To think this Tesco worker was a bit OTT?

[Newfamilyhome]

Perhaps I've taken it the wrong way and he was trying to be helpful but it came across a bit condescending if I'm honest.

So, I've just popped into Tesco's for some oil for my car. For context, I top the oil up regularly (not a leak, the car just drinks the stuff) so I'm fully capable of doing it myself. I've messed around with cars for years and see it as a bit of a hobby. Anyway, went to the self scan and the man came over to take the tag off then asked me if the oil light had come on. I said yes and carried on scanning my shopping whilst he stood there and said "make sure you don't put it in whilst the engine is hot and under no circumstances do not put it in whilst the engine is on". I just nodded and said "yes thanks for your help". I was trying to be polite and hoped that he would take the hint that I didn't need any advice.

He then continued "Make sure you wait until the morning before you put it in otherwise the engine might overheat and you could crash into someone else killing them or yourself". I did start to get a bit irritated at this point and said "yes thank you, I top it up regularly so I know how to do it". His reply was "maybe you should ask your parents to do it for you". Not that it matters but I'm 30 years old!! He then asked me what car I had and told me to get rid of it immediately and buy something else 😂

I felt quite flustered by the end and just wanted to get out of the shop. I'm not sure why he felt the need to give me this unsolicited advice tbh, maybe because I'm a woman?

AIBU?

You are not unreasonable to be pissed off- this is mansplaining at its finest. I would have shut him down straight away.

I did once put sparkling water in mine, we were in germany and I couldn’t find still!

Literally MOST of the comments are calling him out on being a busybody. There are a small few which suggest ND which is a fair point to add in as it’s common in those with autism.

@FunGoose Out of the two of us, I'd wager I have a better understanding of how I'd react in any given situation!

??? Are you okay?

Because you're posting very strange comments. If you're in the UK, it's a bit early to be drinking.

No

Ugg we have a tricky drive, uphill and on a corner - l always reverse on and have lost count of the nunber of men who stand at the bottom to "help" me park then congratulate me on managing to park my own car . Fucking winds me up as would this guy in Tesco op.

I have no idea whether or not you've ever seen a woman in overalls changing a clutch. I do know that it's completely irrelevant to this thread.

They help because they are clearly shit drivers who can’t park properly and are a bit thick, so assume everyone else is as shit as them, as they’re too thick to imagine anything else.

It may be helpful to have some links on autism to help those inexperienced with it to learn how to act in these situations. He honestly meant no harm. He may well get help from his own parents OP.
An awful lot of assumptions and condescending.
Not every unwanted behaviour can be labelled autistic, some people are just annoying arseholes.

This was my first thought to i work with someone like this and their autistic

Funnily enough, it has never happened to my husband!! Read into that what you will!

Funnily enough, I don't comment on threads without reading the original post. Which has no mention of women in overalls changing clutches.

Oh, go back to wanking and watching Andrew Tate videos. We don't want you on Mumsnet.

I doubt he has the brain power for the multitasking required

I'd have been annoyed too, OP. Typical mansplaining with a pinch of ageism. I normally hate the idea of dobbing any staff in to management, but a part of me twitched towards that solution when I read your post.

What if all Tesco products were subject to the same sort of staff policing? Lectures about cooking chicken thoroughly and the danger of too much red meat, not to mention serious warnings about bleach - "Remember that while it is ok to put this down your toilet you must on no account drink it.'