Son has just told us he is non binary

[Chipshopninja]

13 years old

Wants us to use they/them

He came out as Bi a a couple of years ago and I was fine with that but this has really hit me hard

I'm terrified that this is going to lead to hormones and surgery.

Don't know why I'm posting tbh but feeling crappy because I didn't handle it well. I cried.

I can't call him my son anymore

He's my only child

Has anyone else been through this?

Being autistic is also a protected characteristic so why seek out another??

Awful. I’m sorry you’ve had to deal with that.

Being autistic is also a protected characteristic so why seek out another??

I think maybe they're searching for an overarching explanation of why they feel they do about their sex, and the label seems to appeal.

There's that old adage, "You can fool some of the people some of the time, but you can't fool all of the people all of the time." Trying to go through life with the goal of tricking people or fooling people seems both sad and narcissistic.

YY @Delphinium20

I can't begin to describe how bored I am by this ridiculous self-indulgent narcissistic navel gazing bollocks. People are people, labels are nonsense that are used by SJW fuckwits, but means absolutely nothing. It's a 1st world problem for people with nothing better to worry about. Please stop using labels to prove how special you are, Ridiculous! Live and let live. How do i unsubscribe?

didn't bother me that much. I thought it was funny.
I don't think being trans is something to be ashamed of, so some idiot thinking I'm trans didn't offend me. I just thought it was funny, because they're always so insistent "we can always tell"

I think this applies to those who would have previously been diagnosed with Asperger’s and who probably have a late diagnosis or have not been diagnosed.
I think it’s a very complex subject and there is probably an element of control that play as well, similar to eating disorders.

The thread is about to fill up so thanks to those who have tried to help

I don't think you understand. We are not the intolerant people.
There is a gay male in my small team, he is very sound and great collegue, respected by everyone. I do not think anyone here is homophobic, we all respect and understabd different sexual preferences.

While i would never tell any trans man or woman he/ she isnt what they are pretend to be (even if I believe so), I don't respect is the imposition from the trans ideology. To make us use "preferred pronouns" that imply someone is sexless or a mix of sexes or fluid or whatever nonsense? To get to the point that we are supposed to do this even with not fully formed adults by teachers and parents? To make us having to add our "pronoums" underneath our job title in our work emails?

You might think you are an oppressed minority when in reality you are imposing on everyone else. Please think about it.

Good luck OP. I think, amidst all the debate, there is a lot of goodwill for you and your son. You’ll be in my thoughts.

OP.
Your son felt safe enough to share with you.

Hang on to that.

That's the most important thing at the end of they day.

Good luck.@Chipshopninja

Best of luck, OP. You're a good mom

Yawn. There isn’t a violin small enough for you.

Good luck and hang on in there @Chipshopninja

School has enabled this? Give them a copy of the Cass report and make it quite clear to the Head and the staff that this has to stop. Remind them about safeguarding. Tell them there is to be no talk of allowing him into girls spaces or sports. That would be very wrong. And good luck.

He's your son and should be proud of that.

No because “non binary” isn’t a thing.

It’s called mental health problems which should be treated as such not pandered to.

You wouldn’t agree to call an anorexic ‘fat’ because that’s their chosen pronoun. So no let’s not agree to this ridiculous nonsense.

Non binary as a label doesn't make sense anymore than binary does. If I am binary do I pick the number 0 or 1?

I have a sex, like everyone else and I don't follow stereotypes.

not the worst thing in the world, just makes him more likely to be rebellious and keep doing it which from what I understand is not the objective. Smartphone use is different from alcohol because there is a near certainty the child is going to get a phone again eventually. It does depend on his personality though and I suppose I was speaking from my perspective

As the amusing meme says "non binary" people have created a binary, between binary and non binary people. How binary.

Allegedly "Non-binary people thus grapple with deciding whether to masculinize or feminize themselves and what such changes might mean for their gender identities.".

Why the grapple, why the need to stick to outdated masculine or feminine stereotyping. Why not just be you, wear what you want be who you want to be without a silly label. Is it the need to feel 'special' an ego thing. We are all unique and special.

PS I am not cis and will never be told to use that I am just me, a biological woman. The ideology has and is damaging children and will do if people allow it to. Don't allow it to.

I wait in glee for the day out school puts all the trans girls in one room for residential trip ... It's going to happen soon... There's trip coming up with 3 of them, and they absolutely will be roomed together (they're friends and in same year)

And I'm going to wait for the kids to complain ... because they will ( they're the type to ...)

I will be very excited to say, but you're with girls

. So what's the problem ?

Great post.