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This is grim, yes?

455 replies

loveawineloveacrisp · 09/01/2025 13:50

Gym changing rooms. Woman sat butt naked on vinyl type benches while she rubbed body lotion in for about 10 mins. Bare arse and foof all over furniture which others are using. Put some knickers on ffs, I don't care if you're naked but please don't rub your lady bits all over the furniture 🤮

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loveawineloveacrisp · 09/01/2025 21:31

I love the camaraderie of the women chatting and happily getting on with changing

I love this too and I have some lovely acquaintances who I regularly chat to. But we do it whilst being dressed fairly quickly and not flashing our foofs for an indecent amount of time.

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Globetrote · 09/01/2025 21:31

I’ve seen the bare bum on benches many times and thought how revolting, but twice now I’ve seen women changing SanPro in the changing room - one unwrapped and inserted a tampon, the other was unwrapping and sticking a pad on her knickers. Both should have been done in a toilet cubicle.

Another was a young woman who had clearly had breast implants - they were like huge round melons and completely out of proportion to her very slim frame. I would arrive for spinning class most days after work and get changed while she would be walking around stark naked, slowly doing her hair/makeup and talking to friends, and when I’d come back 1.5 hours later after my class and stretching etc she’d still be stark naked and wandering. It was noticeable because she also spent so much time eyeing her breasts in the mirrors from every angle and jiggling them around. She got so many odd looks, rather than the admiring looks I guess she wanted.

dizzydizzydizzy · 09/01/2025 22:06

In Germany everyone walks round changing rooms naked. Not sure what the attitude to a naked butt on a bench would be though.

CrowleyKitten · 10/01/2025 01:24

I'm very casual about communal changing areas, but bloody hell, put a towel down to sit on.

LlynTegid · 10/01/2025 14:39

Sat on a towel, reasonable. Not otherwise.

5128gap · 10/01/2025 14:45

I think your description is 'grimmer' than her actions tbh. Who on earth describes a woman sitting on a bench as 'rubbing her lady bits all over it". It's the sort of thing a pervy man would say. Ask the gym to put signs up or something.

Lollipop81 · 10/01/2025 18:11

Oh god yes it is grim. Years ago I was in a gym changing room and a naked woman put one leg up on a bench and inserted a tampon 🤣 I was horrified, still am 🤣🤣

Ilovecakey · 10/01/2025 18:27

hopingforthemillion · 09/01/2025 14:03

I always remember when I was a teenager a lady using the hairdryer to dry her bits in the gym changing rooms 😭 scarred me for life!

Oh gosh wouldn't it burn?

StrikeForever · 10/01/2025 18:31

ComtesseDeSpair · 09/01/2025 13:52

When you think of what gyms are used for and all the people who come in to use them for that purpose, it’s probably best just to let somebody fresh out of the shower but without underwear sitting on a bench slide tbh. It’s probably more hygienic than somebody in sweat-soaked leggings straight from their workout sitting there.

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This 👆 people sit down in sweaty, bacteria laden leggings and often put their shoes in footwear on the benches whilst tying laces. I personally wouldn’t sit naked on a gym changing room bench, but that would be so my clean skin didn’t pick up something nasty, not out of concern that my clean skin would contaminate the bench.

StrikeForever · 10/01/2025 18:49

Illinoise · 09/01/2025 14:15

Urgh grim! She could be dripping all over it 🤮

In my gym no one really walks around naked, people stand near their lockers and quickly change, as I do! I don’t hide behind a towel, so I’m completely naked at some points, but I’m quick and discrete about it. If I put lotion on, my underwear goes on first!

She is said to have been about 70. Speaking as a women of 65, I can tell you that being dry as a bone is more likely. I don’t know what kind of fanny issues some women on this thread have had, but a freshly washed and dried body won’t be dripping unless a women is menstruating and failing to wear a tampon.

Some of the posts on this thread suggest a pathological disquiet with the human body. I assume they won’t be putting their own naked bottoms on the bench, so what are they afraid of?

Thinkimlosingmymarbles · 10/01/2025 18:58

Ilovecakey · 10/01/2025 18:27

Oh gosh wouldn't it burn?

Ooh, I love a quick blast all
over with the cold air from the hairdryer to make sure I’m fully dried! I do this surreptitiously though and when it’s quiet . . . Usually behind my towel! Menopause has a lot to answer for . . .

Disturbia81 · 10/01/2025 19:34

Yep gross! Same with people who don't wear underwear.

BoldAmberDuck · 10/01/2025 20:03

loveawineloveacrisp · 09/01/2025 13:50

Gym changing rooms. Woman sat butt naked on vinyl type benches while she rubbed body lotion in for about 10 mins. Bare arse and foof all over furniture which others are using. Put some knickers on ffs, I don't care if you're naked but please don't rub your lady bits all over the furniture 🤮

So true, I hate it

BoldAmberDuck · 10/01/2025 20:06

Thingymajigii · 09/01/2025 16:11

It's so unnecessary. There's a few like it at the David Lloyd I go to. One the other day was a stark naked, 50 something woman, oiling herself all over and really taking her time with the classic leg up and vag on display stance that seems to be popular with this type. Looking like she was loving every second of it and taking her time. I couldn't help but get the feeling it was for my benefit. I just took my stuff and moved to another section.

I think I’d have to say something. Manners and modesty

LittleBoPeepHasLostHerShit · 10/01/2025 20:06

hopingforthemillion · 09/01/2025 14:03

I always remember when I was a teenager a lady using the hairdryer to dry her bits in the gym changing rooms 😭 scarred me for life!

My DH saw a guy in his gym who, after putting his jeans on, pulled them back down halfway to dry his hairy arse with the hairdryer for several minutes.

BitOutOfPractice · 10/01/2025 20:09

loveawineloveacrisp · 09/01/2025 13:55

Exactly. No towel down either.

(BTW I don't sit on there in sweaty leggings either).

I don’t sit on the bench with sweaty leggings in either. I either a. Don’t sit b. Sit on s towel c. Have a shower and don’t sit down at all

SpikeGilesSandwich · 10/01/2025 20:10

Urgh, this thread is giving me flashbacks to the swimming pool changing room with my dad in the 80's, saggy balls and willies everywhere. Thank god for changing villages with cubicles nowadays!

I agree with previous posters that there is definitely an element of performance with some of these gym users, whether they want to make people feel uncomfortable or want attention, it's hard to tell.

lynnepartridge · 10/01/2025 20:16

Changing room, legs go boom, don't put it on zoom

Badhairdayagain · 10/01/2025 20:49

That is just so 🤢. Shower when you get home. Arrive at gym with your gear on already. Find a new gym 😂

InAnyOtherLife · 10/01/2025 20:50

I used to go to a gym where every morning, a lady used to shower, then from her locker produce cereal and a pint of milk, pour it, and wander round the changing area stark naked eating it. Unecessary.

loveawineloveacrisp · 10/01/2025 21:41

Badhairdayagain · 10/01/2025 20:49

That is just so 🤢. Shower when you get home. Arrive at gym with your gear on already. Find a new gym 😂

Well I swim there so the shower is kind of necessary.

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loveawineloveacrisp · 10/01/2025 21:47

5128gap · 10/01/2025 14:45

I think your description is 'grimmer' than her actions tbh. Who on earth describes a woman sitting on a bench as 'rubbing her lady bits all over it". It's the sort of thing a pervy man would say. Ask the gym to put signs up or something.

You're clearly in the minority with that opinion.

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Thanksforyourlackofthought · 10/01/2025 21:48

I’ve had a really shite week and today’s been a total shocker. This thread has had me in absolute fits of laughter. Thanks all. I needed you! x

Ariana12 · 10/01/2025 21:56

This is a good example of why I can't stand the gym. It's all too close for me.

Frillysweetpea · 11/01/2025 00:48

Has she come straight from the shower? I don't mean a quick rinse in her cozzy but from a private cubicle where she has, presumably, used shower gel? If so, I don't see what is wrong with this. To be blunt, she is not going to discharge anything onto the seat in a few minutes. I think it is a pita that women are so coy in the changing rooms, juggling towels and robes, as if we haven't all got the same bits.