"Typical woman" comment. AIBU to have said something?

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DH is throwing a party at our house in a few weeks. V much a 'boys party' - about 15 blokes and will definitely NOT be family friendly. This is very rare really - he doesn't go out a huge amount. But he does have a group of blokes he used to hang around with that are very much good time people. I am taking the kids to my parents for the weekend.

We are trying to sell our house but have lots of DIY things to sort before we do that. DH has been very slow on this and I have been doing most of it. We both work full time.

DH said to me "the good thing about the party is I will finally fix all the stuff with the house. want the place to look good for the lads" (we are talking peeling paint, broken bannister etc)

I said "it would be nice if you'd been motivated to do it for the family & our need to move house rather than the lads"

He said "Only a woman could twist a positive thing into something so negative. The house will get done now and typical woman stuff to find a reason why that isnt' a good thing"

Was I being unreasonable to not just be happy the house will get done?

His comment would have the red mist decending over me...the arrogant, selfish patronising shitehawk

I would probably have said the same as you. I would just let what he said go, at least it takes the pressure off you if he's going to do the work.

...and I would NOT be happy about a load of pissed up 'good time' party blokes running amok in my home

Has he always been like this or has he had a bang on the head?

Needs a bloody bang on the head

That’s a shit victim playing comment.

Prick would be my response.

I've been masking my DH to help me sort a part of our garden out for two years. If he suddenly decided to get it done quick because he was having his mates around for a bbq I wouldn't be happy

I'd probably be tempted to remove some fuses from the electrical items they'll be using on the night 🙂

Oh, and hide the screwdrivers as well 😉

Yep. And you should have replied typical bloke won't do fuck all for wife and kids but will for himself. Twat

So you you dated married, and had two kids this man and he's never said anything like this before ever, or is this totally out of the blue? Because I've got to be honest, this is SO misogynistic, unless the missing part of your post is 'i stood there in shock with my mouth open and asked him where the fuck did that comment come from' I'm going to assume he's made comments like this before???

What level of misogynistic bollocks is acceptable? None.

What a loser comment. I have said “typical man: you are more worried about impressing your arsehole friends than you are taking care of your family. Only a man would neglect his household’s needs and then rush to show off for random friends who could give a fuck.” How d’you like that?, then?

I bet you any money he won't do any of the DIY tasks. Why would he want it to look good for a load of blokes off their necks on booze and drugs. He's saying that to wind you up.
What a prick.

What about all of the ‘typical men’ comments on here??

If my DH said that to me I'd find another use for the fucking broken banister.

What a total bollocks.

He hero worships those blokes and it annoys me. He wants to show he's done well for himself (but I actually bought the house!) but they'll all be so pissed they won't care less about the peeling paint! I do everything for moving house project. I will be pleased if he now lifts a finger but I the comments seem so sexist! He has a bit of form for this but it seems more and more explicit and I hate it! I probably have ignored stuff from the past

Honestly I have no idea how done people maintain relationships here. It's a naff comment nothing to get wound up over. A witty comeback is all that was required and move on. Enjoy your weekend away

That's what I was going to say.
MN contains massive sweeping generalisations about men but that's OK.

Cue comments about how this is different in 3...2...1....

When you sell the house take your half and buy somewhere without him

It's a sexist comment that perpetuates stereotypes

Do you mean domestic violence?

What about them? Did the same people who said this isn't acceptable make them? We're not all one poster

So who’s going to be tidying up after the party?

The OP views DIY as a man's job.
Does that not perpetuate sexist stereotypes too?

We are trying to sell our house but have lots of DIY things to sort before we do that. DH has been very slow on this and I have been doing most of it where? Sounds to me like she's been doing loads. I don't see her saying she shouldn't have done any and left it to him