Would you give this to your partner if that is what he wants?

[Interestingone]

Would you send a naked photograph to your partner if he asked?
Just that really. I am not sure if this is the norm between couples. Mine has asked but I'm not sure if I should or not.

How do you feel?
Would you or have you?

It’s obvious to most people that it’s a personal opinion in this context though, as ‘’sleazy’’ is a subjective word. So I’m not allowed to state an opinion without saying ‘’I think’’ but you’re allowed to say ‘’it’s not sleazy at all’’ instead of ‘’I don’t think it’s sleazy at all’’ Hmm, are you stating facts or opinion? Double standards there 🤣

I suspect I bothered you by calling it sleazy because it’s something you do and you take it personally when someone says anything negative. It’s the only reason you would be so bothered about what someone else thinks.

No. You have no control over what happens to it.

Definitely not. Once that picture is passed over then you have no control over what happens to it- which is likely that at some point it will be passed or shown to other people.

Teens should be taught not to be ashamed when this happens to them.

I think with younger daters these kind of photos seem to be standard. I wouldn’t send a naked photo. But do send the odd sexy view once photo to my dp. He does the same. Never with my face. We don’t see each other as often as we would like so it helps keep things going! But even so someone can photo on another screen!

Nope

I’ve done it loads with my husband! He’s done it with me too . He has a folder of photos on his phone! I trust him , if they somehow got hacked / stolen etc I wouldn’t be ashamed - they were sent within a loving , safe marriage. I wouldn’t be ashamed . It’s not like I’ve taken them to post for anyone to see.

I have been married for 10 years though , I wouldn’t have done it with a new partner .

No, because phones get hacked and nothing on the internet ever truly deleted.

@Hoplolly sorry, I just realised you’re a different poster. The point still stands though. I hope you preface all of your future posts on here with ‘’I think’’ without fail, no matter the context.

I would be very upset about it.. some people are paid good money to have pics taken in their underwear and I did it for free 😂

Anyway the actual real life risk of any pics being leaked must be so minimal. Also nobody at my work knows what I look like under my cardi and black trousers so how TF would they be able to fire me.

No. Why would you?

Nope.

once you’ve sent it you have no control.

have boundaries.

Or better, they should be taught not to do it in the first place.

Why is this better? Sure teach them to make good decisions but they'll inevitably sometimes make wrong calls. It's just prudery ruining young lives.

It's not the sort of thing DH has ever asked and I'd be surprised if he ever did. But I'd be quite happy to if he asked, I've had lots of nude photos taken of myself (in an art context) and been a life drawing model and have been nude in public before. So it's not something that particularly bothers me, and although I wouldn't choose to put it on a public platform, if it got leaked I'd just shrug.

I wouldn't send anything that would distress me if it ended up being seen by friends, family, strangers.

Nope. Been married 17 years. Have 4 kids. Trust him with my life. But would never do that. It can end up in anyone's hands, and I don't mean he gives it out on purpose. Phones/laptops/things get stolen and lost also. If you break up he might use it against you.

You’re actually not replying to me now. That last comment was from someone else.
That is a massive and very wrong assumption. I don’t find it sleazy, and I have done it, and would do it again, and I am
not remotely bothered on your opinion of me.
I don’t take the comments of random strangers personally, that’s not my way.

No.

Fully naked - no.
In lingerie - yes, but not so that it’s identifiably me.

Only to DH though, I never would have with a boyfriend.

So why did you pull me up on it then? It’s my opinion. You didn’t preface your opinion with ‘I don’t think’ either. So you’re allowed to state things as fact but I’m not? I think it’s damn bloody obvious that my post was my opinion from the context of the topic. If I’m not bothered by someone’s comment then I just scroll on.

I think it’s sleazy because in my experience it’s objectifying. You think differently. Let’s leave it at that.

by the way, I realised after I posted that that poster wasn’t you.

By "partner" do you mean someone you've shared a life with for 10 years, or just a boyfriend you met 3 months ago?

No never have,never will
Once sent you’ve no control whatsoever who sees it, how he stores it. What if you fall out? Revenge porn. What if he shares with mates?

You are so determined to be right, so be right, let’s move on. Scroll on

That’s because I am right on this. You have double standards. You’re entitled to your opinion and I am mine.