To be annoyed that my DD teacher did this

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Waiting to be dismissed at end of the day and it was raining heavy. Teacher had a very large umbrella. A few children were there including my DD. DD and some others moved and starting moving towards the umbrella to go under and all of a sudden teacher saw and did a turn so that the other children were under it but not my DD. It didn't matter too much as she was going to be dismissed soon anyway but not until she had seen me. I felt sad that she was the only one not under it and the teacher seemed to move with purpose so she couldn't be under it, but the other children left to be dismissed were?

You do know teachers have a lot on their mind all the time? They really don't have time to deliberately decide to exclude one child from the shelter of an umbrella. They were mostly likely trying to check for parents arriving, watching the other children didn't leave without their adult and noticing that some other children were getting wet. Your child momentarily wasn't in their mind. Teaching really isn't the best job to choose for vindictive sorts who hate children and like to wind up parents.

Your point of view as a parent who only sees their child's needs and assumes the teacher is only thinking about their child, and only then to be mean to them, is ridiculous frankly (but sadly not as uncommon as it should be - yes I'm a teacher.)

as lovely as teachers are - a full day of 4/5 years old they are likely exhausted and not completely tuned in. I remeber my son at 5 coming out of school so exhausted the teacher had hung his school book bag around his neck so it was hanging in front of him. I was furious - especially since he ended up having a 40 degree temp. Another time my daughter also 5 came out squishing in her shoes - she’d wet herself and was drenched but no one noticed. It’s upsetting but teachers only have two eyes and thirty kids they are going to miss stuff

At the end of the day there are a million things going on in a teacher's head. Frankly I would not have had the headspace to find room to deliberately avoid a particular kid being under my umbrella.

Though actually I never bothered taking an umbrella out to protect the kids, so she's a more thoughtful teacher than I was.

Here, let me hand you a grip. You really need one.

The world is not out to get you. It is not out to get your child. Teachers are not standing around the playground or classroom deliberating on ways to ostracize or hurt children in general or your child in particular.

Shit happens. Get over it.

That's so funny🤣

You really need to just let stuff like this go. It’s going to be a long slog getting through your kids’ school years if you get so wound up over such trivial things.

How long did you stand and watch umbrellagate unfolding OP? Why didn’t you rush forward with your own umbrella to rescue the situation before your daughter literally drowned before your eyes?

Very appropriate username OP

I was going to say that.

Oh FFS! 🙄😂
If this is a serious post then the fact that you have taken the time to write this post is even worse than you actually thinking this in the first place!

Which of the umbrella children should have been left out instead of your DD?

No!! Do NOT do this.
Well, not unless you want to be the talk of the staffroom with them all thinking you're a loon.

Absolutely this! 😆🎯

The children should be like penguins, each taking turns to be on the edge of the huddle, where it's colder.

Hahaha!

I did wonder that myself.

Too busy taking mental notes for this Mumsnet thread, I think.

Omg, I’m going to follow you for the next 10 years as if you think this is a problem you better get on the gin for the future with children.

I hope the teacher reads this and posts her own counter thread.

“AIBU to let a 5 YO stand in the rain on the basis that her Mum is a pain in the arse?”

”Can someone recommend an umbrella that houses one adult and no more than 4 small children at any one time?”

”WWYD - school pupil’s Mum is posting about me on the internet”

”Advice pls - how to get rainwater out of suede boots”

”I just quit my teaching job - AMA”

I'd just mention it to her on the quiet, I'd say I saw what happened you purposely moved away from her, and I don't care wether you have bonded with her or not but you do not treat her any differently from the other children, I will be watching closely to make sure this doesn't happen again and I may also pick her up early sometimes just to check things are going well.
But one thing you should know my child will not be made to feel uncomfortable and will not be treated any differently to any other child, you will remain professional at all times.
Before anyone starts mentioning about the message seeming a little threatening, I work in a school, sometimes people have their favourites and make it clear, there's no way I'd put up with it, 100% it happens I see it all the time

😂😂😂

god I hope OP and posters like this are joking, but I suspect not all of them are. Who’d be a teacher, eh?

As an ex-Reception teacher, hometime is, by far, the most stressful part of the day. Have you ever had to dismiss 30 4 and 5 year olds whilst checking they have all their things (which is a LOT in the Winter - book bag, reading book, lunch bag, water bottle, jumpers, coats, hats, scarfs, gloves, notes for the parents, knickers, heads screwed on...), greeting care givers (often unknown so password/phonecall needed), trying to avoid the rain, passing on important messages to some care givers, ensuring every child and care giver have actually seen each other before you dismiss the next child, worrying about timings as you have a meeting 5 whole minutes after dismissal time has started, saying goodbye to the children...
And all with a smile!
No, you haven't added to do that?? If you had experienced it you would understand that the absolute last thing on a teacher's mind is excluding/ostracising a child. Never mind the fact that - as a teacher - the last thing they would ever want to do is ignore a child!

At the end of the school day the teacher has to scan the playground for 30 parents (some are different daily) and if it is raining they all have their hoods up so they are harder to recognise. Then he/she has to ensure the children do not wander off while she is scanning for parents and then ensuring the correct child goes with the correct parent. A teacher will hold about 3 or 4 parents in their memory and then call said children. Then repeat multiple times over - often repeatedly for the same children who do not listen. Then there will be parents trying to talk to them as they do this which is a distraction and then some random person will show up who doesn't have permission for the child and they will have to deal with that.

Trust me your child's teacher will not have even registered as this is a pressure point time in the day and so busy that getting them out and with the correct parent is the priority.

You work in a school and THAT is your response??!! Jesus H Christ.

Christ on a bike

THIS!

I simply can't believe that you're posting about something so ridiculous OP! If you get yourself in a tizz over something like this when your child is 5, I doubt very much that you will survive her teenage years. Get a grip!