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This is grim, yes?

455 replies

loveawineloveacrisp · 09/01/2025 13:50

Gym changing rooms. Woman sat butt naked on vinyl type benches while she rubbed body lotion in for about 10 mins. Bare arse and foof all over furniture which others are using. Put some knickers on ffs, I don't care if you're naked but please don't rub your lady bits all over the furniture 🤮

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NattyTurtle59 · 11/01/2025 00:50

dairydebris · 09/01/2025 15:10

There's a whiff of 'vaginas are filthy and gross' about this thread...

I wouldn't fancy this myself, but fgs let the woman do as she pleases with her own vulva!!! It's not going to harm you I promise.

I agree. It's not something I would do, but couldn't care less if someone else did. Also, I've never had so much discharge ever that it was going to end up on a bench I was sitting on for a few minutes.

Tbh the word "grim" used in this context is far more unappealing.

SnowFrogJelly · 11/01/2025 01:20

*I agree. It's not something I would do, but couldn't care less if someone else did. Also, I've never had so much discharge ever that it was going to end up on a bench I was sitting on for a few minutes.

Tbh the word "grim" used in this context is far more unappealing*

Agree.. MN posters are sooo precious

rainbowlou · 11/01/2025 02:17

I used to work in a spa and a woman shaved her fanny over a bench in the changing room when a therapist was putting her stuff in a locker.
When her friend asked her if she was going to clean it up she said ‘they have cleaning staff here to do that’ and left it…some people are just gross

Icouldusetherapy · 11/01/2025 09:22

hopingforthemillion · 09/01/2025 14:03

I always remember when I was a teenager a lady using the hairdryer to dry her bits in the gym changing rooms 😭 scarred me for life!

I wonder if we were at the same gym?! The management eventually put up signs to say that hairdryers were to be used only on head hair! 🙈 There always one (or two!) I’d say… Who have no awareness of etiquette.

jeaux90 · 11/01/2025 09:44

5128gap · 10/01/2025 14:45

I think your description is 'grimmer' than her actions tbh. Who on earth describes a woman sitting on a bench as 'rubbing her lady bits all over it". It's the sort of thing a pervy man would say. Ask the gym to put signs up or something.

I'm with you, I think some of the comments on here are childish and whiff of internalised misogyny.

It's a changing room and granted I'd never sit on a bench without a towel (mainly because people put their shoes on them to tie their laces). But it is a changing room, for women, with female bodies. If it's an open changing room with hardly any cubicles like my gym then I'm not sure what people expect.

The woman in question was older and quite honestly I love older women, they often have no more f*cks to give about your opinion on their bodies or anything else.

LittleMonks11 · 11/01/2025 10:00

Oh god I see this in my gym and it is bloody grim. Next time I'm going to say something. Why do you need to be naked when applying body lotion and bare buts on the seating.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 11/01/2025 10:08

dizzydizzydizzy · 09/01/2025 22:06

In Germany everyone walks round changing rooms naked. Not sure what the attitude to a naked butt on a bench would be though.

I just knew someone would come up with what they do in Germany/other EU country!

Personally I don’t give a toss what they do in Germany or anywhere else, and that doesn’t make me an uptight prude.

AnnunciataM · 11/01/2025 10:47

I have been in saunas in Germany and yes, people are naked, but I never saw anyone pull the roast chicken move!

loveawineloveacrisp · 11/01/2025 11:18

It takes zero effort or time to put a pair of knickers on though. Completely needless to sit there butt naked for ages.

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Frillysweetpea · 11/01/2025 11:50

Honestly, this thread is awful. There is a lot of body hatred and an assumption that vulvas are dirty. People's hands are likely to be be carrying more germs but even that is unlikely if everyone has come from the shower. Unless a woman is menstruating there's no reason for her not to be sitting naked on a bench. Just because a woman is less inhibited than yourself and more relaxed with her nakedness does not make her an exhibitionist.

dairydebris · 11/01/2025 11:56

Frillysweetpea · 11/01/2025 11:50

Honestly, this thread is awful. There is a lot of body hatred and an assumption that vulvas are dirty. People's hands are likely to be be carrying more germs but even that is unlikely if everyone has come from the shower. Unless a woman is menstruating there's no reason for her not to be sitting naked on a bench. Just because a woman is less inhibited than yourself and more relaxed with her nakedness does not make her an exhibitionist.

Totally agree.
It's not as if anyone's being forced to sit where she's sat or anything.
You lot sit on your towels if you want.
Well done to this lady for being in the gym at 70 and not giving a flying fuck what anyone else thinks.
There's nothing inherently grim about a vulva and you lot are weird for getting so upset about it.

Whatwaswrongwiththatusername · 11/01/2025 12:56

ComtesseDeSpair · 09/01/2025 13:52

When you think of what gyms are used for and all the people who come in to use them for that purpose, it’s probably best just to let somebody fresh out of the shower but without underwear sitting on a bench slide tbh. It’s probably more hygienic than somebody in sweat-soaked leggings straight from their workout sitting there.

Edited

Sorry, I first took that as actually slide. Like up and down the bench, lips and bum, up n down, up n down... 🤢😂

StrikeForever · 11/01/2025 13:04

@Frillysweetpea spot on!

SerafinasGoose · 11/01/2025 13:05

Frillysweetpea · 11/01/2025 11:50

Honestly, this thread is awful. There is a lot of body hatred and an assumption that vulvas are dirty. People's hands are likely to be be carrying more germs but even that is unlikely if everyone has come from the shower. Unless a woman is menstruating there's no reason for her not to be sitting naked on a bench. Just because a woman is less inhibited than yourself and more relaxed with her nakedness does not make her an exhibitionist.

I have to agree. The British apparently have as many hang-ups about nudity as they do about social class, and there's a discomfiting sense that the female body is seen as somehow disgusting on this thread. If your arse is the size of most people's, then sitting knickerless on the furniture is unlikely to result in a rubbing of lady bits (albeit I wouldn't do this on my sofa at home or on the germ-ridden gym seating!)

I'm not coy about nudity, or about women in a women's changing room 'parading around' with their tits out. Nudity in the women's only sauna is also fine. For the most part I can't say I pay much attention to what women in the changing rooms are doing - we all have the same and I've seen it all before.

I laughed like a drain at the roast chicken, down dog and hairdryer stories, but admittedly, these are really fucking weird. It's all about proportion.

dizzydizzydizzy · 11/01/2025 13:22

@GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER I never even suggested anyone was being a prude. I made a simple statement of fact that it is different in other countries.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 11/01/2025 13:27

dizzydizzydizzy · 11/01/2025 13:22

@GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER I never even suggested anyone was being a prude. I made a simple statement of fact that it is different in other countries.

Maybe not, but in such posts it’s so often implied - if not actually stated - that we’re all uptight and prudish.

StrikeForever · 11/01/2025 13:29

Frillysweetpea · 11/01/2025 11:50

Honestly, this thread is awful. There is a lot of body hatred and an assumption that vulvas are dirty. People's hands are likely to be be carrying more germs but even that is unlikely if everyone has come from the shower. Unless a woman is menstruating there's no reason for her not to be sitting naked on a bench. Just because a woman is less inhibited than yourself and more relaxed with her nakedness does not make her an exhibitionist.

Absolutely! The women freaking out about this are the ones with issues.

Leafy74 · 11/01/2025 13:32

Cattery · 09/01/2025 13:57

I’ve never understood the need to be butt naked in gym changing rooms.

To shower?

Cattery · 11/01/2025 14:34

@Leafy74 Don’t be obtuse. That’s not what this thread is about but I’m sure you know that

loveawineloveacrisp · 11/01/2025 14:48

I have no idea how this thread is supposedly awful. It was meant to be a bit of fun, and it certainly made a few people laugh.

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Newsenmum · 11/01/2025 14:51

hopingforthemillion · 09/01/2025 14:03

I always remember when I was a teenager a lady using the hairdryer to dry her bits in the gym changing rooms 😭 scarred me for life!

ARGH

Newsenmum · 11/01/2025 14:52

StrikeForever · 11/01/2025 13:29

Absolutely! The women freaking out about this are the ones with issues.

Oh for goodness sake of course they are! Would you be happy with a penis flopping all over the bench? Thought not.

DungareesTrombonesDinos · 11/01/2025 14:53

I'm going to be muttering ATHLETES FOOT OF THE DOWN BELOW to myself for a while 😂😂

Totally agreed with the OP that it is not difficult to pop a pair of knickers on before (bizarrely) lotioning up your whole body. If only to protect your down below from God knows what on the bench!

orangesandlemonssaythebellsofstclements · 11/01/2025 14:54

Hoppinggreen · 09/01/2025 14:15

it’s probably best just to let somebody fresh out of the shower but without underwear sitting on a bench slide tbh

Am I the only one with a filthy mind?

Nope :D

dairydebris · 11/01/2025 15:01

Newsenmum · 11/01/2025 14:52

Oh for goodness sake of course they are! Would you be happy with a penis flopping all over the bench? Thought not.

Oh for goodness sake back at you! Of course there shouldn't be a penises flapping about in the women's changing room but I'm absolutely positive there will be penises flapping about in the men's and no men going online to post about how grim it is that a penis touched a bench. Get over yourselves.

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