To not want to take dog for the night?

[Mumalorian]

My DF has had to go into hospital for a night and DB has asked if we could take the dog as he is going away for the night with sil and dn (Df stays with db).

I have said no on the grounds that their dog barks and will start our dog off barking, we know this as df brought the dog down for a day over xmas which wasnt an issue, but the barking was constant and got worse when we put their dog out in the hallway so we could eat as she is a begger for food and would eat off plates. Df gets up at ridiculous times to get his dog out.

We have 3 dc and don't want them to be affected by barking throughout the night.

I have suggested that we can let their dog out and feed her around 9pm and come back again in the morning somewhere between 8 & 9 yo feed and take the dog out.

I don't want db to miss out on this night away but don't want our whole night to be disrupted because of barking.

He slipped on some ice, it's been really bad here for the past 2 days. It's my db house, db bought it when df and dm divorced.

I’d do it for your df’s sake, but why the heck aren’t the 2 other adults cleaning the house?!

Well done for taking the dog

It isn’t the brothers dog!!!

I think you should care for the dog for the night. Presumably df will need looking after once he’s home and out of hospital and db will be helping him much more than you

For even considering that your DB might have to miss a night away because you won’t have the dog for the sake of one night, YABVU.

@Mumalorian can I ask who the dog belongs too?
Also who owns the house db or Df!
Would I heck have the dog or stay on the house just after a c section

Id maybe soften depending ok the answers ri the above questions

Absolutely.

Have the dog in his own house for a few hours at a time and have him in your home overnight. It’s cruel to leave a social animal that long with just someone popping in.

It is and it isn't he wanted the dog when we were younger my df has been the dogs main owner for years

It’s a big ask but a much smaller ask of someone who is

1. family
2. lives 10 minutes away
3. has keys to the house and can take the dog home for a bit
4. already has dogs
5. its your dads dog who is in hospital.

if needs be can one of you stop overnight in your brothers house if you can’t tolerate the barking when all the dogs bark together?

Db's house, db wanted the dog when we were younger though df has looked after the dog for years now. Db does very little regarding the dog

If you get a dog when you’re a child - it’s not your dog.

I’ve just asked this as I didn’t read that it was brothers dog . No need to shout lol.

Id probably arrange to help with the dog if it was my df but he would need spoken too about its behaviour and training in the future .

If it’s Dd house then I think db should stay and look after the dog.
Op is at the hospital with df now .

Df also didn't get the dog...it was my dm and when they divorced she left the dog with them

To be honest while someone is in hospital it seems like a weak argument op

For one night go and stay, take your own bedding, flask of coffee etc. perhaps you can help your db by helping clean a bit as it sounds like they are not coping, mess is common but dirty implies there is more to the situation perhaps mental health looking after your father

Pop in in the day / evening and feed / let our dog
pick dog up at bedtime and bring home. Reintroduce to yours on a walk or in the garden not in the house. Try to keep interactions calm
being in and give each a calming chew separately. Feed separately too. Separate them for sleep - if you have a house can one sleep on the landing upstairs?
play white noise so noises outside don’t set them off barking and if one barks the other is less likely to hear it.
in the morning or after that as soon as dogs get on each others nerves take DB dog home.
its one night, you’ll be fine.

Take the dog for the night and keep plenty of frozen kongs and chews in to entertain the dogs so minimise barking.

Muzzle or bark collar.

What bark collar did you try before? Maybe try a different one?

A dog can't bark with a muzzle on can it? Probably get one from Pets at home, and for one night £10 may mean you have a quiet night.

How does your brother and sister in law cope with all the barking at home?

Have you even read the OP's posts?

It's not her job! It's her brother's house! Who has a wife! They choose to live this way! Her father lives there by choice. He's not incapacitated; he got hurt on ice!

On top of her 2 small children, baby and recent csection she shouldn't have to go over there and sort it out for 3 capable grown ups!

Agreed.

Could you not stay over at their house for the night so the dog is in its own space.

@bruisername @poisedgoldbiscuit

They have no heavy lifting with my df had you read my other posts, df is not unwell, he had a fall on ice. They live separate lives completely.

Df stays with db

Stays with? Lives with? On a permanent basis?

Living with a parent who is elderly/becoming elderly (which it sounds like your dad is if he's starting to have falls) is no small burden. Your brother sounds like he is doing the lion's share of 'duty' there and they probably never get any time to themselves. Yes, I would take the dog for a night.

Take a sleeping bag and request that the kitchen be clean and tidy, fresh milk for cups of tea. You can shower at your place.

See past their mess for one night when you are asleep.