To think women know the 'explanation' for why more young men than women live with parents

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Was reading this article, and had to laugh at the last line https://www.theguardian.com/society/2025/jan/11/hotel-of-mum-and-dad-in-uk-at-its-fullest-in-two-decades-study-finds - apparently 'Young men are more likely to live with their parents: 12% compared with 5% of women at the age of 34. Researchers could offer no explanation for this, although the gender differences also existed in other high-income countries.'

I think a lot of women could offer an explanation. 😜

Absolutely. Presumably hasn’t been raised as it’s an uncomfortable truth for women that many women perpetuate this by enabling it via their own differing bias on their sons and daughters. Daughters are constantly pressured by questions of when are you going to find a man, when are you going to give me a grandchild etc. Sons are the eternal child in mummy’s eyes who can live at home as long as they like. It’s internalised misogyny.

This surely isn’t the case now? I don’t see it anywhere ime

There’s literally posts on this thread describing it - live at home sons who treat their mother like dirt yet the mother refuses to see anything is wrong.

Surely it more about the parents attitudes towards their children based on the sex of the child.

My mother would go out of her way to do everything for my brother. She would ask my sister and I to do lots in the house but not him.

My son does everything for his self. He washes his own clothes, does his fair share of housework and pays board which covers his share of bills, including food shopping. Every week when I organise a food delivery we sit together and work out what we all need. He always makes sure he is here when it is due to arrive because I cannot carry heavy grates of food to the kitchen.

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They make themselves very obvious don't they 🤣

It definitely is still the case. My work colleague, at her insistence, goes to her 35 year old son's every week to clean his house whilst he is at work. From what she says he doesn't even want her to do it but she is really pushy and insistent

This is true. I’ve come across a lot of young adult men whose only interests are gaming, sleeping & eating junk food. Most women would run a mile!

If that's your attitude you'll probably be stuck on dating sites a while longer...

But if that's their view of men, why are they putting so much effort into trying to find one?That's what I don't understand.

Girls want to play house, boys don’t.

Strange comment

This thread seems to have attracted the incel brigade.

Interesting. I'm in Canada and if you live in dorms here you are responsible for changing your beds and any cleaning. Meals are provided if you pay for them.

When it comes to responsibility in the house and expectations; my general experience of siblings with mixed sexes is that the female ones have much higher expectations put on them than the males.
That is poor parenting then, and not something I do/see.

Aren’t the ‘boys’, if by ‘boys’ you mean adult men, also playing house by living with their parents, but playing the role of Eternal Teenager?

Surely young men can do what’s required on Onlyfans or have a sugar momma.

I don’t think it’s this: I have always treated mine the same way- also I’m a single Mum so would hope to be seen as quite a capable person. Despite this my DS is much more lazy than my DD , doesn’t clear up after himself, I really have to go on at him to do small tasks like the bins etc. I feel like it’s inbuilt 🙃

Only if they're willing to be gay for pay, i.e perform for gay men and have a sugar daddy

misogynist much? 🙄

as pps have pointed out, OF is unlikely to be keeping half the UK population in employment.

it’s because many men are lazy and more likely to enjoy having a woman look after them.

its a well worn trope on MN that men in relationships rarely jump unless they have somewhere to land. I think the first time they exhibit that behaviour is when they don’t leave home until they have a gf. ( not all men of course, but enough to create the data for this study)

Are girls just more socialised to and expected to want their own home?

Are girls still more likely to be trained by their mothers to be able to look after themselves (and by extension, a home and family)?

Are mothers generally happier for daughters to leave home - because home is HER domain?

Are boys more likely to expect to be waited on and all the wifemumwork to mysteriously just happen - because again, they've been trained to? Thinking about a recent thread where a mum asked if she was being unreasonable for babying her young adult sons.

The above misogynist remark was about this post!

🤣 of course! Why didn't I think of this? 💁‍♀️

(What a ridiculous statement!)

Because mothers like to do everything for their sons and don’t criticise their sons as much as their daughters

It is certainly not a common reality, the amount of women actually doing that in reality is minuscule,
You live in a strange world if you think OnlyFans and Sugar Daddy’s are how the majority of young women are making their money

I imagine some of those men had houses/a family but when the relationship broke down the female stays in the home with the kids, lack of money meaning they move back home to parents?