Badly behaved NYE guests

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This year we hosted a NYE dinner. My group of friends all have children the same age (7-13) and we've done it before - it's a nice low key celebration. I was clear on the invite that it was a sit down dinner starting at 7. When people inevitably asked what to bring I just said a bottle. One friend "Jane" texted a few days before to say her plans fell through and would it be too late to come? I said she was very welcome to.
7 came and went, everyone (except Jane) arrived and brought lovely wines, beers, flowers, champagne etc. we waited and I texted around 7.30 to see if she'd been glued up and got a "sorry we're late we won't be there til 8.30" with hungry kids and adults already drinking on empty tummies I went ahead and fed everyone. She arrived at 8.30 ish - completely empty handed. I offered to plate her, husband and children - kids had eaten and "they won't sit at a table" so she asked if they could sit and watch a film, at which point every single other child decided that they wanted to watch a film too and have dessert in the lounge... I said yes to tv, but that they'd have to come back to table when adults finished for (messy) dessert. They ate and started to drink - quite heavily. My daughter came in and told me Jane's kids had gone upstairs and had started messing round with her makeup and stuff. Her husband was sat next to me and didn't react so I excused myself and got them downstairs. They had painted themselves (2 boys) by this time.
When I called them back for dessert Jane saw them and made a comment (I'm known as being left wing) about how the "influence" of my house had caused her boys to "cross dress". I snapped at her and told her that actually they took themselves upstairs when they'd been told not to and helped themselves to my daughters make up without permission. I was told by Jane to lighten up - just a joke.
Throughout the whole evening they didn't lift a finger to help with the dishes, look in in the children etc. they both managed to get blind drunk and had forgotten to book a cab so one of my friends who can walk home ended up doing that and sacrificing her cab.
No thank you message afterwards.
AIBU to think this is poor behaviour and not invite them back?

I'd be fuming...they would never get an invite again or my friendship .

You don't need to ask do you?
I'd ditch "Jane" if I were you.

They are not toddlers though. They can play games, watch films, do plenty of stuff that is not destructive. They should also be checked up on by parents, especially when told they are wrecking things.

Not disputing that bit. I was talking about the actual sit down dinner

YANBU. Very rude, especially the lateness.

My 3 year old would be able to sit down for dinner at 7pm.

Don't invite Jane and her family again.

All the other children had no issue with sitting at the table to eat until the family from hell turned up. Of course children should sit at the table to eat. Manners cost nothing. Far too many feral children in the world thanks to lazy parents.

She said all the kids are aged 7+ so yes I would absolutely expect them to sit at a table for a "messy" dessert and not risk my furniture!

Obviously never invite them back. They are selfish, rude and ungrateful.

How on earth do these children who aren't used to eating at the table manage at school?

I realise that not every household has room for a dining table, but by 7 a child will have had experience of sitting at a dining table at school unless they are home educated or completely feral

They're hard work in Foundation Stage, both in the classroom and at lunch...

School staff, including lunch staff, pick up the pieces left by parents who don't do what they need to for their kids.

It sounds as thoughthese unruly kids have inherited their parents' bad manners. 90 min late is totally off and not keeping their kids out of trouble is pretty disrespectful too. Leave them off your list next year !