Would you give this to your partner if that is what he wants?

[Interestingone]

Would you send a naked photograph to your partner if he asked?
Just that really. I am not sure if this is the norm between couples. Mine has asked but I'm not sure if I should or not.

How do you feel?
Would you or have you?

Not sure you’d get sacked for someone else’s offence! You might well be humiliated though.

I’m a woman and I’m inclined to agree. 🤷‍♀️

Why would not putting naked pictures that you have absolutely no control over be considered 'prudery' ?

And in what way is it ruining their lives FGS?

I have sent them to my husband. I trust he won't show it to others and I know there's a risk but it's a small risk.
I wouldn't have sent them before he asked and at that stage we'd been together for about 7 years.
I would only do it in a long term relationship where I trust the other person totally.

It's not the nudity - it's what happens to the picture when it's 'out there'

Don't you get that?

Any time a woman does not do what a man wants- because it's usually that way around- it's prudery.
No one should be shamed. But I have told DC not to do it and why.

A school friend of mine did this for her partner. She found out a couple of years later that he kept photos of every girl he ever slept with. He had 1000s… ugliest man I ever saw too.

NO.

Nope. Trust is great till it's gone. Then he might decide to do anything with it.

Can’t speak for it usually being that way round, I’ve never been pressured into it. Though I can accept some have.

But there also are women who, without undue pressure, choose to take part in that sort of thing. It’s not always all about just doing as a man says.

Those women probably also aren’t assuming that all men share with others, spread it around online, etc etc. I personally don’t always assume the worst in people.

I've sent loads of naked/rude pictures to my partner I'm not really bothered if it gets out of the cloud I'm just not bothered about much nowadays since turning 40.

I've never been pressured to send anything and anyone would get short shift from me for demanding me to.

Maybe it's because I'm good at photography and I've got an ok figure that I know how to get good angles or lighting to enhance, but I've definitely enjoyed the thrill of it in past LDRs. It can be fun, just be sensible. Same as with any activities between consenting adults.

I'm a woman so I'm definitely going to have to disagree that I'm a man 🤣

But you’re a man.

And I can confidently say that no woman is going to be as offended as you clearly are by a different woman’s choice not to send nudes.

You can continue pretending to be a woman but you’re been clocked.

It doesn’t matter what anyone else would do. What matters what you want. If you don’t feel comfortable doing it. Do not do it.

I don’t assume all men will share my nudes: whether online or just showing friends.

But I know some do. And given I know some do, if I never release my nudes I never ever have to worry about them ending up somewhere, or being shown to somebody I did not consent to.

Nobody’s life is ruined by not being able to see somebody’s nudes.

nope. I’ve sent underwear selfies and maybe a pic of my boobs but cut my face out so nobody would know it’s me. I mean I trust him, but imagine he lost his phone 🤣🙈

Definitely don't do it, no one knows how long a relationship is going to last, imagine in 6 months time you ain't together anymore, you can't ask for that photo back, it is there forever. God knows what he will do with it. Even worse what someone else might do with.

What specifically is it you think you've found on your gender hunt? Because I'm a woman on MN, like practically everyone else. I've probably been posting here longer than you have. I've heard this tired old nonsense before.

You don't know what every single woman is thinking any more than anyone else does. Women are not some homogeneous mass who all act and think the same way. That's actually the really offensive conclusion on this thread - that you think you are in any position to say what a woman should and shouldn't think. Regardless of how determined you are to misinterpret and insult me, I see right through this nonsense.

If you've got a point to make, make it. But please drop the bullshit.

Hi all, thanks for all the responses. I've not had time to get through them all just yet.

To answer a few questions. Yes we have had sex and are not away from eachother for long periods. I would not say the relationship is as serious as I would like hence not being fully comfortable sending a naked photo.

I have also spoken to him about it as it has become a constant request of his that I send him one. He is insisting that I also put my face in the photo. As he wants "EVERYTHING" (his words).

Right, well any man INSISTING on my doing anything that I'm not sure about would get very short shrift from me. What gives him the right? Being horny?

If you are not comfortable doing it then do not do it.

If he keeps insisting then I’d tell him to do one.

Anyone who tries to push you into doing something that you’re not comfortable with, does not care about your feelings and doesn’t respect you.

Eww, no. Bin him.
He’s a wrong un. How fucking dare he insist.

Christ no. I trust DH implicitly and still wouldn't.

There's a wealth of free porn already out there if he so desperately needs a wank.