To think I’m not doing anything wrong

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Back to work on Monday after a lovely 2 weeks off! I’m currently reading a book (well I was before I came on here) with a glass of wine and left over Pringles from Christmas.

DH was out doing his hobby and he’s just come back home and asked me why I was drinking. I said I’m having a glass of wine, not exactly having shots rolling around everywhere. He said that I shouldn’t be drinking while looking after DC and that drinking alone in the house when it’s not Christmas anymore is “weird” DC1 is upstairs in their room and DC2 is sat on the floor playing.

AIBU?

Add some elderflower cordial or ribena to make it look more convincing.

Ambulances are for serious emergencies and wait times can be long.

Even 1 glass of wine can put someone over the limit where I live (as already stated).
https://www.gov.uk/drink-drive-limit

pp was talking about life or death unless I’m getting my pp’s mixed up.

Even if not life threatening, taxis are also an option.

People hand wringing about emergencies - you realise some people have kids and don’t drive? I imagine people will do whatever these people would do in the case of an emergency- get a lift, taxi or ambulance

🤣. Do this and then go to bed with said book (or better, go out) and let him look after the kids.

It’s one drink. You’re being ridiculous. OP’s DH has no right to judge her for one drink - and not do you.

Maybe he should spend less time indulging in his hobby if he's so concerned.

As a child I was never taken to A&E - the first time I went to one (friend in sporting injury) I was in my late 20s, first time I went for something that had happened to me I was around 50.
What do DCs do these days that visits to A&E have to be considered as a daily occurrence?
Neither of my parents could drive, so I'd have been stuffed anyway.

If her husband went out, it’s highly likely he took the car?!! Should he not have been allowed to go out in case she needed to take the children to hospital?

Let alone people who don’t have a car, are people now supposed to have multiple cars so there is always one car at home with a parent or guardian that has a licence and insurance?

The mental gymnastics of some people trying to make themselves sound justified in their horror of a woman having a glass of wine in her own home with her own children is pretty impressive!!

I dunno, I'm not a doctor. It's mind blowing that you can't think about risk - it's either 0% or 100%. I've said the risk is really small, I've said that I wouldn't judge someone for doing it but it's still not enough - I have to deny reality and say that a child being looked after by a glass of wine drinking parent is as safe as one being looked after by a sober parent. It just isn't true. The former is slightly less safe than the latter.

That's the thing - it's not horror, it's just acknowledging slightly risky behaviour. I think there's some projection going on in this thread or something as I don't really think I've said anything controversial.

Personally, I wouldn't drink if in sole charge of children of the age of yours but I wouldn't judge you for doing it. It's just not something I'd do. But I'm not a big drinker at all and quite happy with a squash or some fancy lemonade.

Silly response I don’t even drive so by that logic I can be pissed all day

The people that say about needing to drive to hospital, I don't get that- what about when you are home with your dh and you BOTH have a glass or 2 of wine, is this bad? Should one of us always be abstaining in case of emergency?!

Nice bit of casual misogyny.

You can't articulate the supposed risk though. You state it's risky behaviour but can't explain how. So it's not a valid point

Nothing wrong with it but people on here will say you have a drinking problem

Your DH is right. It’s probably best going forward that he doesn’t do his hobby any more just so he can supervise you at all times as you’re clearly an alcoholic OP.

The risk is obvious and has been outlined (child has accident, child needs to go to hospital quickly, long wait for ambulance, quicker to drive). I'm saying that there is a very small risk. Making me provide specifics is just sealioning.

Are you saying that there is absolutely no risk?

Child about to die - call an ambulance
Child needs urgent care - call a taxi, a neighbour or get dh home
Child unwell- get dh home

But really none of this is necessary because it would be ok to drive after one glass of wine.

But I can see that your dh is more concerned that it's weird - what does he mean exactly? I would hate not to be able to relax in my own home. I expect you were enjoying him being out, the kids playing quietly, and wanted to grab a moment for yourself. That sounds lovely to me.

What do you think people who can’t drive or afford to run a car do?

Sorry it took me so long to post but it took me forever to get the cork out the wine bottle.

Anyway, you did/are doing absolutely nothing wrong OP.

Actually I think I might have sprained my wrist removing the cork - now should I call a taxi or an ambulance?🤔

Why anyone drinks alcohol which is classed as a carcinogen by WHO and is the 3rd leading trigger for cancer...and just a poison....should be enough to stop anyone drinking!
However I love a drink but I do think, personally it's a bit early and I don't tend to day drink anymore.

According to a lot of people on here over the years, yes.