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To be annoyed that my DD teacher did this

214 replies

DramaLama0 · 06/01/2025 21:54

Waiting to be dismissed at end of the day and it was raining heavy. Teacher had a very large umbrella. A few children were there including my DD. DD and some others moved and starting moving towards the umbrella to go under and all of a sudden teacher saw and did a turn so that the other children were under it but not my DD. It didn't matter too much as she was going to be dismissed soon anyway but not until she had seen me. I felt sad that she was the only one not under it and the teacher seemed to move with purpose so she couldn't be under it, but the other children left to be dismissed were?

OP posts:
Moll2020 · 08/01/2025 18:21

Are you really sure? The end of the day in school, watching all the children, watching who collects them etc is very busy and stressful.

Coldautumnmornings · 08/01/2025 18:31

There is absolutely no way I would jump to the conclusion that she didn't on purpose. Have you any idea the amount of distractions that that teacher will have going on at pick up time, it's ridiculous to think she did it on purpose. Poor teacher.

Buffs · 08/01/2025 19:29

Tiswa · 06/01/2025 22:48

I think you have politely what my DS would call main character syndrome where you saw it and immediately made it about your DD and a deliberate act rather than the 90% far more realistic option it was a genuine oversight

This. ‘Main character syndrome’ - fantastic.

blackbird77 · 08/01/2025 20:02

This is utterly ludicrous. You’ve gone for the worst possible assumption based on absolutely nothing instead of considering several of the considerably more likely and logical scenarios.

— teacher genuinely didn’t realise. Perhaps was distracted by a sound, her name being called, an event, a touch which made her turn.

— teacher was strategically trying to keep as many children dry as possible so turned or moved her body to give coverage to the most amount of children. Your child wasn’t in that lucky position with the majority so was left uncovered for literally a few seconds.

— teacher was alternating between children to give some of the chance to be out of the rain for a few seconds. Taking turns. She was holding it over your daughter and then may have switched to a group of children to give them coverage. The fact that she was holding it over your daughter originally and not over some others and then switched to holding it over some others and not your daughter implies this.

— Perhaps she saw you come to collect your daughter so knew within a few seconds your daughter would be taken home so instead held it over some children who might be standing in the rain longer whilst waiting for parents she hadn’t seen yet.

— teacher might have been responding to another child saying something like “Miss can I have some umbrella!”

I dont understand why you have immediately gone for the least likely scenario based on no prior pattern of behaviour whatsoever and dismissed the above? The fact that she was originally holding the umbrella over your daughter surely means she is nice to/likes your daughter. If she genuinely despised her, and wasn’t professional about hiding it then surely she wouldn’t have given your daughter any coverage at all?!

Bizzare

Lovemeapickledgherkin · 08/01/2025 20:10

DramaLama0 · 06/01/2025 21:56

She did a 360 to avoid my DD going under it.

Surely this means she was back where she started? ……
I’ll see myself out

coxesorangepippin · 08/01/2025 20:13

This is as bad as the replacement sticker thread

coxesorangepippin · 08/01/2025 20:13

Surely this means she was back where she starte

^

Yip.

Get back in!

blackbird77 · 08/01/2025 20:13

Lovemeapickledgherkin · 08/01/2025 20:10

Surely this means she was back where she started? ……
I’ll see myself out

Exactly!

Even if it was a 180 degree turn, it wouldn’t affect her daughters coverage considering that an umbrella is circular shaped and symmetrical.

blackbird77 · 08/01/2025 20:15

coxesorangepippin · 08/01/2025 20:13

This is as bad as the replacement sticker thread

Oh god don’t remind me. That sticker thread is making me angry all over just thinking about it. I think people are becoming more insane recently for some unknown reason.

ChimneyRock · 08/01/2025 20:34

Never mind the sticker thread - we seem to have resurrected "cancel the cheque," what with all the comments about 360 degree turns.

sushibelt · 08/01/2025 22:28

Op's concerned a teacher is bullying her child and everyone's just banging on about 360 degrees. They just can't help themselves can they..ooh oooh I spot something clever to comment on to make OP feel small. Is that what it is?? How about you do a 180 or 360 or whatever and look in the mirror.

DoggoQuestions · 08/01/2025 22:35

sushibelt · 08/01/2025 22:28

Op's concerned a teacher is bullying her child and everyone's just banging on about 360 degrees. They just can't help themselves can they..ooh oooh I spot something clever to comment on to make OP feel small. Is that what it is?? How about you do a 180 or 360 or whatever and look in the mirror.

Not holding an umbrella over someone is bullying?

Fuck! My 5' nothing arse has been unable to share an umbrella with pretty much anyone. Ever. I will immediately raise my arms high above my head and invite all of sundry to share in my umbrella to repent my sins of umbrellas past.

(Maybe people are more focused on the 360° thing because the OPs gripe is just so utterly incomprehensible it's ludicrous!)

MoreIcedLattePlease · 08/01/2025 23:02

As teachers, when we talk about "that parent" this is it.

Foostit · 08/01/2025 23:05

MoreIcedLattePlease · 08/01/2025 23:02

As teachers, when we talk about "that parent" this is it.

@MoreIcedLattePlease
Totally!
Although it’s fast becoming more a case of ‘those parents’

whippy1981 · 08/01/2025 23:07

SwingTheMonkey · 08/01/2025 07:58

I was a teacher for many years, actually. You assumed I have no experience of being a teacher. Assumptions aren’t helpful, are they?

I didn’t assume my understanding of the comment was correct, unlike you. None of us know what she meant and she hasn't been back to clarify. You’re making things up and are making yourself look rather silly.

You said I was wrong based on your assumption that teachers are bad. You assumed you were write based on illogical probability! Yeah so your assumptions weren't helpful at all which was what I was saying. Thanks for confirming your assumptions were not helpful.

So you assumed and now playing it down that you didn't assume. Yeah you did and assumed the least likely option.

So were you a teacher who did this then is that why you assumed it?

VegTrug · 08/01/2025 23:22

By 360 do you mean 180? 360 would mean she ended up where she started

Topseyt123 · 08/01/2025 23:33

DramaLama0 · 06/01/2025 21:56

She did a 360 to avoid my DD going under it.

I'm trying to picture the scene here. 🤣🤣 The teacher twirled around fully ballerina style with an umbrella over her head!! 🤣🤣 All to avoid even a smidgen of its precious shelter gracing OP's DD.

OP should complain directly to the headteacher and also take it to Ofsted and the local press. Or for good measure, why not a sad face photo in the Daily Mail? 😁

This is all just so utterly ridiculous.

Topseyt123 · 08/01/2025 23:37

sushibelt · 08/01/2025 22:28

Op's concerned a teacher is bullying her child and everyone's just banging on about 360 degrees. They just can't help themselves can they..ooh oooh I spot something clever to comment on to make OP feel small. Is that what it is?? How about you do a 180 or 360 or whatever and look in the mirror.

What!!??

I've never held an umbrella over anyone, adult or child. I must be a horrendous bully.

Topseyt123 · 08/01/2025 23:52

Copperoliverbear · 06/01/2025 23:59

I'd just mention it to her on the quiet, I'd say I saw what happened you purposely moved away from her, and I don't care wether you have bonded with her or not but you do not treat her any differently from the other children, I will be watching closely to make sure this doesn't happen again and I may also pick her up early sometimes just to check things are going well.
But one thing you should know my child will not be made to feel uncomfortable and will not be treated any differently to any other child, you will remain professional at all times.
Before anyone starts mentioning about the message seeming a little threatening, I work in a school, sometimes people have their favourites and make it clear, there's no way I'd put up with it, 100% it happens I see it all the time

What a massive load of utter bollocks!

Lafee · 09/01/2025 01:04

DramaLama0 · 06/01/2025 21:58

Btw she is 5

Your daughter is 5... her teacher was acting less maturely.....

Cherrytree024 · 09/01/2025 05:35

I don’t believe the teacher did this out of spite (teacher myself) when the weather is that bad you really want all the children dismissed safely! Unless there have been other incidents with this specific teacher I wouldn’t think much of it. Though, as a mum I can understand your initial feelings at that point but it could have been nothing

Cherrytree024 · 09/01/2025 05:40

As a teacher, I have seen certain teachers have their favourites! It is sad but true and can influence their behaviour so horribly. I understand some children can be a pain in the backside but if you’re choosing a career in working with children- that’s a decision you made and if you can’t deal with them with a little extra patience when required then make another choice in your job! I get that sometimes certain children need additional reminders etc but when you see certain behaviours of teachers or the way they talk about particular children they dislike it irks me as a parent also.

Diomi · 09/01/2025 06:28

Copperoliverbear · 06/01/2025 23:59

I'd just mention it to her on the quiet, I'd say I saw what happened you purposely moved away from her, and I don't care wether you have bonded with her or not but you do not treat her any differently from the other children, I will be watching closely to make sure this doesn't happen again and I may also pick her up early sometimes just to check things are going well.
But one thing you should know my child will not be made to feel uncomfortable and will not be treated any differently to any other child, you will remain professional at all times.
Before anyone starts mentioning about the message seeming a little threatening, I work in a school, sometimes people have their favourites and make it clear, there's no way I'd put up with it, 100% it happens I see it all the time

😂 I really hope you are joking or don’t actually work in a school!

SwingTheMonkey · 09/01/2025 06:41

whippy1981 · 08/01/2025 23:07

You said I was wrong based on your assumption that teachers are bad. You assumed you were write based on illogical probability! Yeah so your assumptions weren't helpful at all which was what I was saying. Thanks for confirming your assumptions were not helpful.

So you assumed and now playing it down that you didn't assume. Yeah you did and assumed the least likely option.

So were you a teacher who did this then is that why you assumed it?

Edited

Are you ok? You’re talking absolute garbage.

AgentJohnson · 09/01/2025 06:52

I think you have politely what my DS would call main character syndrome where you saw it and immediately made it about your DD and a deliberate act rather than the 90% far more realistic option it was a genuine oversight.

This!!!!!!!!