Would you give this to your partner if that is what he wants?

[Interestingone]

Would you send a naked photograph to your partner if he asked?
Just that really. I am not sure if this is the norm between couples. Mine has asked but I'm not sure if I should or not.

How do you feel?
Would you or have you?

Tell him you want a picture of him in full drag with his tackle out and two fingers up his bottom…. As insurance first

Asking advice about this is pointless your ether ok with it or not

I said upthread that I would, and I do, however you're not comfortable doing it and he absolutely should have accepted the first time you said no, and not mentioned it again. The fact that he's continuing to ask is a major red flag!

Would you with your face showing?

He’s not a prince @Interestingone!
A real man who cared, really wouldn’t even ask once.

Why do you feel the need to ask, OP? I find it quite worrying that you’re having to ask others opinions on this. Do you suffer from low self esteem or have trouble setting and maintaining boundaries?

The man is a selfish arse with no respect for you. He’s showing a massive red flag. It doesn’t matter what others would do, what matters here is that it’s clearly making you uncomfortable because you’ve already said no and you’re second guessing yourself enough to have posted here.

Don’t do something you’re not comfortable with to please someone else. He has no right to demand what you do with your own body. People never respect you that way and it’s a very slippery slope. You don’t need this loser’s approval. Dump, block and move on to find the respect you deserve.

This is so unsexy, crude and disrespectful. I can't believe you are still asking.
Bin this loser.

OP, following your update there is only one course of action for you here - DUMP HIM AND RUN FOR THE HILLS. honestly, asking once is one thing but to keep pushing after you've said no is extremely disrespectful and also shows he does not have good intentions.

Please do not let desperation to be in a relationship cloud your judgement here. This guy is bad news, he couldn't wave his red flags any clearer. It's concerning you can't see this.

He won't take your No for an answer, for me that's a big red flag Op. If he won't accept it then how can you trust him not to take pictures without your permission?
He doesn't own you Op, tell him No and mean it and if he asks again dump him

OP I have for my husband but the difference is I wanted to, we were and are in a serious relationship, I’m not at all against it and as I say I have done it BUT in your situation I absolutely wouldn’t. The bottom line is you should never ever do anything you are not 100% comfortable with, this isn’t something you are happy to do and so what anybody else has or would do is irrelevant, it’s not for you and that is absolutely okay. If he can’t respect that then he’s not the one for you!

He shouldn’t need to ask again for her to dump him, she should have dumped him when he first started insisting. He’d be gone quicker than he could muster the energy to say ‘send a naked photo’ if it was me. Who the fuck does the loser think he is!?

Yes, but that's MY decision and what I feel comfortable with - if it's not your thing, for whatever reason, the person who's asking needs to accept that THE FIRST TIME YOU SAY NO.

Dump him. He's not a good man. He doesn't respect your boundaries and he's deliberately trying to push you into things you're not comfortable with. Major red flags here.

I call bullshit, 16 pages in?

I agree with you @Teanbiscuits33 but I don't think the Op sees it that way. If I thought @Interestingone was seeing this for the red flag it is I'd have been blunter and said he should have been dumped the first time he pushed his luck

Agree with this! You’re clearly uncomfortable and any man insisting on anything like this wouldn’t be a man I’d want in my life moving forward. Pressuring you into doing something you’re not actively enthusiastic about is a red flag.

@Interestingone - I agree with the previous posters who have said that this man is a massive parade of red flags! Insisting on graphic shots of your genitalia, with your face in shot - despite you not being comfortable with the idea - this is a very clear signal of his lack of respect for you as a person.

Please, please, please do NOT send any photos, and consider seriously whether you want to be in a relationship with someone like this.

I am willing to bet that, if your daughter/sister/friend told you that their boyfriend was 'insisting' on a legs open, full frontal photo including their face, you would be appalled and telling them that they deserved SO much better than this. You deserve the same respect and care you'd give a friend or loved one.

PLEASE DON'T

@Interestingone absolutely do not send him a naked picture. As soon as you send it you have no control. Just think about your mum, dad, nan and your boss/neighbour looking at that picture as revenge porn is a thing and does happen.

I have also spoken to him about it as it has become a constant request of his that I send him one. He is insisting that I also put my face in the photo. As he wants "EVERYTHING" (his words).

Put him in with the non-recyclable waste materials and wheel him out for collection on bin day.

Seriously OP men who refuse respect women’s boundaries are huge red flags. You have told him no and he won’t accept it.

That alone is grounds to end a relationship.

Are you quite young OP?

I would, yes. I think. But I'd be surprised as he's never requested it before. If he was my monogamous partner and I trusted him and he would also send pics at my request, then I guess it would seem ok. But if you're uncomfortable then just refuse. Don't let him press you to do it.

I couldn’t agree more, @JHound.

@BobbyBiscuits - @Interestingone‘s partner is already pressuring her to send the pictures. From what she has said in her updates, it sounds as if she has told this man that she isn’t entirely comfortable with sending the pictures and he has pushed back, with the demand to make the shots very explicit - legs akimbo genitalia shots - and including her face. He is not respecting her or her boundary on this.

If he is willing to ignore her discomfort on this, and to pressure her to do something she is not happy to do, should she really trust him to keep these very explicit pictures ‘for his eyes only’? I certainly wouldn’t trust a man who wouldn’t take no for an answer on this.