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DramaLama0 · 2025-01-06T21:54:48+00:00

Waiting to be dismissed at end of the day and it was raining heavy. Teacher had a very large umbrella. A few children were there including my DD. DD and some others moved and starting moving towards the umbrella to go under and all of a sudden teacher saw and did a turn so that the other children were under it but not my DD. It didn't matter too much as she was going to be dismissed soon anyway but not until she had seen me. I felt sad that she was the only one not under it and the teacher seemed to move with purpose so she couldn't be under it, but the other children left to be dismissed were?

Girasole02 · 07/01/2025 08:28

It's posts like this that make me realise that quitting was absolutely the right decision.

CouldItBeAnyMoreObvious · 07/01/2025 08:34

EdithBond · 07/01/2025 08:17

Maybe you’re joking. Even so, don’t you think it’s a bit harsh to say that?

People come on threads to air their worries, test their opinions or have a laugh. Perfectly legitimate to express what’s bothering you.

And most replies don’t think she needed to ‘protect’ her DD other than by taking her home. It was raining in the playground. If kids don’t have their own umbrella, their coat will get wet. As it would if it was raining when she went to school. The teacher was clearly doing their best to shelter the kids, which they weren’t obligated to do. And kids have to learn to be assertive rather than their parents intervening on their behalf. If she wanted to go under the umbrella with the others kids, she could have done.

Kids can withstand heavy rain. Mine used to play football in it in shorts.

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My response was an effort to point out that the OP made this out to be a big thing and that her child seemingly was deliberately abandoned to a watery fate by this teacher who walked off with the umbrella.
Numerous PPs have offered advice - largely that the teacher was not deliberately being mean to the child
The OP has not been back to answer the many questions PPs have posed
So, slightly sarcastically, I admit, I wondered why this wasn't escalated by the OP if they thought their child was being deliberately excluded by the teacher
Umbrella-gate on a Tuesday morning...

rainbowstardrops · 07/01/2025 08:36

I'd just mention it to her on the quiet, I'd say I saw what happened you purposely moved away from her, and I don't care wether you have bonded with her or not but you do not treat her any differently from the other children, I will be watching closely to make sure this doesn't happen again and I may also pick her up early sometimes just to check things are going well.
But one thing you should know my child will not be made to feel uncomfortable and will not be treated any differently to any other child, you will remain professional at all times.
Before anyone starts mentioning about the message seeming a little threatening, I work in a school, sometimes people have their favourites and make it clear, there's no way I'd put up with it, 100% it happens I see it all the time

If you had said that to me, I'd have taken it to SLT and they'd be speaking to you!
Baffling that you bloody work in a school too!
People like you, are part of the reason why I left working in a school after nearly 15 years there. Batshit.

Whydoeseveryonewanttoargue · 07/01/2025 08:55

rainbowstardrops · 07/01/2025 08:36

I'd just mention it to her on the quiet, I'd say I saw what happened you purposely moved away from her, and I don't care wether you have bonded with her or not but you do not treat her any differently from the other children, I will be watching closely to make sure this doesn't happen again and I may also pick her up early sometimes just to check things are going well.
But one thing you should know my child will not be made to feel uncomfortable and will not be treated any differently to any other child, you will remain professional at all times.
Before anyone starts mentioning about the message seeming a little threatening, I work in a school, sometimes people have their favourites and make it clear, there's no way I'd put up with it, 100% it happens I see it all the time

If you had said that to me, I'd have taken it to SLT and they'd be speaking to you!
Baffling that you bloody work in a school too!
People like you, are part of the reason why I left working in a school after nearly 15 years there. Batshit.

Too right. Everyone is so quick to be offended.

Parents like this (entitled and presumptive without any information) are the absolute worst.

Why on earth would you ever speak to the teacher like this. Batshit crazy is right.

KittenPause · 07/01/2025 09:14

Tbh I wouldn't have even noticed unless it was a significant and deliberate move that you couldn't help but notice

I think you probably did notice it as a deliberate action to exclude your DD from the umbrella

However not much you can do really

Whydoeseveryonewanttoargue · 07/01/2025 09:29

AbbyBradley · 07/01/2025 06:27

@DramaLama0 Feeling sorry for your daughter and yourself after reading about the teacher's spiteful behaviour 💗
I hope your daughter didn't notice what actually happened and that it seems she was picked on by the teacher.
No matter how many people here say that a teacher is not capable of such horrid behaviour - yes they are!

I'm really interested to know how many of the people who have commented here are teachers/work in a school or are related to/are friends with teachers!
It's so very strange that the commenters just can't seem to accept that a teacher could have a nasty, spiteful mind and choose to bully a child or several children.

Anyhow, like I said earlier, I hope your daughter didn't realise how horridly the teacher behaved towards her and that she's not affected by it. Best wishes to you both 💗💗

Not a teacher here but your need to be offended by a teacher who thought enough to bring an umbrella for the kids doesnt smack of an awful human being.

It wasn’t spiteful. You have completely read this wrong and overreacted.

No one agrees with you. You want to be offended about NOTHING. Seriously get a grip.

BarbaraHoward · 07/01/2025 09:41

The teacher wasn't trying hard enough. Everyone knows that if you move an umbrella quick enough, everyone nearby gets sprayed with water from it. Missed a trick there, teacher.

Whydoeseveryonewanttoargue · 07/01/2025 09:44

pastapestoparmesan · 07/01/2025 07:39

I love a teacher complaint thread - still waiting for one about me! This has to be up there as possibly the number one most batshit crazy teacher complaint on mumsnet ever. I wonder if the OP feels silly yet? Oh well, of I go to pointlessly victimise children for the day…

Absolutely right. Take comfort no one agrees with the OP and thinks she is crazy for bringing this up. I’m sure you are an awesome teacher with no complaints to be made, but maybe just in case consider investing in a larger umbrella 😂.

ChimneyRock · 07/01/2025 10:10

God, I can't even manage to let my husband under my umbrella without it shifting so he one of us gets wet. I have been known to take a golfing umbrella out to the school gate at the end of the day and I usually have a little crowd of bodies shuffling up close to try to get under it. It's a crazy game!
Mental note to self: ditch the umbrella and have a hooded coat on standby instead in case any crazy loon parents at our place have a similar mindset to some on here.

JiminaSlump · 07/01/2025 11:02

OP and that copperoliver poster need to do that thing where they point at their own eyes and then at the teacher, so she knows they're watching her. Preferably after giving copperoliver's speech. If they could merge backwards into a shrub a la Homer Simpson, it would make it perfect.

fitzwilliamdarcy · 07/01/2025 11:07

Jesus. Who'd be a teacher?

AbbyBradley · 07/01/2025 11:38

@Whydoeseveryonewanttoargue I'm not too fussed if anybody agrees with me or not tbh. Which is nice 🤭

ChimneyRock · 07/01/2025 12:46

fitzwilliamdarcy · 07/01/2025 11:07

Jesus. Who'd be a teacher?

Well, exactly. Unfortunately, an increasing number of teachers have been asking themselves the same question and resigning.
One day, the OP and anyone on here suggesting she "tell the teacher she's watching her" will be back on here complaining about continual supply teachers and lack of continuity and "why hasn't my dd got a proper maths teacher" etc.

I've never read anything this ridiculous on MN before and I've been on here for getting on for 20 years and have read some batshit stuff in that time.

Whydoeseveryonewanttoargue · 07/01/2025 14:26

AbbyBradley · 07/01/2025 11:38

@Whydoeseveryonewanttoargue I'm not too fussed if anybody agrees with me or not tbh. Which is nice 🤭

Fair enough and healthy. We agree to disagree on your over reactive approach to this complete non issue (my opinion).

Getupat8amnow · 07/01/2025 14:33

Threads like this make me so glad I am a retired teacher.

Foostit · 07/01/2025 14:39

AbbyBradley · 07/01/2025 06:27

@DramaLama0 Feeling sorry for your daughter and yourself after reading about the teacher's spiteful behaviour 💗
I hope your daughter didn't notice what actually happened and that it seems she was picked on by the teacher.
No matter how many people here say that a teacher is not capable of such horrid behaviour - yes they are!

I'm really interested to know how many of the people who have commented here are teachers/work in a school or are related to/are friends with teachers!
It's so very strange that the commenters just can't seem to accept that a teacher could have a nasty, spiteful mind and choose to bully a child or several children.

Anyhow, like I said earlier, I hope your daughter didn't realise how horridly the teacher behaved towards her and that she's not affected by it. Best wishes to you both 💗💗

Yes that’s right. That awful teacher deliberately picking on that poor child. None of the innocent explanations on here are relevant because all teachers are evil and have nothing better to do than to be deliberately cruel to children. None of them can be trusted and parents need to beware.
On the other hand, all parents are amazing and have so much respect for teachers. They never misinterpret a teacher’s innocent actions. 🙄🙄

Foostit · 07/01/2025 14:40

fitzwilliamdarcy · 07/01/2025 11:07

Jesus. Who'd be a teacher?

@fitzwilliamdarcy Not me anymore and bollocks like this was definitely a contributing factor! 😂

Mumofmarauders · 07/01/2025 15:20

Unless there is a load of backstory then I'm positive that you're overthinking it and it was inadvertent. It can be hard for the teacher to even see where everyone is in the rain, let alone work out how everyone will be affected by a movement. But I completely get why you'd feel that way, seeing your wee girl standing alone in the rain 😭 My instincts with my kids are highly strung (which is weird as I am very easy going about everything else) and I often have to talk myself down from things like this x

zingally · 07/01/2025 17:02

Katy232425 · 06/01/2025 22:02

You are massively overthinking. Maybe she misstepped, moved closer to hear a child who was speaking to her, thought she heard someone calling her, just simply didn’t see your daughter or was distracted by trying to keep eyes on children and look out for parents etc etc. Maybe none of them were meant to be under it and she just couldn’t avoid all of them. Or there was no space. Or she felt crowded. Presumably your daughter was wearing a coat?!

Unless you’re going to drip feed that this is part of a long pattern of deliberate unkindness to your daughter I think you need to put it out of your mind as an absolutely trivial non issue.

Speaking as a reception teacher myself, THIS ^

There is absolutely no way on earth a sane adult deliberately sheltered some children, but not one other.
Honestly, you try dismissing 30 5yos to the correct adult on your own. Watching to make sure they get to the parent, and keeping an eye on the others who have yet to be collected. It's actually one of the hardest and most stressful parts of the day.

whippy1981 · 07/01/2025 18:03

SwingTheMonkey · 07/01/2025 06:48

Eh? Your second paragraph has lost me, I’m afraid. And I didn’t assume they meant harming the child - you’re the one who brought up ‘beating the child up’.

I think the op is being utterly ridiculous. I was simply pointing out you have absolutely no idea what the pp meant with her comment, as it wasn’t your comment!

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But apparently you do! Odd that? It wasn't your comment but you seem to have decided what it was about.

I know exactly what it was about as it is what happens daily in my job! You just assumed you know and are now saying those in the job do not know but you do. Laughable!

AbbyBradley · 07/01/2025 18:05

Saying all teachers are evil is quite an extreme thing to believe and say but you've obviously got reasons to have those thoughts.
Perhaps you're a teacher or maybe used to be one so in that case, I'm sure you'll have seen plenty of things that cause you to have such extreme views.
That's so sad.

AbbyBradley · 07/01/2025 18:08

Indeed!
Take care x

wriggleigglepiggle · 07/01/2025 18:15

AbbyBradley · 07/01/2025 06:27

@DramaLama0 Feeling sorry for your daughter and yourself after reading about the teacher's spiteful behaviour 💗
I hope your daughter didn't notice what actually happened and that it seems she was picked on by the teacher.
No matter how many people here say that a teacher is not capable of such horrid behaviour - yes they are!

I'm really interested to know how many of the people who have commented here are teachers/work in a school or are related to/are friends with teachers!
It's so very strange that the commenters just can't seem to accept that a teacher could have a nasty, spiteful mind and choose to bully a child or several children.

Anyhow, like I said earlier, I hope your daughter didn't realise how horridly the teacher behaved towards her and that she's not affected by it. Best wishes to you both 💗💗

Get a fucking grip

AbbyBradley · 07/01/2025 18:33

wriggleigglepiggle · 07/01/2025 18:15

Get a fucking grip

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Ooo potty-mouth 😲
Unnecessary use of swears there imo but we're all different.

SwingTheMonkey · 08/01/2025 07:58

whippy1981 · 07/01/2025 18:03

But apparently you do! Odd that? It wasn't your comment but you seem to have decided what it was about.

I know exactly what it was about as it is what happens daily in my job! You just assumed you know and are now saying those in the job do not know but you do. Laughable!

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I was a teacher for many years, actually. You assumed I have no experience of being a teacher. Assumptions aren’t helpful, are they?

I didn’t assume my understanding of the comment was correct, unlike you. None of us know what she meant and she hasn't been back to clarify. You’re making things up and are making yourself look rather silly.