Would you give this to your partner if that is what he wants?

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Would you send a naked photograph to your partner if he asked?
Just that really. I am not sure if this is the norm between couples. Mine has asked but I'm not sure if I should or not.

How do you feel?
Would you or have you?

Nope, never. Once it's sent you have no control over the use of that picture.

No, I’m too prudish. But it’s completely normal thing to do if you want to, you trust your partner and you won’t be too upset if it surfaces one day.

It's surprising how many people think their lives would be ruined if a nude pic of them got around. I doubt you're of such importance that anyone would recognise you, let alone care.

No, never. I would not consider it.

Not in a million month of Sundays would I let my partner/husband have a naked photo of me. (I would never let him take one - or take one myself.) Not even my for my DH of 30+ years would I do this for. NEVER. You don't know if your relationship is going to fall through. He could use them photos against you/to hurt you.

Not sure whether I should pick YABU or YANBU though!

FFS. 🙄 What a ludicrous, ignorant comment.

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Are you actually an adult? Of course not 🤦🏻‍♀️

Exactly. Never allow ANY photos to be taken of you naked. Just don't do it.

I feel sad for women who are so embarrassed by their own bodies. But furious with those who want to spread some sense of shame across the whole thing. Salem witch trials stuff.

No. And a decent man will not ask.

This is my view - I trust OH not to share, but theft and loss happen, that I'm not as trusting of others.

No, no and no over and over again. Why would you allow anyone to have such control.

Why would you be sacked?

Maybe. Why do you ask, OP, what are your reservations?

Perhaps you can read this and have a little think about the smug, yet utterly ignorant comment you’ve just made.

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2022/jan/06/i-have-moments-of-shame-i-cant-control-the-lives-ruined-by-explicit-collector-culture

In the context of this sentence from that article “One general study of intimate image abuse across Australia, New Zealand and the UK suggests one in five men have been perpetrators,” I think you are hopelessly naive.
Men as a class really cannot be trusted with access to intimate photos. It would be idiotic of any woman to share nudes.

My work is linked to this issue and based on what j know, have seen and deal with I would never do this.
For those who say naked pictures being leaked or shown without consent is not such a big deal or no-one is that interested, my opinion is different. The impact of betrayal, loss of trust and control can gave a huge impact on women, even those who thought it wouldn't.

I also work with groups of men and I have seen alot of images of partners being shared around. For some it's a way to achieve currency and status. Maria garner did some interesting work on this area. It's striking how many men have shown others without consent, whether that's to 1 mate, a group down the pub, shared online with mates.

Whilst it is increasingly normalised, for me it's too often abused and on the balance if risks, I'd say no.

Not to my husband, I wouldn’t even take one on an electronic device to keep for myself.

Irrespective of how trustworthy your partner is (and you can never be 100% sure they are trustworthy, just think of the French rape case), technology itself is unreliable and the internet is permanent.

Oh come off it, the conclusions on this thread are ludicrous. Plastered on boards outside your mum's house? Sacked immediately?

Also, I don't find calling women who behave differently to you idiots to be a great demonstration of your debating skills.

Never.

Unless it was shoulders down with my head cut off maybe.

Even then, no.

A few months ago it came to my attention that a member of my team has an OF account. She takes pictures of herself and shares them with people who aren’t her husband.

Can confirm I haven’t sacked her!

This. ^ I am finding the 'meh who gives a shit, no-one cares about seeing your titties anyway' kind of comments on here, not only smug and ignorant, but also fucking reprehensible! I can't believe anyone thinks this in real life, and I reckon several posters here are taking the piss. I hope so anyway!

What do YOU feel comfortable with? That’s all that matters.

I don’t send nudes. Not even to partners. I have decided the only way I can guarantee to not habe anybody view my nudes that I don’t wish to view them is not to send them.

If you really want to for your partner’s sake, send one where you cannot be identified.

No I would never do this personally. I'm easily identifiable as I have a lot of tattoos so even if my head wasn't in the picture people would know it was me if it got out.

It’s a matter of personal dignity. I would never send a nude photo of myself even though I trust my DH with my life. I just think it’s not classy or dignified. In private and being intimate is one thing. Having a permanent still image floating about in the iCloud or whatever is another thing entirely.