To ask my partner to walk me to the bus stop?

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I'm heading into town
The bus stop is a minute walk around the corner but it's really icy outside and my shoes have no grip at all.
I fell over yesterday and got a bit of a shock.
I'm going to grab some better footwear in town.
I said to my partner do you mind walking me to the bus stop so I can hold on to you just incase I fall.
He kicked off saying who walks him back home?
So I get to the bus stop with no thought for him etc etc
Anyway I said it's okay il just walk around myself-if I fall I fall
Aibu to ask him?
He says it's his only day off

Correct OP, it is what you do in a loving relationship. Imo it wasn't a big ask x

Thought so.

I would have a talk with him that consideration is a two way street and he needs to show appreciation for things you do for him and reciprocate, otherwise it just kills any love.

Ah... It's gone from "I need shoes" to "I need to take milk to my parent"... And then she'll drip-feed that he's severely disabled and 105...

I guess next time he asks her to attend a work night out that she doesn’t want to go to, or when he asks her to make his favourite tea or take care of him when he’s ill, OP can just say ‘This is a YOU problem, not a ‘me’ problem’.

Way to kill a marriage.

She did say in her she’s heading into town. People can generally buy milk in town, so no drip feed.

Haha, keep up with the entertainment, folk! 😅

It's always funny to read these 'helpless Brits in the snow' stories, from a country with -20 and metres of the stuff.

Kids go to schools, elderly go to the shops (on ice!! With walking sticks!! 😮 ), life goes on as normal. People slip, fall, don't 'get a shock', just get up and go. Kids play with snowballls, hitting each other in the head with them from time to time. Sleighing down the hills and falling over all the time. Cars, busses, trains AND PLANES going as usual. If i asked my family memebers to 'take me out' (like a dog) to a bus stop because of ice, they'd think I've gone insane, regardless of what shoes I have on.

A woman fell, got such a shock (I still don't get this part, you never tripped before or something?) and is now incapable of walking one minute around the corner. Only in UK 🤣

Common courtesy, is that you?

It’s a bigger issue. It isn’t about ice at all.

You asked your OH to help and he didn’t initially say he would.

You could easily have put socks over your shoes and walked the minute but you didn’t want to, guessing because you think you would have looked stupid. Better to look stupid for one minute than ask a favour (in my opinion).

But people can feel nervous or anxious about doing all sorts of things, especially when they've previously had an accident doing it- like the OP.

Are there only certain things we can expect our partners to help us with? Is there a list somewhere I'm not aware of?

All this "Sounds like a you problem" bollocks, do people really say this to their partners when they ask for help with something?

@zingally no he's not severely disabled
But I'm not risking him going out and falling in his 80s

How old are you op? Do you have any physical, or mental health conditions? If not, this isn't a normal request. However, I do understand that your shoes may be playing a huge part in this, and I think this explains your request better.
Is there any way you could get some better grips? There are some things you can buy that attached to the bottom of your shoes; they grip great to ice. My 70 year old dm hasn't slipped once since wearing these. I think they're called Yak Trax, but there are many different versions.

I'm glad he did it in the end.
Last year it was really bad with ice and I had to walk to work at 5.15 am, my ds got up and walked me there because he's a caring, considerate grown up. He couldn't get to his own job, too far to walk so at my finishing time he walked back to make sure I was OK, because he's a caring, considerate grown up.
Ignore all the pp saying it's only a slip, it can be really dangerous.

You’d be better off taking some salt rather than someone else who could fall over too no? Yabu sorry.

Having grippy shoes like the DP's helps which (if you bother to read the OP) is why she asked him to walk just the distance to the bus stop so that she can get her own grippy shoes and not trouble the poor love in future.

Honest to gods she hasn't asked him for a bloody kidney - just to walk for a minute down the road due to yesterday's accident.

I assume none of you would help a friend or sibling in this situation - what a bunch of delights. Its nothing to do with the sex of either party, its entirely about one human being providing a small help for another human being.

He is right - who walks him? Why are you inherently more vulnerable than he is by virtue of being female? Buy better shoes/plan your journeys around the weather warnings we have all had and take responsibility. I’d also explore why you have these pre-conceived notions of vulnerability. Unless you are heavily pregnant,
unwell, or in your 80s, in which case he’s being a dick.

I mean you could have just ordered milk to his house. If it’s in town which is big enough to always be gritted then almost every supermarket brand offers a 30 min delivery including things like just eat or uber.

Yeah I’d have used snappy shopper or similar and got my Dad a delivery of everything he might need if I really couldn’t go out without a man to hold onto me. Amazon Prime lets you order from Morrisons too.

she’s literally going for better shoes.

But she needs shoes so it would make sense to buy the milk at the same time.

Then she could take the milk and see her elderly dad and check up on him.

I see my elderly mum on the weekends, it’s the only time I can manage it.

An Amazon delivery of milk is just not the same.

Is your perception of a gentleman from the Victorian era?

An able bodied woman going shopping on an icy day doesn't need a gentleman chaperone.

My husband walks me down to the bottom of the hill. He offers because he is a nice person and he cares about me. Agree I am being pathetic but I can live with that. However I'm remain a feminist and allowing my husband to support me doesn't change that.

My DH would do this for me without a thought. He knows I don't like walking on icy ground.