To ask my partner to walk me to the bus stop?

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I'm heading into town
The bus stop is a minute walk around the corner but it's really icy outside and my shoes have no grip at all.
I fell over yesterday and got a bit of a shock.
I'm going to grab some better footwear in town.
I said to my partner do you mind walking me to the bus stop so I can hold on to you just incase I fall.
He kicked off saying who walks him back home?
So I get to the bus stop with no thought for him etc etc
Anyway I said it's okay il just walk around myself-if I fall I fall
Aibu to ask him?
He says it's his only day off

Take a walking stick with you if you have one. If you leave it a bit the day will have warmed up and previous footprints will have melted the ice a bit.

To the poster who said that only the old and pregnant should worry about slipping and falling - tell that to the A& E staff who encounter all the injuries in icy conditions, not to mention the joggers who’ve slipped on fallen leaves in the Autumn 😬 Particularly if you’re unlucky enough to live in one of the many areas of the UK at the moment where there’s next to no healthcare - or at best, where you’re likely to be waiting hours for attention in great pain.

There are also thousands of women from middle age up who only discover that they have osteopaenia or osteoporosis after a fracture.

Why not just get a taxi in to town if you can’t walk to the bus stop.
If you’ve got ice it must be freezing anyway to wait for a bus. Maybe the taxi can drop you closer to a shoe shop too.

No, it’s my criteria for thinking it’s reasonable for a woman to feel unable to walk to the bus stop around the corner without a man to lean on in case she slips.

What's that got to do with anything? And not all women are feminists!

But surely you have something else you can wear on your feet with a better grip OP?

My DP would do this without a 2nd thought and wouldn't whinge about it either. We are generally nice to each other though.

Oh c’mon, you can’t be serious

What do you mean by kicked off? Was he shouting?

Don’t be so bloody ridiculous.

I get with the shock of falling yesterday you'd appreciate some company to the bus stop. In your situation I'd likely ask my DH too and he'd likely say yes. FTR I'm a feminist and the main breadwinner. I wouldn't feel obliged to hand back my badge if I ask DH for assistance in something.

I'm sure he'd rather the inconvenience of a short walk rather than me injuring myself.

Wow, some people have a low expectation of their partners. My husband drove to pick me up on Tuesday because the ice was bad on pavements and he didn't want me to fall.

There is literally nothing about having a willy that makes you better at walking on ice. If anything they are more likely to be bigger and less agile.

Wouldn't matter if I was perfectly capable and it was only a minute away, my DH would offer and certainly wouldn't say no if I asked. It isn't against feminism to ask for help and to take it (presuming who you ask isn’t an arse like OPs partner!)

Edited to add- I'd have the same opinion if it was a same sex couple.

It isn't a man/woman issue, it's an inappropriate footwear issue. If thenDH has shoes with grip and the op doesn't, then yes he should help. My DH would drive me to town if I couldn't drive myself.

The lesson to learn is that the right footwear is essential.

I'm 64, have severe osteoporosis, have weather appropriate footwear and haven't been out since Wednesday. I might venture out this pm if the ice on the drive melts, just to the local shopping centre where parking and shopping is under cover

Ive a size five foot but DH and DS are a size 10 so Id just use a pair of theirs. In saying that Ive a pair of cleats in the shed. I live on higher ground so while the main roads are grited, the estates are lethal in icy weather but our dog doesnt care and still needs his daily walks

My elderly neighbour used to scatter salt in front of her to walk to her car, from a big box of table salt. She said it stopped her slipping and it gave her more confidence

My DP gave me a lift to meet someone the other day because it was pissing down with rain.I'm quite capable of using public transport and mostly do. Perhaps I should have refused because feminist.

Do you really need to go into town? Can’t you just buy some grippy shoes off Amazon and Deliveroo some milk to your dad’s house, if you can’t do the minute walk to the bus stop?

My immediate thought was that cliché - ‘A lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on his part.’

But then I bet you do nice things for him to make his life easier, and he probably accepts them as his due. Do you find this?

I also went on holiday to Iceland once where even with proper boots I slipped and fell on my back because the ice was literally sheets of icy glass on the pavements, so I sympathise with you on your fall.

If my husband had asked me to walk with him, I would have done it, albeit grudgingly because it looks icy.

I wouldn’t have asked, as I’m ridiculously stubborn and can rarely admit when I need a hand. However, my DH would have done it in a heartbeat if I asked, even if he thought I was a bit silly. The fact your partner kicked off like that wouldn’t bode well for a long and happy relationship for me.

He ended it walking me in the end.
It's really dangerous outside our house so I'm pleased he did.
You know what tho I do loads of things to help him out,been dragged along to work nights out with him (when partners were invited ) even tho I didn't want to go
Surely it's what you do in a relationship?
Stupid things like make him his favourite tea when he's ill or put his things on the radiator for him getting in from work.

Also it's fine getting off the bus in town as it's gritted ,the paths are clear in town

Really? If I was trying to relax on my only day off I wouldn't want to needlessly go out in freezing weather, if she walks slowly she will be fine it's a 1 minute walk.
I wouldn't want an adult pulling me over either, if they're actually not capable of walking safely on the pavement they need to stay in or prepare better with proper shoes.

Town centres are always gritted, I'm not sure why people think they are not. Do you have a grit box near, so you can chuck some on your pavement?

It's a bit of a baby ask in my opinion. But I think it's the job of a partner to support you when you ask so I'd think it's a bit sad that he doesn't want to help you. I'm assuming in this answer that you don't regularly ask for his help with small things like this.

After all, isn't part of the benefit of having a partner that there is someone to help you with the stuff that you could technically struggle through alone?

The state of your shoes are a you problem, not a him problem.

There's no need to be going out today if not vital. Especially for something like boots. Wait until it warms up, which it's due to on Monday/Tuesday, then you're all set for the next cold snap. Or order something online. Next day delivery is a thing. You can order something like this. I have a similar thing for when it's really bad out.
Winter Wise 10-STUD Ice Snow Grips, Anti Slip Winter Ice Grippers Universal Slip-on Stretch Fit Snow & Ice Spikes Traction Cleats Crampons : Amazon.co.uk: Sports & Outdoors