Aibu about Teens new year party disaster

[NiftyWasp94]

Recently my son had a new year's party with all his friends (he's 16) they used the house whilst I was away visiting my parents, I trusted him with the house as he is a mature kid. However when I got home the next day I found that the house had been absolutely trashed, cups and dishes everywhere and the dog had been dyed yellow and pink! I've cleaned the house as much as I can but there are things like holes in the walls and the dining tables leg has been broken. I've since grounded my son taking all his devices away, and I won't be letting him have/go to any more parties especially not in my house. The damages to the wall and things are going to cost upwards of £2500 he is going to be getting a job and paying for all of it.
Is this a reasonable response?

More fool you! I’m 56 and still remember attending these parties as a teen. 😂. Your teenager may be trustworthy but that doesn’t mean all the attendees were. With social media these days parties without parents present are widely publicised and your poor son probably couldn’t stop it. My teenage daughter went to one a few years ago where they thought it clever to flood the basement with a hose. My daughter had left before then. I won't even leave my daughters (17 and 22) in the house alone without a parent overnight. It takes just one nutter to get wind of the lack of parental attendance to cause chaos.

Why haven't you got home insurance?! Ypu realise this is what it's for right?

I’m 42 and I remember when I was 16 my also 16 year old friend had a house party. It was carnage!! I remember coming home to my parents at the time and saying I don’t know why on earth she was allowed to throw the party?! I never ever wanted a house party, absolute disaster!

I'm late to this party 😱 but yes it's unfair.
He's probably feeling incredibly used and embarrassed by mean nasty friends.

Tbh op I think it's totally on you because you decided to abandon your parental responsibilities totally in relation to this. What if someone had got injured, assaulted etc? You're lucky that you are not facing more serious problems to deal with.

I have no idea what you thought would happen? Have you never watched any teen movies?! It’s fine that you trust your son but he clearly can’t control all his friends and this was always at high risk of getting out of hand. He wouldn’t have been able to stop it and it’s your fault for being totally naive about groups of 16 year olds left to their own devices in a house. There is no way I would let my son have a party at my home and not be there. You’re lucky there wasn’t more damage to be honest.

I would put it down to experience but I wouldn't be blaming him, he was left out of his depth and that's negligence on your part as he's a minor.