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Would you give this to your partner if that is what he wants?

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Interestingone · 06/01/2025 18:17

Would you send a naked photograph to your partner if he asked?
Just that really. I am not sure if this is the norm between couples. Mine has asked but I'm not sure if I should or not.

How do you feel?
Would you or have you?

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Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 07/01/2025 21:44

I have but don't if you're uncomfortable.

And never with your face in it.

To be honest though I wouldn't mind them being leaked in 20 years. I look pretty fantastic. Lol

daisydaughter · 07/01/2025 21:49

Interestingone · 07/01/2025 20:44

I don't want to be too graphic but he has told me that he wants a naked photo with my legs open, he wants everything in the photo and "of course my face."

I have no words! 😅

He is very persistent on this I must add.

No, no, no.
And once again: NO!!

HollyKnight · 07/01/2025 21:50

hoxtonbabe · 07/01/2025 21:21

I dunno. I’ve had the misfortune of having many a man send me a photo of their washboard abs and 1 single finger kitkat sized dick 🙄 but the majority of the time they won’t show their face, even the ones with a good size will still only show from chin down, lol

There have been some not many but some) braver ones that have shown the whole hog, but they usually are the ones that have the face/body and D all in good order 🤣

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Snap! This has been my unfortunate experience though 😂

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Would you give this to your partner if that is what he wants?
Gems2k · 07/01/2025 21:59

Interestingone · 07/01/2025 20:44

I don't want to be too graphic but he has told me that he wants a naked photo with my legs open, he wants everything in the photo and "of course my face."

I have no words! 😅

He is very persistent on this I must add.

Absolutely not and his not respecting your boundaries is a massive red flag, he asked you said no. That’s the end of the conversation. You have to think how would you feel if that picture was seen by your friends, family and colleagues.

Ijustwanttobehealthy · 07/01/2025 22:03

Bobbie12345 · 07/01/2025 21:42

I would run a mile from him at this point. He sounds horrible.

If you decide to continue the relationship be very careful he doesn’t snap any photos himself when you are having sex. If he is this persistent and determined it feels like something he might either try to talk you into in the heat of the moment, or worse just take a photo without your consent.

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Yep, I'd be concerned if OP categorically tells him no, that he'll hide his phone somewhere and record them having sex. He sounds disgusting.

WotsitsMadeIn1927 · 07/01/2025 22:48

Interestingone · 07/01/2025 20:44

I don't want to be too graphic but he has told me that he wants a naked photo with my legs open, he wants everything in the photo and "of course my face."

I have no words! 😅

He is very persistent on this I must add.

That would be a hard no from me.

You don’t know who he will be showing that to. Not that any other position/way would be acceptable either.

Flibberteegibbet · 07/01/2025 22:50

Absolutely not! If he asked and I said no and explained why and he asked again that would be the end of the conversation or the relationship.

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Interestingone · 07/01/2025 23:34

Ijustwanttobehealthy · 07/01/2025 22:03

Yep, I'd be concerned if OP categorically tells him no, that he'll hide his phone somewhere and record them having sex. He sounds disgusting.

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This has crossed my mind too.

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PLHJ84 · 07/01/2025 23:41

No. Never would & i’ve spent halt my life with him!

Ijustwanttobehealthy · 07/01/2025 23:43

Interestingone · 07/01/2025 23:34

This has crossed my mind too.

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That says a lot @Interestingone Trust your instinct on this one. Get rid of him. This is not the type of man you should have a relationship with.

fluffyblanky · 07/01/2025 23:45

My DP and I have sent photos and videos. Hundreds of them 🫢

Longwaysouth · 07/01/2025 23:47

Never. Why does he need a photo if ge can enjoy the real thing?

Shabzzz · 07/01/2025 23:52

No. Absolutely not. Use your brain. You are not an object. Phones get Lost or Stolen. Pics and videos get 'accidentally' shared. You could break up on bad terms and he'd share your pics and videos to family, friends and the Internet forever! With your face and other body parts clearly visible! Please don't!

Currygirl · 07/01/2025 23:54

Hell.....no!
No danger......

Merida46 · 08/01/2025 00:05

DON'T do this!!!

fridaynight1 · 08/01/2025 00:11

No. Just no. Totally ick, ew and gross.

hoxtonbabe · 08/01/2025 00:30

HollyKnight · 07/01/2025 21:50

Snap! This has been my unfortunate experience though 😂

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Ha! Even that frankfurter is being generous🤣

Gremlins101 · 08/01/2025 00:44

To my husband, yes. Although prob not now our kids look through our phone photos!

A new partner definitely not, not a hope.

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 08/01/2025 01:18

I just saw his request. Hell no.

He does not need a pic of that with your face in it. Red flag.

SheSaidHummingbird · 08/01/2025 01:24

@Interestingone Get rid of this one.

LifeExperience · 08/01/2025 01:36

No, nor would I stay in a relationship with any man who asked for one.

Khayker · 08/01/2025 01:45

Any man that puts pressure on you to do something you don't want to do in a relationship isn't worth hanging on to. Huge red flag sorry

YoureAGoodManArthurMorgan · 08/01/2025 01:46

He doesn't sound like a keeper. Continuing to pursue anything you've said you're uncomfortable with is a very bad sign. What else is he prepared to get pushy over? Not good

CrowleyKitten · 08/01/2025 03:58

I mean, MY husband, yes, probably.
BUT.
I'm very laid back about nudity, so unless it was graphic opening of the genitals stuff I wouldn't care if anyone else saw it. if it was just me naked, no biggie. when I was growing up, my family were naturists.

and he's not really got that many male friends, or even time away from me (I'm his carer due to mental health issues) so I don't think he'd be showing anyone.

in my family, we're really casual about that sort of stuff. when my stepdad had a cancerous testical removed, he showed us after surgery. yes, he cupped his knob in his hand, but he showed us what the single testicle looked like, and the scars from where they removed it.

Uol2022 · 08/01/2025 07:22

Oh Lord no! If he’s pushing it like that, after you’ve hesitated, that’s a no to both the picture and the relationship.