To ask my partner to walk me to the bus stop?

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I'm heading into town
The bus stop is a minute walk around the corner but it's really icy outside and my shoes have no grip at all.
I fell over yesterday and got a bit of a shock.
I'm going to grab some better footwear in town.
I said to my partner do you mind walking me to the bus stop so I can hold on to you just incase I fall.
He kicked off saying who walks him back home?
So I get to the bus stop with no thought for him etc etc
Anyway I said it's okay il just walk around myself-if I fall I fall
Aibu to ask him?
He says it's his only day off

Get a cab… Which I would be doing regardless of footwear.

I think that's lovely.

Not everyone can afford cabs

This!!

In those wonderful early days of a relationship he wouldn’t have heard of you walking alone to the bus stop.
He would have happily walked with you to the ends of the earth.
😉😁😁.

Of course you weren’t being unreasonable to ask! Your husband is no gent, that’s for sure.

Organising one's thoughts, checking they aren't missing some important point, finding what are the important parts before talking to the other half.

It's quite common that someone feels upset, but needs to sort through it to find what the actual issue is.

Often the pile on is an absolute nonsense, and shouldn't be taken too much to one's hearth.

It's sad how MN has been infiltrated by incels. 😔

I don't think you are being unreasonable for asking, it's not something I would ask my husband to do, it just wouldn't occur to me

😂😂😂

I do have good Sorel boots for icy weather, but feel even more confident if I wear Yaktrax too. They are a rubber/metal 'gripper' you can fit to any shoe or boot that grip the ice. Not good inside shops with tiled floors!

I hope you got to the shops OK and found something suitable for icy weather.

This thread made me reminiscence of my misspent youth on the icy, snowy cobbles of the European North - in my high heels of course (thus was the boot fashion of the day). Elegant like a gazelle, agile like a mountain goat I was. Despite heels being the only acceptable option, there weren't women rolling about in the snowdrift on their backs.
Maybe alcohol helped on a night out...so you could try that OP 😁

No matter what you do, don't cramp your style by wellies or socks over shoes.
MOST importantly - don't stop and don't sleep!!

Yaxtrax or small crampons that fit over your shoes/boots have been available for years. They're great in ice.

I think OP is unreasonable to expect BF to walk her a short distance.

Why did he kick off? I mean it's a bit daft to ask him to walk you round because if you fall so will he, but why the tantrum? Is he a man-toddler? A simple, 'don't be silly, you'll be fine' would be sufficient from any adult human being.
And what has it being his only day off got to do with it, anyway?

Why does everyone think it's so weird? I have Dyspraxia and the only two real things I can't do/struggle with is walk on ice and drive.
If its icy and I need to go out, my DH drives me or will walk with me to the bus stop so I'm safe. Its not me being a trad wife or setting feminism back 3000 years, it's a precaution we take so I don't injure myself, which I did yesterday walking on the ice as DH was working and now I have a bruised coccyx for my trouble.

Take some salt and scatter it ahead as you go.

In the context, YANBU and he's being mean.

The OP doesn't have dypraxia though.

I asked my partner if he would do this for me as we were walking the dogs earlier and he said ‘yeah of course, although I’d likely just drag you over with me’, then promptly fell on his arse.

I have good shoes so I was fine. Moral of the story, have decent shoes.

Feminism has nothing to do with it.
Our dd has just been, she needed help with something and it's not bad near us but the path to get to the cars is lethal. I mentioned we were nearly out of bread so she took me to the shop but made sure that I hung on to her on the walk to and from her car.
We did such a good job of raising our kids. We help them and they help us. How it should be.

And if it’s everyone helping everyone then that’s lovely - presumably she would have also offered her father/brother/husband to “hang on” to her? If it’s a women believing she is inherently more vulnerable than her husband then that’s a concern. The OP failed to prepare herself for the weather and then asked a big strong man who can survive walking on the ice to protect her. 🙄 Lots of posters, myself included, find it a bit pointless and cringeworthy - if anything it just adds to the odds of two people falling down! Men get accused of weaponised incompetence on here for a lot less.

But she didn't ask him because he's a man she asked because he had proper shoes on.
Op maybe didn't have the money until now to prepare for the weather.

She doesn't have dispraxia, but she has dispractical shoes and asked for his support to get safely to the bus stop so she could fix it and buy different pair.

@adviceneeded1990 as I pointed out earlier ,if it was my sister or friend who lived nearby I would of asked them
It made no difference it was a man ,he had shoes that had a good grip

Wtf?

She lost her winter shoes when moving and she asked her partner who has good shoes because of his work needs to give her a hand for a few minutes.

I doubt it.