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"Typical woman" comment. AIBU to have said something?

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Yoyoi · 09/01/2025 16:13

DH is throwing a party at our house in a few weeks. V much a 'boys party' - about 15 blokes and will definitely NOT be family friendly. This is very rare really - he doesn't go out a huge amount. But he does have a group of blokes he used to hang around with that are very much good time people. I am taking the kids to my parents for the weekend.

We are trying to sell our house but have lots of DIY things to sort before we do that. DH has been very slow on this and I have been doing most of it. We both work full time.

DH said to me "the good thing about the party is I will finally fix all the stuff with the house. want the place to look good for the lads" (we are talking peeling paint, broken bannister etc)

I said "it would be nice if you'd been motivated to do it for the family & our need to move house rather than the lads"

He said "Only a woman could twist a positive thing into something so negative. The house will get done now and typical woman stuff to find a reason why that isnt' a good thing"

Was I being unreasonable to not just be happy the house will get done?

OP posts:
chickenss · 20/01/2025 21:18

Honestly, I think it's the SM/ online content he's consuming.
I have to admit I caught myself thinking 'typical man' in a negative way, too many times since I've been on MN...

But yes- you're right, he was wrong.

And I wouldn't be happy about the men-only party that's being planned in my house.

Harry12345 · 20/01/2025 21:52

You deserve so much better! I wouldn’t get into bed with him and hold your ground x

Usernamenope · 20/01/2025 22:01

He does sound like he treats you with contempt OP and sees women as inferior. I would be worried your kids are soaking in his behaviour and seeing it as normal.

Could you sit him down and have a calm, serious discussion about how you feel without letting him derail it? You deserve to be treated with respect.

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