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Absolutely shit scared about the future in the UK?

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JDNCh · 04/01/2025 18:17

Name changed - I’m genuinely terrified by the hate, division and atmosphere here right now, online and spilling over on the ‘the real world’. I’m scared by how quickly things are changing, and just how much influence the US/Elon Musk/Reform+supporters are having. I’m scared of what the actual point of it all is - what’s the endgame? And what’s the solution? Why is no one protesting/rising up from the other way? Do people generally agree with all this?

I’m in no way a minority (white, female, 30s), I’m not super left, I have one little boy and I’m so scared for his future. I don’t want to live somewhere so intolerant with this constant atmosphere of distrust and something getting ready to blow.

What’s the general consensus? Is this what the people of the U.K. want?

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Crazycatlady79 · 04/01/2025 23:40

"genuinely terrified"?!

Come the fuck on. Things really aren't that bad in everyday life.

I'd genuinely suggest therapy for anyone who's simarly "shit scared".

Annabella92 · 04/01/2025 23:41

Miley1967 · 04/01/2025 23:38

I'm more worried about economics. The fact that there will not be enough workers supporting all the people who need to be supported - growing numbers of elderly people living longer but with more complex care needs, increasing numbers of working age people unable to work due to MH etc, increasing social care needs and paying for the NHS. I am approaching my mid fifties ( after working for 40+ years ) and honestly doubt there will be any money left at this rate to pay for pensions or care when I reach old age ! The way this government throw money around I personally think is shocking.

It's ok, we'll all be advised if we don't like it we can just assisted die.

Annabella92 · 04/01/2025 23:42

Crazycatlady79 · 04/01/2025 23:40

"genuinely terrified"?!

Come the fuck on. Things really aren't that bad in everyday life.

I'd genuinely suggest therapy for anyone who's simarly "shit scared".

The future looks bleak, you have to admit.

mollyfolk · 04/01/2025 23:42

I worry that our Govt want to criminalise so-called 'Islamophobia' in a country that is supposed to value free speech, as no religion should be free from criticism, especially one that is misogynistic and thinks that 'non-believers' and women are 'less than'...
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I worry about the new antisemitism here and the impact it is having on Jewish people's safety and security here and on the general cohesiveness of our society.

I have no idea how you can demonise Muslims in one breath and lament the increase in antisemitism in another.

Islamophobia and antisemitism are two sides of the same coin. Both have risen in recent times and both involve demonising people because of their religion, othering them and blaming them for the ills of society. And now we are seeing the far right using a faux concern for anti semitism as a cover for their own prejudices. We'll never fight racism with racism.

PrimitivePerson · 04/01/2025 23:42

Annabella92 · 04/01/2025 23:39

And Starmer loathes my very being.

I suspect Starmer hasn't got a particularly strong opinion one way or the other, but if you think Farage gives one solitary shit about you, or what happens to you, you're sadly mistaken. The man is an absolutely disgusting little cretin who thrives on spreading hatred and division.

MrsSkylerWhite · 04/01/2025 23:43

Annabella92 · Today 23:39

PrimitivePerson · Today 23:24
Why is that, exactly? Farage wouldn't piss on you if you were on fire.

And Starmer loathes my very being

Does he know you, then? Why does he loathe you?

VelvetWildflower · 04/01/2025 23:43

Things are going to get worse before they get better.

The Pakistani Muslim grooming gangs are back in the news showing the institutional failings of policing such crimes due to worries about racial hatred and we've got the trial of the man that stabbed those little girls coming up who we now know had a terrorist handbook and in possession of Ricin. The people who rioted last summer are going to feel even more possessed when they find out it wasn't some good little Christian boy as the MSM proclaimed and many of their mates are in prison over it.

That's before you even get started on Trump, Musk and that lot. Plus the rest of the world falling to pieces.

All we can do is try to be sane, rational, good people and focus on the good.

PrimitivePerson · 04/01/2025 23:48

The fear of Labour governments strikes me as utterly ridiculous. My parents were working class Tories, although fat lot of good it did them - they were absolutely shafted by Thatcher, even though they voted for her every time. They lived in genuine fear and dread of Labour governments, and seemed to think the world would literally end if they ever got into power.

Look at what a mess Major ended up in, and what a complete disaster the 2010-2024 Tory government was from start to finish. How on Earth did the Tories get a reputation for competence? They gave us Liz Truss, FFS!!!

Annabella92 · 04/01/2025 23:51

Echobelly · 04/01/2025 22:51

I find my biggest problem with labour is their being scared to challenge the Right Wing narrative - although of course they'd never have been elected if they seriously had. At the moment they are trying to be 'slightly less evil' than the Tories in the hope that will keep them out next election, but I think that's entirely what will let them in; because Labour are keeping Tory culture war fires burning rather than putting them out.

Rather than being 'tougher on immigration', they should be spelling out the rampant capitalism is the problem, not immigrants. Immigrants aren't buying up house and profiteering off public services.

Rather than being 'tough on benefits', benefits should be fair and treat people like decent human beings. Sanctions do not get people into work and are not only cruel but expensive on the public purse both in terms of appeals and in terms of plunging people in poverty that can lead to homelessness, ill health and crime.

When not allied to a party, 'socialist' policies like nationalisation of services (and TBF, Labour has done some of this) and heavier taxation of those who can afford it are overwhelmingly popular with the public. But attach them to a left wing party and most of the media goes on the attack

People are largely left wing economically, they're just more socially conservative (or indeed moderate) than liberal elites who care more about making sure children are marinaded in gender ideaology at school and manufacturing consent for huge demographic upheaval. The supposed "left" despise the working class.

Annabella92 · 04/01/2025 23:53

VelvetWildflower · 04/01/2025 23:43

Things are going to get worse before they get better.

The Pakistani Muslim grooming gangs are back in the news showing the institutional failings of policing such crimes due to worries about racial hatred and we've got the trial of the man that stabbed those little girls coming up who we now know had a terrorist handbook and in possession of Ricin. The people who rioted last summer are going to feel even more possessed when they find out it wasn't some good little Christian boy as the MSM proclaimed and many of their mates are in prison over it.

That's before you even get started on Trump, Musk and that lot. Plus the rest of the world falling to pieces.

All we can do is try to be sane, rational, good people and focus on the good.

There is no commonly held idea of "good" anymore. This is the root of the crisis.

Onand · 04/01/2025 23:54

User37482 · 04/01/2025 18:56

I’m not a musk fan. I just think people claiming that anyone getting upset at this is upset because they are a racist or right wing rather than upset at the violent rape of children is wrong.

The left has ceded this space to the right frankly. If you don’t defend children (please bear in mind these were primarily labour councils turning a blind eye) don’t complain when the other lot (who I’m not aligned with) do raise it.

There is too much focus on Musk, he can be safely ignored frankly, there will be no early election, there will be no change in government policy on his say.

We should be looking at this again because it’s the right thing to do not worrying about who is pointing it out, thats weak, it’s weak and craven to focus on what one man says when we have literally thousands of abused children to serve justice to. But yeah look over there at musk… don’t look over here at our failed institutions and cowardly leaders.

I agree. The political system has failed far too many young girls.

Annabella92 · 04/01/2025 23:55

PrimitivePerson · 04/01/2025 23:42

I suspect Starmer hasn't got a particularly strong opinion one way or the other, but if you think Farage gives one solitary shit about you, or what happens to you, you're sadly mistaken. The man is an absolutely disgusting little cretin who thrives on spreading hatred and division.

Starmer is a wolf in sheep's clothing (albeit increasingly threadbare)

At least with the right wing they're wolves dressed as wolves. You know what you're getting.

PrimitivePerson · 04/01/2025 23:57

Annabella92 · 04/01/2025 23:55

Starmer is a wolf in sheep's clothing (albeit increasingly threadbare)

At least with the right wing they're wolves dressed as wolves. You know what you're getting.

Oh, I know what we're getting, alright. That's why I've never voted for a right wing party or candidate in my life, and never will.

ThunderLeaf · 04/01/2025 23:58

I don't really know what your talking about as I've barely read the news recently.

If you're feeling so affected by the news, I'd stop reading it for a while.

There's been bad things all through history, just think of past 25 years even, it's constant.

Best try and go with the flow when you can.

Sometimes ignorance is bliss.

Take a pause on all things online/media for 1 week, focus on yourself and your DC.

You don't have to read the news.

Hopefully you will feel a little better x

MidnightMusing5 · 05/01/2025 00:10

Right wing are in power in America and in a-lot of Europe. It will happen here too. It’s lucky you are the right colour op.

Ponoka7 · 05/01/2025 00:11

TooBigForMyBoots · 04/01/2025 19:05

Far right riots because that's what they were. What else would you call racist riots, started by misinformation about an imaginary "illegal" immigrant?

They were scumbags and idiots jumping on a bandwagon. The rumour started that it was a terrorist attack by a migrant, that was mostly true. The attacks across the press because the mother of a teen went on a booked holiday was disgusting. It wasn't like her child went and killed children. Meanwhile there is silence about parents being so disconnected from their children, they are being convinced to kill in the name of their prophet. If Catholics were killing in the ways we have had happen, there'd be national strategies and duty on religious organisations to counter act the messages being put out.
I've witnessed news blackouts, the police lying/denying on what really caused one riot/incident and if I hadn't of witnessed it, I wouldn't believe it.

Bungrung · 05/01/2025 00:12

I'm more worried about economics. The fact that there will not be enough workers supporting all the people who need to be supported - growing numbers of elderly people living longer but with more complex care needs, increasing numbers of working age people unable to work due to MH etc, increasing social care needs and paying for the NHS. I am approaching my mid fifties ( after working for 40+ years ) and honestly doubt there will be any money left at this rate to pay for pensions or care when I reach old age ! The way this government throw money around I personally think is shocking.

We are fucked because of the changing demographics

Ponoka7 · 05/01/2025 00:12

MidnightMusing5 · 05/01/2025 00:10

Right wing are in power in America and in a-lot of Europe. It will happen here too. It’s lucky you are the right colour op.

She isn't the right sex and it's debatable on the colour aspect.

Iwanttoliveonamountain · 05/01/2025 00:19

User135644 · 04/01/2025 23:28

Especially if Elon puts his money into Reform. That's the gamechanger needed.

Once Trump is in power musk will not be able to try and influence foreign governments or he’ll lose his job with Trump

MidnightMusing5 · 05/01/2025 00:21

greengreyblue · 04/01/2025 21:08

Everywhere has its problems. I love the U.K.

I think the problem is people don’t understand that the media holds a magnifying glass to certain areas of society and repeats it so it becomes so ingrained that this is the foreigners that have caused all these ills. If it’s a person of Colour committing an offence, their face will be plastered and then same story will be run for days. When it’s a white person- face won’t be shown or it will be off the next day. I challenge anyone to look out for this and you will see it’s true . (Daily mail, birminghammail etc etc. local online )
It’s a tactic hitler used too. “Tell something often enough, it becomes the people’s truth” something along those lines.
blame them. When really we should be taking a look at ourselves and the government for failings. The gov are usually too busy capitalising and screwing as much out of the country as possible , giving each other contracts worth millions - they’ve got to account. For the missing money. I know - let them not rise up and fight us - let the masses fight between themselves. Divide and conquer. Oldest trick in book and it works on the stupid .

people complaining at stsrmer when he’s only be in power for about five seconds . Cos they believe what the media tells them.

Stupid people are dangerous

mollyfolk · 05/01/2025 00:31

works on the stupid

I totally agree with you except for this bit. People are not stupid. There is a lot of discontent, a lot of inequality. People feel shafted. And they are manipulated by others to look at immigrants as the cause.

I don't think we should dismiss people as stupid or even racist. If we worked towards a more equal, just society there would be more cohesiveness and less hate.

Livelovebehappy · 05/01/2025 00:33

I honestly think people who weren’t vocalising their concerns previously, because they were conditioned over years to not voicing their worries which way we as a country were going, are now coming forward. People were surprised at the Brexit result,and the increase in support for reform, because the majority have been silent. It’s nothing to fear, unless you buy into the rhetoric that anyone with genuine concerns about the current situation in the UK is guided by the ‘far right’. This is of course not true, but something put about by the far left to scaremonger and create fear amongst the masses. I worry more about Labour and the direction they are taking us. They’re pretty clueless, and I worry about the damage they are capable of doing to our country during the term of their government. But I don’t let it give me sleepless nights.

CherryBowl · 05/01/2025 00:38

mollyfolk · 04/01/2025 23:42

I worry that our Govt want to criminalise so-called 'Islamophobia' in a country that is supposed to value free speech, as no religion should be free from criticism, especially one that is misogynistic and thinks that 'non-believers' and women are 'less than'...
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I worry about the new antisemitism here and the impact it is having on Jewish people's safety and security here and on the general cohesiveness of our society.

I have no idea how you can demonise Muslims in one breath and lament the increase in antisemitism in another.

Islamophobia and antisemitism are two sides of the same coin. Both have risen in recent times and both involve demonising people because of their religion, othering them and blaming them for the ills of society. And now we are seeing the far right using a faux concern for anti semitism as a cover for their own prejudices. We'll never fight racism with racism.

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Hardly two sides of the same coin.

When was the last time you heard of Jewish rape gangs? Or Jews bombing pop concerts? Or driving through predominantly Muslim areas threatening to rape their women?

Or demanding in parliament that no one criticise their religion?

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 05/01/2025 00:39

Tommytoronto · 04/01/2025 19:12

Where would you recommend they go? Genuinely interested after being so disheartened by Canada

Canada is a vast country. Did you only visit Toronto?

I'm from Vancouver island and have also lived in Vancouver and Toronto.

I personally feel safer in Toronto than London.

Flutterpony · 05/01/2025 00:43

For the first time in a long time I’m feeling positive. I’m beyond happy that Trump got back into power in the US. I’m happy with the rise of Reform, who are my new party after many years of voting Conservative. I’m hoping they’ll get into power in Wales, where I’m from, after far too many years of Labour mismanagement. Roll on 2026.
I don’t see the problem with what Elon Musk is saying. I’ll listen to any compelling counter argument if I hear one. But currently the Labour government is doing very poorly, they’ve made some idiotic choices and told some right porkers. Not to mention they’ve been blighted by sleaze and incompetence since they came into power.
I am very much appreciative of how these people are being externally pushed to be accountable.

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