To ask my partner to walk me to the bus stop?

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I'm heading into town
The bus stop is a minute walk around the corner but it's really icy outside and my shoes have no grip at all.
I fell over yesterday and got a bit of a shock.
I'm going to grab some better footwear in town.
I said to my partner do you mind walking me to the bus stop so I can hold on to you just incase I fall.
He kicked off saying who walks him back home?
So I get to the bus stop with no thought for him etc etc
Anyway I said it's okay il just walk around myself-if I fall I fall
Aibu to ask him?
He says it's his only day off

Ffs another one

I can never understand why some posters post on a board to specifically ask if they are being unreasonable and then get really arsey when other posters tell them they are. What is even the point of starting the thread in the first place?

Just because you are married doesn't mean you have to be totally interdependent.

Its been snowy all week and was forecast a few days before, why didn’t you order suitable shoes to be delivered then?!

Another person with a different opinion to you? Shocking.

No, but if you actually like your partner you don't act like an arsehole when they ask for help.

Pop some different shoes on and get on with it? I've navigated walking 2 Labradors on an ungritted country lane perfectly well in wellies this morning and it was pretty icy.

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Are you disabled?

Validation.

He doesn't sound much fun. And this so isn't a feminist issue. If DH had had a fall and was feeling a bit wobbly I'd be more than happy to lend him an arm too. Come to that, if I asked to be walked to the bus stop just for company he probably would if he wasn't busy.

An independent woman can slip on her arse in the snow just as likely as a trembling, reliant woman can.
It's hardly spitting in the face of womens liberation to ask a partner for help.
Once she has bought her sturdy shoes, he won't be required to escort her to the bus stop again.

I don't think you were unreasonable to ask, under the circumstances. I'm not sure why your shoes have no grip and you don't have anything to put over them, but I don't see a point in whinging at you about it when you've said you plan to use this trip to pick up something suitable. Do his shoes also have no grip? Because that's the only way his comment about who will walk him home makes any sense, assuming you've explained the situation and he has the cognitive ability to understand it. There are a lot of variables here, but mainly it sounds like he's being arsey with you for asking for a small one-time favor, which is not a great attribute in a partner especially if you typically do him small favours on request. If he genuinely can't walk with you, why not just say "sorry; I can't"?

Really? If I was trying to relax on my only day off I wouldn't want to needlessly go out in freezing weather

That's just you @FoxInTheForest
If I needed footwear with better grip for this kind of weather I would either go out and buy some on my day off, or even better, buy some shoe grips from Amazon (although Amazon drivers can't get up our road at the moment, so maybe going into town is a better option).

DD has joint issues and DH has been meeting her from the station after work to walk back with her.

He sounds like a control freak to me.

This is MN though where some posters would go on a trek in the Arctic before breakfast.

Who walks him back? Seriously he’s pathetic and lazy.

That's the point of the trip...

I'm kind of assuming OP asked her partner because he has grippy shoes and isn't likely to fall, whereas she doesn't have grippy shoes (which she's trying to sort) and is likely to fall.

Yep

TBH I find most people offer help whether male or female
I've helped a colleague who is unsteady on her feet because she asked. I've also been picked up for work when the snow was bad because a colleague has a 4x4 with winter tyres
If it's icy on the work carpark then a colleague will come out with grit/salt

I wouldn't even need to ask half the time, if I said I was worried about walking somewhere then people would offer help and I'm not even in a relationship with them! Bare minimum

This has turned into something entirely different than what the OP meant .

Regardless of the whole “ what about him getting back “ , “ women don’t need men “, “ why are you going out “ etc etc … it’s taking it away from the point of the post that OP meant.

She feels nervous about something and asked her partner for support and he said no .

If he had said “ I understand you’re nervous , but so am I about walking back “ that would be different . But really a walk to the bus stop to help your partner isn’t a big ask . Even if you thought it was silly , even if you didn’t really want to go out in the cold - she isn’t asking him to come out all day with her , just walk her to the bus stop .

This. Your husband couldn’t have cared less if you fell again if it means having to put himself out for an entire minute to ensure your safety when he has suitable shoes. Not without you getting upset about it or presumably having to talk to him about it multiple times. This was the man you made vows to and vice versa, what an absolute dick of a man.

Ignore all of the misogynistic melodrama of other posters. Of course you’re not a dainty doll 🙄 and you don’t need a man to walk a one minute journey on a normal basis. People on here competitively behave in a purposefully obtuse and unpleasant manner rather than be sensible and helpful then frame it as “just a differing opinion”. 🙄 That however is just speaking more of their character than it ever will of yours.

The ‘thank god chivalry is dead’ folks are always the first to blow a gasket when a man suggests they should split the bill on a date.

A total myth from the type of ickle pwincess who’s afraid of breaking a nail while opening a door.

Then don’t go out.

This is ridiculous.