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Tony Blair says we need a national conversation about MH as its costing too much

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B0xes · 14/01/2025 11:55

Tony Blair said recently on Jimmy's Jobs of the Future Podcast (clip available on youtube) that we need to have a national conversation about mental health. Why are we spending so much on it. Why are people self diagnosing. He believes people are being encouraged to view everyday challenges we all face as mental health issues.

Is he being unreasonable? In one sense, I'm inclined to agree to an extent, in the other, I believe he led the charge for so many of the social changes that have made us less resilient and many of these issues are due to individualism which led to atomisation and loneliness and being encouraged to see the market as the entity that fulfills our needs rather than strong families and robust social networks.

YABU - Blair can do one.

YANBU - He might have a point

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biscuitsandbooks · 14/01/2025 14:26

Twirlyboobs · 14/01/2025 14:19

What support would it entitle to you that you can’t get without a diagnosis? Just interested
as There’s no medication for autism, just coping strategies and therapy, which you can self refer for anyway?

I've answered this several times now, but:

Many therapies aren't accessible to people without a diagnosis. Yes, I can access basic CBT but there are other kinds which require an official diagnosis of autism.

There is also support available for neurodivergent people when it comes to things like doing taxes or filling out paperwork. Without a diagnosis, you have to pay for that support (or go without altogether).

As an aside, there is medication available to help with the side-effects of autism. I'm currently taking it as that's all my doctor could do for me without an official diagnosis, which he highly recommended.

Julen7 · 14/01/2025 14:26

Twirlyboobs · 14/01/2025 14:25

Makes no difference to what I’m saying.
pip claimant rates are rising (at an enormous level, each year) not going down
so your argument makes no sense whatsoever
the figures are the figures. Not that hard to understand, either :)

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Twirlyboobs · 14/01/2025 14:26

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Mickelodeonssnazzypot · 14/01/2025 14:28

BIossomtoes · 14/01/2025 14:25

Vascular dementia has a quite specific physical cause, it’s not a mental illness, nor is Alzheimer’s.

"Has he a diagnosis" as a reply to every bad behaviour is one response that needs to be drowned.
So you do accept that "bad behaviour" must be considered in light of a diagnosis? Exactly.

stayathomer · 14/01/2025 14:28

In Ireland and in the last few years have learned more than I needed to about the lack of resources for teens with mh issues. Maybe in Ireland too we talk about it/ think about it ‘too’ much but the people who need help aren’t getting it so we can’t stop

Betchyaby · 14/01/2025 14:30

Tony Blair is a maniacal psychopath so whatever he says it's best to do the exact opposite.

Dappy777 · 14/01/2025 14:30

I suspect the main reason we have a MH crisis is that no one has the time or space to deal with their traumas. The traffic is hellish and the countryside is being destroyed by endless house building. Life is too crowded, too noisy and too fast-paced. People are being squeezed to breaking point. There are more than three times as many people in the UK today as there were 100 years ago. Life has always been hard, and it has always been full of trauma, but when your environment is emptier, quieter, slower-moving and less stressful it is easier to recover. No one has the chance to calm down or heal from stuff now. I feel like I'm permanently in fight or flight mode.

Just before the lockdown, I had an experience that perfectly sums up the modern world. A young neighbour died and we followed the hearse to the cemetery. It was awful. First the hearse got stuck in one of those vile new estates where the roads are so narrow you can barely turn round, then we got caught in traffic and had an idiot in a transit van bibbing and trying to overtake. The cemetary used to be a lovely, peaceful place. Now housing estates have been built all around the edge. During the ceremony, we could hear shouting and fighting, and the vicar's voice was drowned out at one point by the screeching and exploding of some boy racer's car. We didn't evolve to live like this.

SharpOpalNewt · 14/01/2025 14:30

Crumpies · 14/01/2025 14:06

Exactly. When your child refuses to do a sport/hobby/trip/attend school because they don’t want to or are anxious, you coach and push them to overcome this. It will be hard but it will be worthwhile.

A friends daughter is a case in point. My friend never said no to her DD, post covid previously fine DD developed anxiety which led to school refusal. Friend didn’t deal with this, instead petted DD because of her ‘anxiety’ The DD is now out of mainstream schooling, diagnosed with autism and retreating into a kind of half life where she only does the things she likes. It’s really really sad

Actually, forcing your child to do things they don't want to can also lead to mental health issues and not resilience.

Things like school refusal can be an actual phobia of school or a reasonable reaction to a situation in which they are not actually safe, or is really unpleasant. I certainly would not want to attend an average secondary school today and could never keep up with the sheer amount of homework given, quite apart from anything else, and I was very academically able. And the amount of rules and punishments, even though I was naturally conforming and obedient, would leave me a nervous wreck.

Bumpitybumper · 14/01/2025 14:30

LaMarschallin · 14/01/2025 14:18

Who is going to pay for all these people who are out of work because of increasing mental health problems?
I'm fine because I worked hard (in a job involving psychiatry) and could afford a decent life for my children and, now, a decent life.
I pay my taxes and so, now, do my DC and their spouses.
But the fewer people that can work because of Covid, the government, whatever means there are fewer people who can pay taxes.
Where will the money come from?

This is the elephant in the room of course.

A fundamental cornerstone of a compassionate society is that the strong help the weak. This model only works though when the strong outnumber the weak by a decent margin as it is a huge burden to expect someone to deal with all the hardships and difficulties of their own lives and take a significant chunk of burden from others too. It doesn't take a genius to work out that even the strongest amongst us will crumble under the immense weight of responsibility if they are effectively 'carrying' everybody else's burdens as well as their own.

Unfortunately people are too busy obsessing over the (long departed) super rich and evil tax dodging corporations to realise that fundamentally we need to accept that we are all responsible for ourselves. Nobody else owes us a living and none of us have an unalienable entitlement to support and help from other people. Laws can be changed and systems can be reformed if it is felt that the burden is too great. We have had the welfare state for less than a century but I think it has never been more under threat.

BIossomtoes · 14/01/2025 14:31

Mickelodeonssnazzypot · 14/01/2025 14:28

"Has he a diagnosis" as a reply to every bad behaviour is one response that needs to be drowned.
So you do accept that "bad behaviour" must be considered in light of a diagnosis? Exactly.

No. I pointed out two conditions that are physical not mental illnesses. 🤷‍♀️

BarkPench · 14/01/2025 14:31

In general I really like Tony Blair, thought he was a good PM, but also sometimes he is tremendously wrong on things.
I think he draws a lot personally on his Catholic religious faith and he probably gets a lot of strength and community from that, which is great but not everyone has that. He’s also lived a very privileged life for years and probably doesn’t understand what a number Tory austerity has done on this country and its mental health since 2010.

I think Blair is also forgetting that he symbolically ushered in an age where mental health has begun been signalled to be important (rightly)- I think it goes back to when he was PM and Lady Diana was sadly killed in a car accident. It went nuclear at that point and suddenly everyone was furious that the royal family, the Queen in particular, didn’t show enough ‘feeling’.

I’ve heard Blair saying in interviews that these days he feels everyone claims to be a victim of some kind. He’s been making these sorts of statements for a while. I don’t think they really work with his statesmanlike image these days because they don’t show very well developed thinking.

Mickelodeonssnazzypot · 14/01/2025 14:31

Mickelodeonssnazzypot · 14/01/2025 14:28

"Has he a diagnosis" as a reply to every bad behaviour is one response that needs to be drowned.
So you do accept that "bad behaviour" must be considered in light of a diagnosis? Exactly.

Sorry, typed too quickly-that's exactly why LadyGreensleeves' impatience with diagnosis is misplaced, behaviours that seem problematic can't be written off as simply a lack of willpower or resilience.

MyLadyGreensleeves · 14/01/2025 14:36

Mickelodeonssnazzypot · 14/01/2025 14:20

So you seem uncomfortable with the question "Has he a diagnosis?" in relation to behaviour.
How do you feel these annoying behaviours?
(a) Your partner starts to have a short fuse, seems irritable and ignores what you say, you think they are not pulling their weight.
(b) A teenager starts sleeping through their alarm, starts missing school, complains of stress headaches but is miraculously normal again once they have sat up and got out of bed.
(c) A work colleague seems to have stopped speaking to you as much, and often gazes into space when you speak to them and seems a little lacklustre and lazy.
Would the diagnosis of brain tumour (a) and (b) and epilepsy (c) be a help or a hindrance?

Are brain tumours and epilepsy now clessed as mental illnesses? We have already had a twonk say Alzheimer's is a mental illness.

Just because a physical illness affects the brain does not make it a mental disorder.

I do hope that you can appreciate the distinction.

The pat response of "has they a diagnosis?" for a man who shakes when he has to attend the office, for a child who screams blue murder when he can't get what he wants, for a woman who doesn't want to speak to anyone outside her little family or for a man who may be upset when his dog dies is unnecessary.

These examples demonstrate in order: a lack of resilience; a lack of discipline; oddness and a case of day to day blues.

If these examples are encouraged to get in line for a mental illness diagnosis then those who do need one will be delayed in getting the help they need.

One may be anxious, badly behaved, blue or a bit odd without needing a diagnosis. It's overcooked and it's overcooked to the detriment of those who do need help.

Most people are not mentally ill.

Twirlyboobs · 14/01/2025 14:40

SharpOpalNewt · 14/01/2025 14:30

Actually, forcing your child to do things they don't want to can also lead to mental health issues and not resilience.

Things like school refusal can be an actual phobia of school or a reasonable reaction to a situation in which they are not actually safe, or is really unpleasant. I certainly would not want to attend an average secondary school today and could never keep up with the sheer amount of homework given, quite apart from anything else, and I was very academically able. And the amount of rules and punishments, even though I was naturally conforming and obedient, would leave me a nervous wreck.

please tell me you don’t have children 😅

Frowningprovidence · 14/01/2025 14:41

Twirlyboobs · 14/01/2025 14:18

I genuinely don’t understand (sorry skim reading on lunch break)
skewing the stats? But the stats are the stats? 3.3 million as of this month, with 1 in 6 only in paid employment

thats 2.8 million out of work on pip, doing no kind of work

There’s 40.5million estimated ‘adults’ in the uk, therefore 1 in 16 over 18’s are on PIP and not working whatsoever

This is 6% of adults? (I think) 1/16

When you consider all the many possible disabilities out there it doesn't seem that a ridiculous figure. Even if people feel the amounts are too large and unaffordable and the system needs reform, I'm not sure the numbers themselves sound wrong?

It's quite interesting seeing the stats on the percentage of succesful claims for different conditions. If all 4 limbs are misding, 90% of claims are succesful,. I can't help wondering how the other 10% messed up thier form.

Twirlyboobs · 14/01/2025 14:41

Frowningprovidence · 14/01/2025 14:41

This is 6% of adults? (I think) 1/16

When you consider all the many possible disabilities out there it doesn't seem that a ridiculous figure. Even if people feel the amounts are too large and unaffordable and the system needs reform, I'm not sure the numbers themselves sound wrong?

It's quite interesting seeing the stats on the percentage of succesful claims for different conditions. If all 4 limbs are misding, 90% of claims are succesful,. I can't help wondering how the other 10% messed up thier form.

When you factor in ‘working age’ it’s more 1 in 9 or 10 I believe.

BOREDOMBOREDOM · 14/01/2025 14:42

Karneval25 · 14/01/2025 12:11

Many young people have missed out on crucial aspects of social development as a result of Covid lockdowns. This has led to an increase in anxiety/stress.

There are perverse incentives in the benefit system to claim mental health issues. This leads to people with mild anxiety claiming they are too ill to work.

There is insufficient investment in mental helath care, mentoring etc.

These issues ALL need to be addressed.

It is not in the interests of young people in particular to decide at 18 that they are never going to work because of mental health issues.

The only person I know who hasn't worked in years citing mental health issues which are mild (sorry to say mild but I know people close to me with paranoid schizophrenia who had to be sectioned so anxiety/depression seems mild to me I get that they are terrible to deal with though)
Is a lady in her fifties, all these young people that get blamed for everything! Almost all the people in their twenties I know are very hard workers but coming on this website and reading comments would have you believe every other 25 year old is long term unemployed and depressed.

TreeSquirrel · 14/01/2025 14:42

This is a complex issue. First and foremost, there is a large and growing number of people with serious mental health issues (which lockdown exacerbated). The care offered to many of these people is not good enough- too often it’s just a case of prescribing anti depressants if they can even get an appointment.

Many of those who are out of work with MH issues can’t get the support they need to move on with their lives. However, the increased openness in society about this issue has led to some people self-diagnosing and saying they have anxiety when in fact they have difficulties in life. This isn’t helpful to them or those with real illnesses.

In saying that, it is not easy to get PIP or other disability benefits and people self-diagnosing will not be getting them. For me, the fundamental issue is lack of access to support and treatment.

MonkeyToHeaven · 14/01/2025 14:43

Yet another headline, following on from the Dispatches Benefit Scandal TV programme, priming us for more cuts to our welfare system.

It's a propaganda piece.

We don't spend enough on prioritising mental health and wellbeing in the UK. You can't have a society this unequal, working these hours, with crumbling public & community services and expect people not to become casualties.

Which Are The Best Countries For Mental Health? | William Russell

Where are the best places in the world for mental health? Where does the government care most about mental healthcare? See our rankings.

https://www.william-russell.com/blog/countries-best-mental-healthcare/

Goldenbear · 14/01/2025 14:43

biscuitsandbooks · 14/01/2025 14:19

Well, given the government could afford to spend millions of pounds during COVID on "hospitals" and whatever, I'm sure they could come up with something.

Well, no they couldn't, COVID just exacerbated a pre-existing problem of poor work conditions for NHS Staff and poor quality of care for patients. Brexit and austerity measures under the Conservative party worsened health inequality. Ther simply isn't this spare cash sitting around to address this so maybe Blair is voicing a truth, whatever you think of him, the facts are there in black and white!

Lovelybitofsquirrel3 · 14/01/2025 14:44

biscuitsandbooks · 14/01/2025 14:26

I've answered this several times now, but:

Many therapies aren't accessible to people without a diagnosis. Yes, I can access basic CBT but there are other kinds which require an official diagnosis of autism.

There is also support available for neurodivergent people when it comes to things like doing taxes or filling out paperwork. Without a diagnosis, you have to pay for that support (or go without altogether).

As an aside, there is medication available to help with the side-effects of autism. I'm currently taking it as that's all my doctor could do for me without an official diagnosis, which he highly recommended.

What medication is there for autism?

Crumpies · 14/01/2025 14:44

Twirlyboobs · 14/01/2025 14:40

please tell me you don’t have children 😅

Phobia of school!! Ah come on, really?

2dogsandabudgie · 14/01/2025 14:44

SharpOpalNewt · 14/01/2025 14:30

Actually, forcing your child to do things they don't want to can also lead to mental health issues and not resilience.

Things like school refusal can be an actual phobia of school or a reasonable reaction to a situation in which they are not actually safe, or is really unpleasant. I certainly would not want to attend an average secondary school today and could never keep up with the sheer amount of homework given, quite apart from anything else, and I was very academically able. And the amount of rules and punishments, even though I was naturally conforming and obedient, would leave me a nervous wreck.

Yes, but if a child has school phobia which I think is actually quite rare then parents and professionals should work together to find the root cause. Because what happens if a child who has a school phobia doesn't get support and then when older thinks that they can't cope in a work environment.

I remember when I was 13 and my class had to do a school assembly. I was quite shy and nervous and really didn't want to do the speaking part I had been given. My dad said to me that there would always be times in life when we had to do something that we didn't want to, and that he sometimes felt like this at work. Not doing it wasn't an option and I felt so much better for having done it.

TonysPony · 14/01/2025 14:44

Twirlyboobs · 14/01/2025 14:40

please tell me you don’t have children 😅

Why?

Forcing distressed children into an unsafe environment causes trauma. Some
school environments are physically or psychologically unsafe, for some children more than for others.

Putting someone in an unsafe situation that they cannot escape from, and where they do not have anyone to help, does not automatically equal “resilience”.

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