To not want to take dog for the night?

[Mumalorian]

My DF has had to go into hospital for a night and DB has asked if we could take the dog as he is going away for the night with sil and dn (Df stays with db).

I have said no on the grounds that their dog barks and will start our dog off barking, we know this as df brought the dog down for a day over xmas which wasnt an issue, but the barking was constant and got worse when we put their dog out in the hallway so we could eat as she is a begger for food and would eat off plates. Df gets up at ridiculous times to get his dog out.

We have 3 dc and don't want them to be affected by barking throughout the night.

I have suggested that we can let their dog out and feed her around 9pm and come back again in the morning somewhere between 8 & 9 yo feed and take the dog out.

I don't want db to miss out on this night away but don't want our whole night to be disrupted because of barking.

Lives with permanently, he had a fall on ice so no it's not going to an on going thing.

Df will use the sitting room when they're at work he will then go down to his room once they have came in/had dinner

I think you should be careful op, you've allowed yourself to be manipulated into taking the dog when it's against your interests to do so. This will be a prelude to them manipulating you into doing other things that you don't want to do.

The person whose dog it is needs to make suitable arrangements, and pay for them if necessary.

I would take the dog for this one time. As it will be easier for you to be at home with baby. You can’t exactly take a baby to a dirty house either.

Do you have a room or area dog can stay overnight separate from your own dog?

Muzzling a dog with the sort of muzzle, where their mouth is restricted is only for 4 hours absolute maximum as they can’t pant and therefore could overheat. This is a very bad suggestion. And besides, they can still bark closed-mouthed, rather like we can sneeze with our mouths closed, it’s just less noisy. The cage muzzle allows for the mouth to open and a full bark. It’s also cruel to muzzle a dog not used to being muzzled.

As for the op, I’m pleased you’ve agreed to have the dog. I get you’ll be exhausted. I’d perhaps suggest a bit of a bedroom swap and get your dh to sleep with the elderly dog, perhaps downstairs, so as not to disturb the household too much.

Regardless of who your brother is and how much he does for your dad, he is housing him so I do think this is a contribution that I wouldn’t be refusing.

As someone who always says no to dog sitting yabvu your dad is going in hospital its not like he's going up the pub surely this is somethings you can help with for one night

It sounds like your df keeps a clean room at the least so perhaps you could send your DH?

there’s clearly family politics at play but I would find a way to let your db have his night away. You can make clear that this is not going to be a regular thing and they need a better emergency back up

i assume your mum isn’t able to have the dog?

Can your husband or you go over and stay with the dog? The other stay at your house with the kids?

No, but it would be awful to listen to. The people who live behind me have a dog that barks for hours outside. It's awful to listen to. I couldnt cope with someone elses dog barking inside my house all night

Have you got a thunder vest? It is great for calming stressed dogs. It might help with your doggy visitor.

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Your dad is going to HOSPITAL, normally stays at your brother’s house, and you can’t have the dog for one night?

Bloody hell

Reported what?

Can your husband or you go over and stay with the dog? The other stay at your house with the kids?

OP has 3 children, one a newborn, and is recovering from a c-section, whilst also having a young dog of her own. I think it's unreasonable to be left to deal with that on her own just for the sake of her brother going off on a jolly.

Postpone the jolly would be my suggestion.

I think you're being incredibly petty - say no by all means, but don't expect any of them to help you out ever in the future.

I agree with this. Get over yourself, it's one night! Take your own bedding and just stay the night.

If you didn't do this and I was your DB who had to cancel a night away, I'd be raging and wouldn't help you with anything again.

Say no if you want, but don't expect any favours from him from now on.

And make sure to come back and post about said rejected favour in AIBU.

The DF had a fall - hardly scheduled for their night away!

It's not a friend, it's her father!

Your DF goes to hospital for one night and you can't put yourself out in any way to help care for his dog???

Ok I've taken that on board, but the majority of my point stands. She doesn't want to she shouldn't have to.

This. Or just have the dog at your house. The kids will survive.

If you or your spouse sleep in the lounge with the dog will it still bark all night?

I think given your brother does a lot for your Dad I’d probably go and stay at his house and Pet sit dog. Does he never get a holiday?

I would write this post from your DB's point of view.
My DF lives with us and we have one dog. Can be a bit of a handful which is our fault. DF is in hospital and it coincides with one night away for me and my wife and DS.
My DSi lives 10 mins away but won't have DF's dog overnight for one night only. I am quite frustrated that she won't do this one task so we can have a single night away as a family despite caring for our DF most of the time.
AIBU?

I do understand it will be a difficult night for you but your DB sounds like he carries the weight of caring for your DF so you could do him this favour.

YANBU. Not your dog, not your problem.

Nobody is obliged to help. It is BIL’s choice to house his father.

So:
1: An untrained dog that steals food from plates and begs at the table.
2: A dog that barks excessively
3: A dog that hasn't been housetrained and shits in the house?

NO WAY would anyone have a mutt like this in their house.
{I am a dog owner, and it is imperative to have a well trained and unobtrusive dog when asking family to take care of it.

A barking pain in the arse who shits indoors?

Outdoor kennels is the only suitable thing.

WHY haven't they trained it to behave well?

YANBU.