To think this Tesco worker was a bit OTT?

[Newfamilyhome]

Perhaps I've taken it the wrong way and he was trying to be helpful but it came across a bit condescending if I'm honest.

So, I've just popped into Tesco's for some oil for my car. For context, I top the oil up regularly (not a leak, the car just drinks the stuff) so I'm fully capable of doing it myself. I've messed around with cars for years and see it as a bit of a hobby. Anyway, went to the self scan and the man came over to take the tag off then asked me if the oil light had come on. I said yes and carried on scanning my shopping whilst he stood there and said "make sure you don't put it in whilst the engine is hot and under no circumstances do not put it in whilst the engine is on". I just nodded and said "yes thanks for your help". I was trying to be polite and hoped that he would take the hint that I didn't need any advice.

He then continued "Make sure you wait until the morning before you put it in otherwise the engine might overheat and you could crash into someone else killing them or yourself". I did start to get a bit irritated at this point and said "yes thank you, I top it up regularly so I know how to do it". His reply was "maybe you should ask your parents to do it for you". Not that it matters but I'm 30 years old!! He then asked me what car I had and told me to get rid of it immediately and buy something else 😂

I felt quite flustered by the end and just wanted to get out of the shop. I'm not sure why he felt the need to give me this unsolicited advice tbh, maybe because I'm a woman?

AIBU?

If your car is burning oil that it needs topping up regularly then you probably do have a leak lol

No he wasn't, and you can appreciate all the mansplaining you like, doesn't make it any less annoying for the rest of us

i’m off to bed now.

Goodnight.
Do sleep well, though I expect you sad miserable, men hating women rarely do 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Nightio happy chops!

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He haTe mEn because we don’t like mansplaining or think all rude men must be ND and before must be patted on the head like a dog.

I can sleep soundly tonight now I’ve filled my bingo card

@CaptainBeanThief it doesn't, this is a well known issue with this particular brand/model/year. It's well documented (as other posters have pointed out)

Thanks for being true to form 🤣

You have surprised no one tonight “Jezabelle” !

Mine too! As if us poor meek females are incapable of anything without a big knowledgable man helping us out! 🤬

If they have the same or compatible neurodiversity, they usually get on well as they "talk each other's language"...

It’s in situations like these I become anyone I want to be…and in this case I would have had to tell him that I’m a fully qualified mechanic.

I’m not of course, but he’d never know.

That’s terrible. Women are penalised for often being able to mask their ASD better.

Oh I loved this comment! And your username 😎🤣

Interesting what irritates one person doesn’t bother another. If this happened to me I wouldn’t mind at all and would just assume they’re a well intentioned person and thank them. Doesn’t matter if they’re ND or not. They’re just concerned for your safety. I’d also take it as a compliment that they assumed I was too young to know how to do it , lol!

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Filing away for future use IRL 😅

This would annoy me tbf but I'm a former truck driver. A lot of my friends on the other hand would struggle to change a tyre and never check their oil level or tyre pressure.

He was just trying to help.

I didn't know you had to wait so I would have welcomed his advice.

I think they both just spontaneously combust

As far as I'm concerned ND people can be exactly who they are and so can I, a non ND person. Neither of us should have to make big swooping changes to our behaviour for the other unless that behaviour is harmful.

But would they have said it to a man?

And you know people can have multiple jobs, right? I have worked in Tesco in the past alongside other jobs. Many of us have to do that in our early 20s because we don't have a wealthy mummy and daddy to pay us through life.

Sadly my son, not diagnosed autistic, but strong paternal family indications, and other learning needs, would not pick up polite cues to shut up. He is a motor mechanic and very good at his job. Great one might think. But the droning on for Britain about cars can be too much for most of us. It is tricky - no one wants to be rude, but most of us do have to be elsewhere. No real advice how to avoid.

He's probably had a bad experience with cars and oil. Maybe overfilled his oil in the past , causing engine failure.

Yes but you don't have to wait. So his advice is unsolicited patronising and wrong.

Patronutk tell a 30 year old woman to ask her parents to help, however you say it and whoever you are. I accept if he is ND he may not really how it comes across or intend to be patronising- but objectively it still is.

Sorry the autotextfuckuo gremlins are out in force!

I think a mechanic will likely work in a garage rather than Tesco.

It’s reasonable for OP not to want to take mechanical advice from a supermarket worker, just as she wouldn’t place a food order at her local garage.

Your rant about bankrolling by mummy and daddy is a weird sidebar.

208 by any chance?! Mine goes through oil like no tomorrow

@PeppyGreenFinch I think a mechanic will likely work in a garage rather than Tesco.

As I explained in my previous comment, he may have two jobs. So he could be working in a garage as a mechanic, then he may work one or two shifts per week in Tesco for some extra cash. Why is this a difficult concept to understand?