To think I’m not doing anything wrong

[Viserrisk]

Back to work on Monday after a lovely 2 weeks off! I’m currently reading a book (well I was before I came on here) with a glass of wine and left over Pringles from Christmas.

DH was out doing his hobby and he’s just come back home and asked me why I was drinking. I said I’m having a glass of wine, not exactly having shots rolling around everywhere. He said that I shouldn’t be drinking while looking after DC and that drinking alone in the house when it’s not Christmas anymore is “weird” DC1 is upstairs in their room and DC2 is sat on the floor playing.

AIBU?

Are you suggesting parents should never be allowed to drink?

You were relaxing at home with a glass of wine. I see nothing wrong with that and I don't drink alcohol. Kids were fine.

It’s already dark out. Good enough for me.

Ffs it's the end of your holiday! You have a drink or two and enjoy.

What if they haven't got a car? What if the OP doesn't drive? What if the one car in the family had been taken by the OP's DH to his hobby? Should the DH not go to his hobby in case one of the children needs to be taken t hospital??

Oh! Taxis! Phone! The OP could call her DH and ask him to come home....

Such a stupid argument. The same could be applied to every parent who doesn’t drive.

OP I have a hobby that gets me out of the house. I wouldn’t have a problem with DH having a glass during the day while I had left him alone with the DC.

At least one of us always refrained from alcohol, not that we drink much anyway.

Overreactions all round today! One glass of wine?! Honestly! Yanbu.

You are the one repeatedly claiming there’s a risk but can’t actually figure out what that risk might be.

So in my scenario, if DH is at his hobby he has the car. Does that mean he’s taking a risk to my children’s life every time he goes out to his hobby? I should let him know.

There is risk in everything. If I drive my child to hospital there is a risk a distracted or drunk driver will crash into us.
There is a risk the first time you take any medicine as you may be allergic.
There is even risk in OP or anyone having the children on their own at all as any one of us could simply drop dead, leaving them unattended.

It's a small increase in 'risk' to drink a glass of wine, and not worth worrying about. Otherwise our lives would be very limited and filled with worry assessing the negligible risk of every small action.

There is a risk to absolutely everything.

Risk of choking while eating. Risk of falling down the stairs. Risk of making a cup of tea and dropping the kettle and scalding yourself.

Are you saying you don’t do any of these while looking after children?

@Viserrisk YANBU.

I can think of nothing nicer, on such a cold winter’s day as this, snuggling up with a good book and glass of wine. You’re on holiday. Would it be odd to do so on holiday elsewhere? Would he find it odd you had a glass of wine while reading by a pool?

The ages of your kids, they hardly need constant vigilance and attention at home. I guess your DP has a different view, which he’s entitled to if he doesn’t like to drink when alone with the kids. But, frankly, it’s none of his business. You’re not being neglectful or irresponsible.

As for it being weird to drink alone in the house (which you weren’t), does that mean the many, many people who live alone, or are alone because everyone’s away or out, should be abstinent? How preposterous!

No it hasn't. Child has accident, long wait for ambulance, you have two children there ..what kind of accident do you think needs immediate rushing to hospital, with one adult and an extra child? Because anything I can think of would require two adults, one to drive and one to hold/treat/monitor this terribly injured or ill child that can't wait for a taxi or the assistance of anyone else.
I'm still waiting for an example that would require an immediate drive to hospital without anyone to help.
Is the "risk" zero? No, it never is. But it's so small.as to be not worth thinking about.

No! I made no prescription at all - do what you like. I just don't like people saying that it doesn't increase risk at all. I understand why they do it; it's because drinking is very, very, very, very slightly putting your interest ahead of your child's and they think this makes them bad (or at least look bad), so they have to insist that there's no risk at all. Sorry, I won't redefine reality just to take care of your feelings.

OK, so we have covered the risk of the OP having a glass of wine while Dc are in the house wrt hospital, and the possibility of OP getting a carcinogen-caused disease from her glass of wine...but has anyone mentioned the PRINGLES?

An obvious UPF. Risk of obesity, cancer, heart disease, diabetes, hypertension and kidney issues from the salt etc.

DEADLY.

Do people arguing about a possible need to drive not realise that many of us don’t have a car. We manage. Even in an emergency.

Yes, but your children are slightly more at risk because you don't have a car.

I hope you have a spare car just in case yours breaks down when if the DC need to get to hospital.

And then a spare in case the spare breaks down.

And a lightning conductor on your roof just in case.

And a fire extinguisher in every room

Don't forget, nothing requiring gas in case there's an explosion

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I'm only arguing this silly and pedantic point because of hyperbole like this - I've nowhere said that it's a serious risk or that I'd judge anyone for taking it. I just want people to accept that it is a risk.

You seem to want to claim that the increased risk is the glass of wine, but actually you keep mentioning not being able to drive.

So if OP’s DH has the car the risk of her having that glass of wine hasn’t changed anything then, has it?

Unless you were trying to argue something different specifically about drinking a glass of wine in which case what was it?

What nonsense. With that thought process, you would never drink.

More than what? Maybe she lives next to the hospital. So it's your children more at risk, because you'd have to drive them.

See how it works? Calculatung risk is not easy.

You enjoy yourself op, sounds great

Following your logic no parent should ever drink, no matter what the time, as they made need to take a child to hospital.
I presume you never drink a single drop so that you can follow your own words?

How exceedingly joyless.