To ask my partner to walk me to the bus stop?

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I'm heading into town
The bus stop is a minute walk around the corner but it's really icy outside and my shoes have no grip at all.
I fell over yesterday and got a bit of a shock.
I'm going to grab some better footwear in town.
I said to my partner do you mind walking me to the bus stop so I can hold on to you just incase I fall.
He kicked off saying who walks him back home?
So I get to the bus stop with no thought for him etc etc
Anyway I said it's okay il just walk around myself-if I fall I fall
Aibu to ask him?
He says it's his only day off

100 %

That's really spiteful of him. My partner would do this for me.

That's a pathetic comparison, which isn't a comparison. But nice try

How do you have trainers with no grip? Most trainers are running shoes, all decent ones have grip as they are built for people moving fast on a number of different surfaces.

His response is completely natural as a first instinct, but you have a reasonable reply.

"You'll be fine on the way back home because you have decent shoes with grip. I've lost my only grippy shoes so I need to get to the shops to buy new ones otherwise I'll be housebound until the weather changes and you'll have to run all the errands. I am sorry to bother you for something so silly, but that's just the way it is."

You'll could buy some online I guess, but that will take days, by which point the weather will have changed and if they don't fit you'll be stuck with trying to return them.

Why can we not just help each other out a bit even if it's not absolutely necessary?

Because a broken hip is no fun.

I think it all comes down to common sense. The husband is right, if it's as treacherous as she says, who's going to help him if he falls? Is he not allowed to be anxious and want to protect himself from a fall too?

I fell on black ice yesterday walking literally three steps from my garage to the car on the drive. In appropriate footwear. I very narrowly avoided a hip and wrist fracture, simply because I know how to fall "safely" thanks to winter sports training. There's currently a 24 hour wait at A&E. And no beds.

I'm not taking any silly risks and I wouldn't expect anyone else to.

Also do the council not grit the pavements where you are?

@Ginmonkeyagain no they don't
They grit the city centre and main roads
They don't touch the side streets /housing estates

My DH would’ve done this without a second thought. It’s just one of the small things that you do for each other in a loving relationship surely. He’d probably have taken the piss out of me though, and I do have form for falling over!

Whilst it is such a short walk personally, no, I wouldn't have asked.

I'd have bought some crampons/grips from amazon and/or some new boots from there to avoid having to go out in the bad weather.

Plenty of advice here (sock over your shoes for example) that you don't seem to want. Why?

To be fair they don't do it here either, only the roads and town center area. Pavements left undone if shops/home owners don't do it themselves.

I don't know why people are being so horrible to you! Your husband is being a dick, and all these PPs telling you that you're being a fragile flower and letting all women down are being ridiculous!

Of course he should walk with you, to give you some reassurance and support.

I’m not sure how him walking you to the bus stop will help if it’s icy the other end? I’d delay your trip if you’re worried about slipping.

I get your reasoning op.
If he's got better grip shoes and you had a fall that worried you yesterday you were not completely unreasonable to ask him to walk with you.
He's definitely not unreasonable to say no.
He was unreasonable to kick off when a simple calm no, because its a minute down the road, and who walks me home would have been fine.
What do you mean by kick off ?

I'm shocked that you've got such a hard time here op. YWNBU.
Put old socks - preferably his - over your trainers. Go and look after your dad and buy yourself some wellies, plus a very large donut/cappuccino/your favourite treat.

Good luck

I would have asked my DH to help and he would have done. It’s not unreasonable especially as you were in your way to buy better shoes.

Op I’m actually with you.

my husband would have walked me to the bus stop , with a smile on his face.

if I had fallen the day before and he had a day off, he would probably come with me.

on the flip side , if he asked me for help , I would have helped or suggested a helpful alternative. because we are married and help each other out.

being in a partnership is feeling not alone in life . otherwise, what’s the point?

It’s a thoughtful way to help a partner and has nothing to do with feminism or being too old. No wonder there’s so much divorce. Couples should be there for each other without being assholes.

But she could fall and break her leg with or without him. As could he. It won’t be his fault if she falls, whether he’s with her or not.

My husband would absolutely do this.

Infact he carried me to the car yesterday. It was a joke situation but he said 'shit look how icy it is. You won't make it out alive. Come on then' and scooped me up 🤣🤣🤣

Amazon Prime some shoe gripper things, to add to your current shoes. They would solve the issue just for now.

But she doesn't live alone?

Why be married if you're going to live your life as if you're alone?

Such weird responses on here.

absolutely this. not about setting feminism back - it’s about helping the person in the partnership who is struggling with something.

When i ask DH to get something off a high shelf for me I’m not being wet i am merely using the fact that he is over six foot and i round up to 5ft 3.

She's trying!
Why do some people post in an infuriatingly pointless and unhelpful way?