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Brilliant article about the rape gangs in the UK

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Petrine · 08/01/2025 10:07

I’ve put this on AIBU as it appears to be most read. A brilliant article about the rape gangs and the ensuing cover up.

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2025/01/07/elon-musk-has-ripped-cloak-of-deceit-off-britain-scandal/

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Ereshkigalangcleg · 08/01/2025 20:10

I hold my hands up and admit until fairly recently I didn't know the scale of this. Someone posted the judge's sentencing remarks from Oxford and I read them - how I wish I hadn't, and yet I'm glad I did as it opened my eyes.

I don't know how anyone having read anything about these cases could want us to stop talking about it, brush it under carpet in case it offends any religious groups. The victims are the important ones here and I really can't understand how anyone can offended by investigations and talking about cover ups and the ethnicity of the perpetrators.

That's what many are failing to grasp. Not enough has been done. The "recommendations" (and most people banging on about them here are just parroting what they've read elsewhere because Starmer is falling back on them, they don't actually know what they are) are a start, but they don't go far enough and they are not focussed enough.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 08/01/2025 20:10

OneAmberFinch · 08/01/2025 20:04

I'm personally quite happy to have HappyPandia McGrath here with us on the thread to demonstrate the line of thinking we're all so frustrated with :)

So am I, OneAmberFinch
As with the sharia advocate mentioned I don't bother engaging with these sort of posts, but IMO they're better out in the open so we can all see exactly the attitudes we're dealing with

OpheliaWasntMad · 08/01/2025 20:11

HappyPanda613 · 08/01/2025 12:16

Please stop attributing motives to my posts, I really don’t want to be wrongly labelled as someone who doesn’t care about the lives of young girls.

As for my comment about the crimes being years ago, well they are aren’t they? I think I remember someone saying this was way back in 2013, so a lot of time has passed since then, and lessons have been learned.

What hasn’t been learned, evidently, is the true scandal in this country, which is the mass scale of abuse perpetrated by white British men. Apparently shining a spotlight on the demographic who are most likely by far to abuse young girls is too inconvenient for the far right, don’t you think?

I think the horrific crimes committed by grooming gangs are still ongoing. It’s naive to think this is a historic issue.

napody · 08/01/2025 20:14

FrothyCothy · 08/01/2025 12:03

It’s primarily a male violence issue isn’t it? For that reason I would oppose a specific clause relating to Pakistani and/or Muslim gangs and prefer a commitment to a full inquiry. Anyone working in local government social services will know that girls (and boys) are being groomed, exploited and raped by men of all ethnicities. The “solutions” may be different based on the ethnicity and religious backgrounds of the perpetrators in terms of intervention but the problem is a shared one in terms of being sex based.

Bloody this.
I'm so tired of men squabbling over whether it's Muslim men or French men or whatever. It's you men.

Stirring up anti Muslim hate during the riots made women and children unsafe. You could feel it in my town, it was awful. Name male violence whatever subgroup its coming from, and deal with it.

BananaAppleOrange · 08/01/2025 20:17

napody · 08/01/2025 20:14

Bloody this.
I'm so tired of men squabbling over whether it's Muslim men or French men or whatever. It's you men.

Stirring up anti Muslim hate during the riots made women and children unsafe. You could feel it in my town, it was awful. Name male violence whatever subgroup its coming from, and deal with it.

So you don’t think people should have discussed the problem of sexually offending priests within the Catholic Church or ways to tackle it? They should just have said ‘well they are men meh’

Brefugee · 08/01/2025 20:18

Well no actually, because it simply isn’t possible to be racist against white people, so the sentencing should be different to reflect that.

Racism requires a power relationship, that is for sure. But if someone is attacked because of their race (white) by someone not of that race (brown) then it is racially aggravated and should be treated as such.

If someone brown attacks someone white because they, oh i don't know, looked at them funny, then that's just twats. If someone white attacks someone brown because they looked at them funny - you'd have a tough time trying to prove it wasn't down to race, but it might not be. But i don't believe that "reverse racism" is A Thing. But i do believe that people of one race might target people of another race due to that difference. And that should always be considered an aggravating factor.

BananaAppleOrange · 08/01/2025 20:19

Stirring up anti Muslim hate during the riots made women and children unsafe

I presume you also call out making Jewish women and children feel unsafe with the antisemitism exhibited at Gaza protests?

sailorJulia · 08/01/2025 20:19

SharpOpalNewt · 08/01/2025 12:42

The problem with child abuse of this kind is largely MEN.

Not Pakistani men, men as a whole. Not all men but a substantial enough minority. Look at the Church of England! Not many Pakistanis there.

The typical right wing windbags and nutters are trying to stir up racial hatred.

This. Misogyny is everywhere. My father is a paedophile. Not Pakistani

JRSKSSBH · 08/01/2025 20:19

HappyPanda613 · 08/01/2025 20:00

Why are people casually mocking the idea of white privilege as if it isn’t a tangible, identifiable facet of the human experience? Have the Americans all of a sudden joined the thread?

No, love, just Brits who have a good radar for student politics. I think we’ll hold off appointing you head of community relations just yet.

napody · 08/01/2025 20:20

whereaw · 08/01/2025 19:59

Excellent article.

I can't understand why anyone wouldn't want an enquiry into this.

@HappyPanda613 It's a comforting place to argue from with dictionary definitions, and yes many 'great minds' would agree with you. It's the definition after all.

But think about the lived reality. A group of men happy to rape a child because she is white and therefore lesser than them? If it is not racist, what is it?
In a thought experiment where those men and that girl were the only people who existed, it would be racist.
But in our world, because there are other people (unrelated to this case) it is not?

She's female, and 'therefore lesser than them'. And she's 'other men's girl' not 'our community's girl'. The primary force here is misogyny. Every comment, every article, needs to centre that. And Elon Musk and Trump are just the same- white women are 'ours for repopulation purposes, not the Muslim men's.'

They're putting through the death penalty for abortion in the USA, and all Musk can talk about is bloody Starmer?

Yes, obviously rape gangs need dealing with. But centring women and the male violence against them is the way to actually get somewhere with that.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 08/01/2025 20:20

@JRSKSSBH Grin

BananaAppleOrange · 08/01/2025 20:21

Racism requires a power relationship

so individual white girls in care hold power of gangs of adult Muslim men?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 08/01/2025 20:21

BananaAppleOrange · 08/01/2025 20:19

Stirring up anti Muslim hate during the riots made women and children unsafe

I presume you also call out making Jewish women and children feel unsafe with the antisemitism exhibited at Gaza protests?

Quite.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 08/01/2025 20:22

The "recommendations" ... don't go far enough and they are not focussed enough

They were never going to, @Ereshkigalangcleg; the inquiries have been government funded and governments aren't going to encourage the disclosure of issues they'd rather not confront

As for the claims that "Starmer's dealing with it", his interest (such as it is) will last only as long as the headlines do, after which it'll all be kicked down to some government committee - the closest thing to eternal life we may ever know - so that future questions can be deflected

I guarantee it

napody · 08/01/2025 20:23

Ereshkigalangcleg · 08/01/2025 20:21

Quite.

I was commenting on my own community and observations. Where there isn't a concentrated, visible, easily identifiable Jewish population to be directly targeted by racist rioters.

whereaw · 08/01/2025 20:23

@napody but sometimes (all the time) it is more complex than one primary force. We can't reduce everything to one thing.
To say this is important and needs further inquiry is not to say all other things aren't important too.

JRSKSSBH · 08/01/2025 20:24

HappyPanda613 · 08/01/2025 20:00

Why are people casually mocking the idea of white privilege as if it isn’t a tangible, identifiable facet of the human experience? Have the Americans all of a sudden joined the thread?

The simplistic nature of your thinking is striking. Do class, sex, sexual orientation, socio-economic background, and educational attainment matter or are you ONLY capable of seeing things through the prism of race?

Brefugee · 08/01/2025 20:25

HappyPanda613 · 08/01/2025 20:00

Why are people casually mocking the idea of white privilege as if it isn’t a tangible, identifiable facet of the human experience? Have the Americans all of a sudden joined the thread?

are you writing an essay on Critical Race Theory though?

I think you might want to revise intersectionality a bit more. Because it posits that you can be both part of an oppressed group in some respects, and part of the privileged group in others. So for sure, those white girls are probably privileged in some aspects of their lives (though poor white working class girls don't come anywhere near the top of any piles i can think of) and oppressed in others (the way they have been targeted by grooming/rape gangs)

The problem with things like critical race theory and intersectionality is that they have been taken by idiots and applied, badly, where there needs to be more nuance.

napody · 08/01/2025 20:27

whereaw · 08/01/2025 20:23

@napody but sometimes (all the time) it is more complex than one primary force. We can't reduce everything to one thing.
To say this is important and needs further inquiry is not to say all other things aren't important too.

Things can be complex and also have an overriding primary force. Here, misogyny. And skimming over that factor is a sure sign that the individual concerned (Musk) is not motivated by the issue itself, but is misusing it for other purposes. And yes, that matters.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 08/01/2025 20:27

I know why well meaning people come out with the "but all men rape" line and yes, they do. But this is a specific group of related crimes which share common features and was characterised by people of all races who had a duty of care to teenage and younger girls either genuinely feeling, or conveniently pretending that they couldn't do anything because of the respective races of the perpetrators and victims. This has been proven in Rotherham, where there was an inquiry, it's not in any doubt. Please stop with all the fucking whataboutery. Show some empathy to the young girls brutally violated by adult men.

TwigletsAndRadishes · 08/01/2025 20:28

Bernardscheesyhat · 08/01/2025 19:18

This is another total bollocks post. Data was previously unavailable because not collected. People of minority ethnic origin were - deep breath as she repeats it again - probably born here

So when you say ‘men of African origin’ I think you mean black males? Because again these will be mostly British males possibly second, third, fourth generation. What is it you want? Because the UK has been multicultural for a long long time. My school was ethnically diverse in the early 80s. Yes there are divisions and issues and difficulties with some communities. We face them and find ways through them. You can’t go back to the 19th century.

12% of prisoners are foreign nationals. The most represented nationality other than British is Albanian, followed by Polish, Romanian (most of whom I am guessing will be Roma) Irish (most of whom I am guessing will be Irish Traveller) then Jamaican, Lithuanian, Portuguese, Indian and Iraqi.

No African countries were mentioned individually.

Interestingly, while the UK has a Muslim population of 7% Muslims make up 18% of the prisoner population. This is very unusual as with every other religion the percentage in the prison population either closely mirrors the percentage in British society as a whole, or it is under-represented. Only Muslims seem to have a habit of ending up in prison at a far greater rate propoertionally speaking more than they exist in the general population.

napody · 08/01/2025 20:29

Ereshkigalangcleg · 08/01/2025 20:27

I know why well meaning people come out with the "but all men rape" line and yes, they do. But this is a specific group of related crimes which share common features and was characterised by people of all races who had a duty of care to teenage and younger girls either genuinely feeling, or conveniently pretending that they couldn't do anything because of the respective races of the perpetrators and victims. This has been proven in Rotherham, where there was an inquiry, it's not in any doubt. Please stop with all the fucking whataboutery. Show some empathy to the young girls brutally violated by adult men.

I think the 'what about Jewish women and girls' is the only whataboutery on display here.

You really have no right to comment on empathy shown to those poor girls. I'm saying that what Musk is doing is not motivated by empathy... do you think it is?

Brefugee · 08/01/2025 20:31

HappyPanda613 · 08/01/2025 20:04

Okay, well I’m out, this is now reaching X levels of insanity and hateful rhetoric and I need a mental health break badly.

are you gen Z or Alpha? because boy oh boy you lot need to learn that robust discussion isn't hateful rhetoric.

And you should hang around here to learn a bit of resilience.

TBH on X i am very careful about who i follow and what i "like" and i mostly see football and cats. This is the internet, YMMV

Feelingathomenow · 08/01/2025 20:32

napody · 08/01/2025 20:29

I think the 'what about Jewish women and girls' is the only whataboutery on display here.

You really have no right to comment on empathy shown to those poor girls. I'm saying that what Musk is doing is not motivated by empathy... do you think it is?

I’m interested in why you think this poster has “ no right” to talk about empathy.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 08/01/2025 20:32

I think the 'what about Jewish women and girls' is the only whataboutery on display here.

🙄 Someone else made the point, in response to someone saying about "anti Muslim hate during the riots" which in itself was whataboutery when it comes to the actual reality of these gangs, and the poster was responding in kind.

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