To think women know the 'explanation' for why more young men than women live with parents

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Was reading this article, and had to laugh at the last line https://www.theguardian.com/society/2025/jan/11/hotel-of-mum-and-dad-in-uk-at-its-fullest-in-two-decades-study-finds - apparently 'Young men are more likely to live with their parents: 12% compared with 5% of women at the age of 34. Researchers could offer no explanation for this, although the gender differences also existed in other high-income countries.'

I think a lot of women could offer an explanation. 😜

Seems to be the sole reason for this thread. How original eh? Not had one of these for over an hour.

oh dear, think this says quite a bit about your mindset vs reality.

Good trolling - I'm guessing you're an incel?

I don't really know what the issue is with multigenerational households in the UK, in many countries it's the norm. I'd love 18 year old DS to be at home but he loves living away and I can't see him ever coming back full time as he's doing a degree apprenticeship and already earning. Both of us are pretty lazy when it comes to household chores though.

Tell us the explanation, Oh Wise One, because I have absolutely no idea.

Not everyone lives at home because they “want to save for a mortgage”. For all we know the numbers may be very different 5 years later on when women return home (often with children in tow) or to care for parents.

I just couldn't imagine living at home at 35 or having adult kids still living at home.

I don't understand what 6 year olds have to do with the thread 🤷‍♀️

Apologies perhaps my comment was unclear. Males and females follow different developmental paths and our lives are not morphed by the same drivers. The OP is interested in why men might stay at home longer than women.

Because their mommies continue to treat them like dependent babies.

And their Papas let them get away with it (or fucked off to make more kids)

Exactly, by 30 they have caught up even if it does take them longer. It's no excuse for not learning the basics and life skills to help you find a partner to share costs with.

Sad but true. My friend's mid-20s son is very much her little boy. He doesn't have to lift a finger. She even makes his lunches every day. He was allowed to have his [now ex] girlfriend virtually move in. Why would he leave?

She loves it. He loves it. But god help any future woman in his life..

I left home at 18 because my parents were far too strict and it wasn't a nice environment. I'd have stayed longer if they'd given me a bit more freedom.

They called me up a lot in the early days because I had always been blamed for everything and I wasn't there to blame any more, so they called me up and told me they'd had a big argument and it was my fault (despite me being a two hour drive away and not being aware of anything).

So actually I think it's a compliment if your kids want to stay.

I hadn’t thought of that. That’s a fair point actually.

It's the fault of women/mothers then.

This is only an option if you live somewhere with good wages and cheap rent, and it's become so much harder as rents have risen massively more than wages. Young people in high cost of living areas are often paying 50-60% of their take home pay to rent a room in a house share, so it's impossible for them to save up enough to buy their own place

Don’t be ridiculous, young women are typically much more independent than men, despite salaries still disproportionately meaning that men earn more.

edit: was supposed to quote the post about only fans and didn’t

DS tells me he's staying until he's 34, he absolutely isn't 🤣
Seriously though if they don't move out after uni I'll feel I've failed at producing independent adults.

Brutally honest, but at 40, men have much more dating value than women of the same age. Both parties know this, so women don't hang around and play to their strength and couple up younger. In the UK between 3-7 years older for the man depending on age at marriage.

By 34, it will be because a of them are paying child maintenance

Exactly. I was in shared houses (I was a teacher in London) from age 23 to 28 - when I bought a one-bedroom flat in South Acton with my boyfriend.

I don’t follow your logic, why would biological clock be a reason to live independently? Surely if that was the driving factor these women would be looking to life with a partner, not alone.

Also post divorce it’s nearly always the woman who keeps the family home with the children.

this is why my brother was living back at home in his 30’s.

relationship breakdown, family home in London. Only place to go was his parents.

earning 35k, paying CM, no money to buy, or rent anything more than a house share unsuitable for the kids to stay. Family home couldn’t be sold as no way would it split into two equal homes which would accommodate the children.

my brother in law was the same.

You mean women who are left responsible for children alone because the men aren’t pulling their weight as fathers?