Hubs won't get the snip!!

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Am I being unreasonable that my hubby wont even consider getting the snip? He just replies with 'maybe one day'.

We have children already and I am 99% DONE. My body has been through enough and mentally Im burnt out. After contraception for years, pregnancy, birth, and breastfeeding I dont want to go back on contraception or risk condoms etc. I know vasectomies are not 100% but better than me having to go through invasive procedures again. Im also late for my period and after 2 negative pregnancy tests Ive explained how unfair it is for me to be worrying about this every month. He basically ignored me as he knew what I was getting at.

Am I being a b*tch? Hes not had to go through anything physically and its not like I’m asking him to chop his bits off 🥲

Jesus.

I am sure she would prefer him to be a eunuch.

No one likes to be dictated to and emotionally blackmailed. Mirenas are simple and brilliant at controlling periods. Otherwise if you feel so strongly maybe arrange to be sterilised yourself.

Having a termination because a condom failed is a last resort and not an alternative to contraception.

But they don’t want any more children!!! Hence asking their husbands to help with the contraception before they have to endure any more of it. If they wanted more children then there wouldn’t be an issue would there?

What a disgusting post.

I agree. It's hideously tasteless.

Mandatory sterilisation? WTH

you roll the dice every time and the result is always independent of previous results.

yes of course. I never said otherwise. The fact remains however- if the probability of rolling an “ x” on the dice is 2%, for every 50 “roll the dice” events/ attempts, on average you can expect to roll one “x”.

In actual fact I looked up the statistics on condoms on the nhs website and the 98% is over the course of a year- so it would be 1 in every 50 women, on average, are expected to get pregnant within a year if using condoms exactly correctly.
This drops to 82% in “real world” data.
I know people are saying that includes people who don’t use a condom every time , but it also includes cases where condoms rip / tear etc, which is very possible even if you do your very best to do everything correctly.
So according to the NHS that’s almost 1 in 5 women who will get pregnant within a year using condoms based on real world data. .

You sound unhinged

Or just don't have sex

I don't think unhinged in the word 😂

It really is as simple as this.

She's done her fair share. Now it's his turn to figure out how to have sex with no chance of pregnancy.

YABU. You don't own his body.

Nor do you need to find a solution to this. If he won't. Or at all!

A split condom is always user error? Good job your husband is not an idiot because you clearly are 🤦‍♂️

Reading these comments, you'd think the OP did.

Hubs. Makes my toes curl. YUK.

A quick Google search seems to indicate 3-6 months post procedure, or 20+ ejaculations, but the key seems to be no unprotected sex until ejaculate has been tested and shows no sperm present

I must be because I genuinely can't think of any other reason. For everything that can go wrong with a condom, there is a 'user' at the end of it... quite literally.

But, please, do share your wisdom since you know so much...

So what!? It's still painful.

Nah. You're just delusional.

"Your wife has given birth to your children. She has had a double mastectomy so that she can live to bring up the children. The very least that you can do is to have a wee snip so that your wife's body doesn't have to endure any more."

Wow, that's one very unprofessional nurse!

Whoever is the one being 100% DONE having kids gets the procedure. Simple.

Is this for real? Ha. I would have told that nurse where to go and complained if she spoke to me like that.