Hubs won't get the snip!!

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Am I being unreasonable that my hubby wont even consider getting the snip? He just replies with 'maybe one day'.

We have children already and I am 99% DONE. My body has been through enough and mentally Im burnt out. After contraception for years, pregnancy, birth, and breastfeeding I dont want to go back on contraception or risk condoms etc. I know vasectomies are not 100% but better than me having to go through invasive procedures again. Im also late for my period and after 2 negative pregnancy tests Ive explained how unfair it is for me to be worrying about this every month. He basically ignored me as he knew what I was getting at.

Am I being a b*tch? Hes not had to go through anything physically and its not like I’m asking him to chop his bits off 🥲

The risks of reversal failure are not low. Reversals are only 55% effective after 3 years.

At a rate of having sex once every couple of weeks , I can OP can reasonably expect to be pregnant in a couple of years 🤷🏼‍♀️

Can you Imagine a bloke on here saying my wifey won’t get a hysterectomy. Good God you’d be on him like piranha fish. He be devoured alive.

Er of course it is .its exactly how they work

Why are you wittering about bargaining chips OP just said was she was unhappy DH won’t consider a vasectomy.

It’s her life she can moan about what she likes.

I totally get this. I'm in my 40's, have two adult children. Spent most of my life on some kind of contraception, several types of pill, three IUD's (including getting pregnant and miscarrying with one in place). I had pre eclampsia in first pregnancy and had an emergency C Section. Second was showing as very big and had to have another C section. I feel like I've spent my whole life trying to prevent pregnancy. I no longer want ti take hormones as I don't believe they are good for me and am honestly fed up of having IUD's fitted and removed.

Whilst I agree that men shouldn't feel forced to have the snip, I do feel like I've done more than my fair share and that they should have to carry some of the burden. My body's already been through enough.

Buy yourself a rabbit and tell him no sex

Crikey! Why are you so angry?😂

Nobody is snipping me, ok? Not you. No-one.

She was selfish. Despite her wanting children, her wanting to be a SAHM, and her wanting to be provided for, which I did, she took it upon herself to cheat on me and abandon her child. Perhaps I should have told her to have the snip, eh?

Heh you do that on Facebook don't think you. Finish a post with that emoji?

If statistics worked liked that, then I am overdue several accidental pregnancies given your maths.

A tubal ligation is different to a vasectomy in terms of risk etc.

How do you think statistics work exactly 🥴?!

2% chance of an event happening means that out of 50 attempts, you would expect the event to occur once on average.

So why you so angry about a procedure you haven't had?
Nobody here is trying to snip you. Unclench and uncentre yourself.

😂 Tell me you've never been in a relationship without telling me you've never been in a relationship! 😆

Not likely to ever be in one either!

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uncentre yourself

I think this is an unreasonable challenge for most men and herein lies the problem.

I know how statistics work however, just doesn't work in my case.

I've had sex with just condoms or the pill, literally hundreds, probably thousands of times and never got pregnant when I did choose to be.

Because I used contraception properly.

Ha. If you say so.

She's the one suffering - not me.

A hysterectomy doesn't even begin to compare to a vasectomy! It's a much, much bigger procedure and you have to deal with the menopause too. Also, the point many posters have been trying to make is that you can't just turn it around, as women have to shoulder a massively disproportionate burden when it comes to the reproductive system. It's not like they've been even-Stevens up until now and she's unfairly asking him to undergo a type of procedure she wouldn't - if she's given birth, she's already been through much worse than a vasectomy.

Well to be fair- there are of course many other probabilities involved in getting pregnant- even if you have unprotected sex.
But still, the point is, 1 in 50 times on average you can expect a condom not to work , leaving you with the baseline risk of pregnancy from unprotected sex.

I am merely contributing my two cents to a pool full of crocodiles.

Does the number of weeks matter? We were told to not expect sterility until my husband had ejaculated 30 times post-procedure.

100%! 😂

That's if that poster has ever actually been in a relationship with a woman.

I doubt he has somehow!

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Have all contraceptive barriers, including female condoms, been exhausted by OP and her husband?