these issues are due to individualism which led to atomisation and loneliness and being encouraged to see the market as the entity that fulfills our needs rather than strong families and robust social networks.

YABU - Blair can do one.

YANBU - He might have a point

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Maia77 · 14/01/2025 13:16

Blair can do one. Young people are much worse off than their parents were at their age. Can't buy property, can't save money etc. The future is very bleak for young people. There are so many expectations and young people want to do well and 'succeed' but the systems is rigged and they feel like a failure. Until we address the growing wealth inequality, things won't get better and MH of young people and not so young people will continue to deteriorate.

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 14/01/2025 13:17

biscuitsandbooks · 14/01/2025 12:17

I agree with this.

The NHS is on its' knees though and there's practically no support for people with MH issues other than tablets. I'm having to pay £50 a week for private therapy as what I need has a waiting list of over two years 🤷‍♀️

I'm also on a waiting list for an autism assessment but my doctor was pretty clear that all we could do in the meantime was "try medication" to help with the MH issues I'm having as a result of being undiagnosed and still having to work to feed myself.

He's also not actually able to diagnose me with autism himself as he's not a psychiatrist, so even though he's certain that I have it, I still have to sit on a waiting list for months in order to be formally assessed.

The whole system needs fixing if you really want to tackle mental health.

So what will happen if you are officially diagnosed as having autism. Will you then be able to stop work?

Hurrayakitten · 14/01/2025 13:17

How do you propose people get a diagnosis if the NHS is on its knees. I have s DC with severe MH issues, most likely due to undiagnosed ASD and needs not met (school etc) but the waiting list for an assessment is locally about 6 years?

LlynTegid · 14/01/2025 13:18

RoseChinaMug · 14/01/2025 12:58

Loathe Blair the billionaire, and he should never be allowed back .

We’ve all said this for ages, I worked with a government group who were all saying Mental Health is the new bad back…

They know, it’s just how to deal with it .

I think you are broadly correct. My other thought is that with physical health, you seek treatment as much as possible. The same does not appear to be the case with mental health.

As for Mr Blair, the changes he made that led to 'where there's blame there's a claim' I think helped create a climate whereby it is always someone else's fault, not personal responsibility.

BIossomtoes · 14/01/2025 13:18

anniegun · 14/01/2025 13:08

Amazing how Alzheimer rates have risen by a similar rate to serious mental health issues and no-one says that those people should just accept that being forgetful is normal and they should just get on with life

The reason for that is because people are living longer and the clue to the difference is in the name. It’s a disease caused by physical changes in the brain. If you think it’s “being forgetful” you’ve clearly been fortunate enough never to be in close proximity to it.

TheoTurkey · 14/01/2025 13:19

CaptainCabinetsTrappedInCabinets · 14/01/2025 12:20

No, but it is a skill that can be learned. Like any other.

I completely agree, but you have to WANT to, and it doesn’t seem as though people do

reluctantbrit · 14/01/2025 13:19

minipie · 14/01/2025 12:04

It depends on what this conversation will cover.

If it will be about what’s causing the current MH issues and what we can do about it - for example, rein in social media, encourage face to face socialising and exercise - then that might be useful.

If it’s going to be people without MH issues telling people with that they need to buck up as they’re costing too much - not helpful.

This. There is no point in telling my ASD/ADHD teen to buckle up and that her reasonable adjustment in school and uni are costing to much.

Ensuring that she has the opportunity and means to learn how to live with being ND so that she will be able to have a job, earn enough, to be a "valuable member of society" - that is useful
And that currently is not available on the NHS but 100% funded by us.

biscuitsandbooks · 14/01/2025 13:20

I honestly don't know why I post on these threads. So many people haven't got a clue about genuine mental health problems and clearly think we're all lazy piss-takers 🙄

Pickle2828 · 14/01/2025 13:20

biscuitsandbooks · 14/01/2025 12:07

As someone with multiple, diagnosed MH issues and who is currently on the pathway to being diagnosed with autism, he can fuck off, quite frankly.

Maybe we should look at why so many people are struggling and why they seem to want to totally opt out of modern life and look at changing those issues instead.

@biscuitsandbooks I think you might be mistaking the angle he is coming from here…Some people have long lasting and very valid mental health problems. It sounds as though you probably fall into this category. Some other other people (I would guess a larger proportion) claim to have mental health issues however he is suggesting these are not equally valid and are more like normal uncomfortable feelings rather than MH disorder. The first group of people (like you) are undermined my the second group of people, at the detriment of wider society.

justteanbiscuits · 14/01/2025 13:21

We do need a massive conversation about mental health. About why the funding is so appalling. About why people need to self diagnose. If people think waiting lists in acute care are bad, they are nothing compared to mental health, especially CAMHS.

We have a much greater understanding of mental health now, which is amazing, but we need to find a way to get people the help they need.

LaMarschallin · 14/01/2025 13:21

It is costing too much.
If people can't work due to their poor mental health then they have to rely on benefits from the state which come from working people's taxes.
If fewer people are working because they have poor mental health, there is very little tax revenue.
So, don't work if you really feel you can't, but there won't be much money available as benefits to you.

thatsalad · 14/01/2025 13:21

SneakyLilNameChange · 14/01/2025 13:05

I completely agree with him. Thousands and thousands of otherwise well people who are being paid PIP to not work due to anxiety is completely unsustainable. So many jobs are wfh now and the amount of support employers put in place for staff is huge compared to the past. To an extent we need to encourage people to stop naval gazing and get on with things.

Wfh jobs are a great idea for people suffering from MH issues. However, everyone wants a wfh job these days, which makes it very difficult to get one, and people who suffer from anxiety and depression are not going to be great at interviews, because of their issues. So it's a closed circle of the reason you would benefit from working from home is exactly what makes it harder for you to get a wfh job.

bestcatlife · 14/01/2025 13:22

@Quercus30 👏 👏 agreed.

Mischance · 14/01/2025 13:22

The idea that we might be sending too much on mental health is laughable - round here people wait months/years for treatment and then there is only one on offer - CBT or nothing!

Resilience is the latest buzz word - I am always wary of these.

I do however agree that people online and elsewhere re very quick to label people with mental health diagnoses - especially people they do not like! The world is apparently now full of narcissists!

But people will start looking for their own diagnoses when they are ill if services to make proper professional diagnoses are absent.

baroqueandblue · 14/01/2025 13:22

B0xes · 14/01/2025 11:55

Tony Blair said recently on Jimmy's Jobs of the Future Podcast (clip available on youtube) that we need to have a national conversation about mental health. Why are we spending so much on it. Why are people self diagnosing. He believes people are being encouraged to view everyday challenges we all face as mental health issues.

Is he being unreasonable? In one sense, I'm inclined to agree to an extent, in the other, I believe he led the charge for so many of the social changes that have made us less resilient and many of these issues are due to individualism which led to atomisation and loneliness and being encouraged to see the market as the entity that fulfills our needs rather than strong families and robust social networks.

YABU - Blair can do one.

YANBU - He might have a point

Says Blair - one of the most dangerous mad cunts the planet has seen in his lifetime.

Pronouncing on other people's mental health? You couldn't make this shit up.

justteanbiscuits · 14/01/2025 13:23

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 14/01/2025 13:17

So what will happen if you are officially diagnosed as having autism. Will you then be able to stop work?

Once you have an official diagnosis, avenues for help and support that were previously closed to you open up. It's not about not working, it's about having the help to continue working.

Whatafustercluck · 14/01/2025 13:23

feellikeanalien · 14/01/2025 12:59

I think we do need to have a conversation but I think that conversation should focus on why there is this explosion in mental health issues.

DD has autism and LD and as she has become a teenager she has developed anxiety. Her paediatrician referred her to CAHMS for support and they rejected the referral as it was "just part of her autism". They told me to contact the autism support charities. Their waiting lists are horrendous. In the meantime her life is badly affected and she has developed physical symptoms.

Her paediatric consultant told me that we have basically got until she leaves school to try and sort this as once she leaves there will be nothing to help her. This is a consultant who has worked in the NHS for years.

The system is broken, life is becoming harder and harder and I think that people becoming more inward looking and not wanting to be part of the wider community is not helping.

This is really interesting, as well as incredibly sad. Ironically, it happened to us the other way around. Nobody was prepared to consider a ND diagnosis, but we were afforded six weeks of one to one sessions to treat the symptoms of anxiety (emotional dysregulation, sensory processing differences). Two years later, we are very marginally closer to a diagnosis but the majority of what we've done has been self researched and self help. Luckily, 8yo dd has begun identifying the things she finds the hardest, and the reasons that, as well as the things she/ we can do to help her. She's an exceptional masker, so we've fought tooth and nail for an ehcp to be put in place. It has been one long, hard fight since she was 4. Currently she's doing brilliantly, but we live in fear of the wheels coming off at secondary school.

BubblePerm · 14/01/2025 13:23

Quercus30 · 14/01/2025 12:29

Resilience requires basic human requirements. If your living conditions are crap; you can't afford to put decent food on the table; you dont have time, energy and the resources to do something you love (eg sport), and you have a crap family/ social life, no amount of chucking the word " resilience " around will help. We all need the basics in place to be ble to deal with the shit than inevitably crops up along the way.

This

biscuitsandbooks · 14/01/2025 13:24

@Pickle2828 but I was one of those "undiagnosed" people - for years. MH support in the NHS is almost non-existent.

So until someone steps up and allows people to get proper treatment, nothing is going to get better.

As for all the comments about people diagnosing themselves - when waiting lists are years long in many cases, what other choice do they have?

ilovesooty · 14/01/2025 13:24

JasmineTea11 · 14/01/2025 12:17

He's right. The issue is we simply can't afford PIP for all these people and we need them in the labour market. Plus disengaging from the labour market is not usually good for those individuals either.

PIP is not an out of work benefit.

taxguru · 14/01/2025 13:24

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 14/01/2025 13:17

So what will happen if you are officially diagnosed as having autism. Will you then be able to stop work?

Why? Plenty of people with autism can and do work.

safetyfreak · 14/01/2025 13:26

apostrophewoman · 14/01/2025 13:14

Absolutely this. Without resilience, there is only half a life if you don't live it or spend it crippled by MH. At times in my life, particularly during a relationship break up, selling the house, having nowhere to go, I have been, literally and figuratively, on my knees. I was suicidal and only my dogs stopped me doing it - them and the mantra and belief I live by which is 'things always get better'. You might have to wait a while and push on through, but they do and I hold onto that every time life is shit. I do believe, that for many people (and I work in a school and see it every day) mental health/anxiety is an excuse to not participate in life, and in many young people that's because they are pandered to and excused instead of being given the tools and support to stand up.

Before people jump on me, I have been suicidal - I'm not bashing anyone with true MH issues.

I feel a lot of people know their ‘rights’ and this overwhelms the system. It shouldn't but it does.

There are too many people and over decades, services have been cut for short term costing gain. This is still going on today...it just creates a bigger issue in the future.

Goldenbear · 14/01/2025 13:26

biscuitsandbooks · 14/01/2025 13:24

@Pickle2828 but I was one of those "undiagnosed" people - for years. MH support in the NHS is almost non-existent.

So until someone steps up and allows people to get proper treatment, nothing is going to get better.

As for all the comments about people diagnosing themselves - when waiting lists are years long in many cases, what other choice do they have?

Where is the money coming from for this level of service? Genuine question.

ItsNotYou852 · 14/01/2025 13:26

SneakyLilNameChange · 14/01/2025 13:05

I completely agree with him. Thousands and thousands of otherwise well people who are being paid PIP to not work due to anxiety is completely unsustainable. So many jobs are wfh now and the amount of support employers put in place for staff is huge compared to the past. To an extent we need to encourage people to stop naval gazing and get on with things.

I'd like to know where these "thousands and thousands" of people are? My understanding is that PIP is very hard to get. I have chronic depression, my son has severe issues which result in an almost annual meltdown and suicide attempt but nobody has ever suggested either could leave work and get PIP.

And where all the money goes that we pour into MH problems I don't know. My son gets a month of crisis care each time and then that's it..Nothing until next time he breaks down.

MzHz · 14/01/2025 13:27

FatFiatMultiplaWhopper · 14/01/2025 11:59

I'm sure I'll be slaughtered for saying that on here.

I should point out that I have diagnosed MH issues which are challenging, but I would do myself no favours by using them as a reason to hide from society. Hard doesn't mean impossible.

100% agree with you and i talk as one who has been seriously depressed in the past and a former agoraphobic. Even when i was really ill there were those who bandied about the statement 'oh I'm so depressed' when they were actually just sad/disappointed. used to irk me then, the situation has gone way worse since.

I think that so many inform themselves on SM and self-diagnose and catastrophise for the SM dopamine hit, and then refuse to work/engage/take responsibility for what are fairly ordinary life expectations.

Life IS hard at times, break ups happen, divorce happens, stress happens, for all of these and more you WILL feel sad/overwhelmed in fact, but it doesn't automatically mean you are depressed, in need of medication or able to just stop showing up.

i do feel that while there is also a lot more pressure on the youth than when we were kids, there is no resilience anymore. Talking to kids about how to be resilient will help them so much. This SHOULD be something that is really laboured in PGSE etc

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