Hubs won't get the snip!!

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Am I being unreasonable that my hubby wont even consider getting the snip? He just replies with 'maybe one day'.

We have children already and I am 99% DONE. My body has been through enough and mentally Im burnt out. After contraception for years, pregnancy, birth, and breastfeeding I dont want to go back on contraception or risk condoms etc. I know vasectomies are not 100% but better than me having to go through invasive procedures again. Im also late for my period and after 2 negative pregnancy tests Ive explained how unfair it is for me to be worrying about this every month. He basically ignored me as he knew what I was getting at.

Am I being a b*tch? Hes not had to go through anything physically and its not like I’m asking him to chop his bits off 🥲

Totally agree with this. The sheer vitriol on this thread towards men who 'refuse' to have such a procedure is quite something. These men would do themselves a favour to jump ship before they're pushed!

Agreed. The disdain towards men is palpable.

Ohhh, I will be jumping ship should future partners suggest I have a vasectomy.

You type like a late teenage boy wearing a superhero cape pretending to be a woman.

Just my thoughts.

I wouldn't worry too much about it, I very much doubt that you'll ever find yourself in the position of having to beat off a queue of women desperate to have sex with you.

Yeah, you're right. The squawking gets to me after a while.

That statistic is based on 2% user error. Nothing is ever considered 100% effective because that would be a cast iron guarantee - and in life there are no guarantees.

I suppose the good thing is that women cease to be fertile unlike men who can produce sperm until they die.

I have no solution except to wish a lifetime of child maintenance payments upon the irrisponsible men out there.

The only recourse for most women is to shut their legs or continue contraception until menopause. Not a great situation really.

Fully support this. It should be mandatory for all men to pay maintenance. It's shameful many men choose to walk away from their kid/s needs.

It's for real. Thank goodness for the nurse's humanity.

Do some of the men on this thread really not realise how stupid and selfish they sound.

@MrPepInHisStep90 - it was so funny having the CMS guy call me and describe the outrage from DS's dad at finally being caught up with to pay his outstanding arrears. It can happen and DS is 23! His dad bailed completely when ds was 12.

Naturally I said I wanted to be paid - only £200 in installments. But it's the principle of it. And every monthly payment gives me a great deal of pleasure.

Bravo Bravo. This is what i like to hear. Get every penny and pound from him - its what you and your big man deserve.

You don't deserve this OP. I would get my tubes tied if all your pleas are falling on dead ears. I am considering this as well only after one child, can't imagine how it would feel after multiple kids and going through all the hurdles of pregnancy, child birth and contraception

So what’s the answer here?
Live in a sexless marriage?
Personally if I were in the ops position, it would make me look at dh in a very negative light. She has gone through all the physically damaging processes and he hasn’t had to damage his body one tiny bit.
It would kill any thoughts of wanting to have sex with him, so I guess problem solved.

The reality is that doctors are far, far more reluctant to sterilise women than men. Absolute fact. I know of at least 2 women, both of whom had children, who were refused sterilisation. Eventually a female doctor did agree to do the operation, all the male doctors refused based purely on the notion that they might change their minds one day.
This doesn’t even account for all the childfree women who are routinely refused the operation.
I don’t know of one single male who has been refused the operation. Seems men are more likely to be listened to.

He’s got every right to say no but I personally think it is incredibly selfish and I would find it a real struggle to love someone so selfish.

A female sterilisation isn't equivalent to male one, though. Female sterilisation is much more invasive, and a female has other, usually better options, which men don't.

Does not have to be sexless if they practice other forms of sex. There is always an alternative.

Manufacturing issue. With any manufacturing process there is scope for issues that are not immediately apparent, but lead to failure during operation, even if being used in line with the operating guidelines.

Who says hubs really?

It’s a contraction of husband, it’s not that deep.