Should she replace it? Part 3

[Langarg]

I can’t believe we have a part 3 🤣 this has provided some lighthearted entertainment at a time where I’m feeling really let down by someone I considered a good friend. So thank you! I have posted an update on thread 2, will post it here also.

I have sent the following text message ‘Having reflected on what you have said, how the airwrap was lost/broken or otherwise is irrelevant. I considered asking you for pictures of the broken airwrap or asking to speak to your sister to ask her what happened but it will get us nowhere. All that matters is I am down a Dyson airwrap and I want a new replacement. You’ll need to either transfer me the £399 tonight to pay for this or purchase it yourself from boots and send me the email receipt this evening. You can then sort out with your sister whether she is going to contribute to the cost of it. We can then put this behind us’

I have no interest in maintaining the friendship after this for obvious reasons. I am worried that she’s seen the thread (how can she not have 🤣) and knows this fine well so will have no intention of replacing it sadly.

I don’t think I’ll ever get the truth (was there even a wedding at this rate?! 🤣) all that matters to me now is getting a replacement airwrap!!!!

Yes to all of this.

Also OP posted in AIBU not for the lols & a cheap buzz but genuinely seeking others opinions to balance her own.

She's clearly extremely kind (lent her £500 hairdryer out); naive (didn't see through the blatant lies) & empathetic (still won't do what it takes to get the lying 'friend' to cough up). BTW I don't mean naive as an insult - all the loveliest people are.

I'd add that the friendship is gone. Maintaining a relationship of any kind (friend, partner, sibling, boss) when there's such a huge disparity in the values system of both parties always ends in disaster. Compatibility of values is the most important aspect of all.

Also i believe the story that the sister broke the hairdryer is just more lies. Spilled wine on it? If that even happened, i doubt but even if so, electronics dry out, especially those designed to be used with wet things. I would demand to examine it . But of course she'll say to OP it's been binned, even though anyone would stick it in the airing cupboard in a box of rice for as long as it took to dry it out. No one bins a phone because it got wet. Ditto this £500 gadget. Just more lies to cover the previous ones so the 'friend' can keep the hairdryer.

She'd be getting extremely short shrift from me & I'd serve the relevant notice that I'll be small claims courting her, pronto. It's another testament to OP's loveliness that she's too kind to do what it takes to get her dryer back & that she still sees any possibility of redemption for the 'friend'.

Yes, this is what should have happened. The so-called friend has behaved appallingly here - and the posts claiming that OP has bullied her are ridiculous. They are underpinned by a very concerning assumption that women should just be quiet, smile and say nothing when someone behaves badly towards them. No way should OP have done that.

OP, I think your best bet now is to retrieve the damaged dryer and see what can be done with it. I would have no problem turning up at get home and telling her you want it now.

Yeah, you’re never hearing from her again. No chance.

You really must do the Small Claim. What she has done is not fair on you.

It's very straightforward, all.templates for Letter Before Action and court papers are on line.

People really shouldn't be able to get away with this type of thing.

Absolutely agree.
ime there are 2 types of people who defend unreasonable people and cry let it go, be the bigger person, friendship, keep the peace etc and act like standing up for yourself is equally or more awful than what's been done to you.
1 CFs
2 doormats

"She hasn't behaved maliciously"......

Are you for real?
Did you miss the part where the CF tried to involve and implicate innocent members of staff at the hotel in minimum wage jobs who were just innocently going about their business? Potentially leading to them at best being placed under suspicion, and worst, losing their jobs?

Or the part where the CF was more than happy to see OP lose her £500 item and accept a cheapo second hand piece of shit from ebay?

Or the part where she has lied again and again to a so-called friend?

@Langarg Did you record the call? I would tell her you have the call recorded and will go to the police for theft and make a claim in the small claims court. The threat of it should be enough to make most normal people cave and do the right thing.

Go round to her house so she can't just ignore you!

Yes OP. I assure you the dryer will miraculously be returned to you in full working order when you issue the notice. And that is the only way this will happen.

Anyone have a link to the first two threads please?

I would report the theft to the police and get an incident number (unlikely that insurance would pay but maybe worth a call) and then do small claims court. Tell her you’re going to the Dailymail and will name and shame her!

She has behaved maliciously.
She attempted to turn OP into the perpetrator and she the victim by telling OP that asking for the airwrap to be returned or replaced had taken the shine off her wedding. She wanted to shame the OP into letting it drop. That's horrible.

She also implicated the hotel staff as collateral damage in her fantastical tale of absolute pish. While wasting the OP's time, during which she has no dryer.

She can get to fuck.

Changing username continuously to make it look like another person?

Still the same person, OP’s thieving friend!

Put the kettle on.

Part 1

Part 2

MCOL is straightforward and I agree this is the way OP should go after sending CF a letter before action (although OP's posted she's reluctant to do this, which is disappointing as it's her only recourse for redress unless CF suddenly develops a conscience). I don't agree, however, with reporting it to the police as this would be a waste of their time, particularly as the alleged theft from the hotel lie has now been superseded by CF'S latest lie that her sister's broken it. The police will not get involved with this.

of no reply context her dh would be my next move

The bottom line is, regardless of what's happened to it, it needs replacing.

I have a feeling "friend" will now block you as she has not met the timeframe issued.

I think unfortunately I would purchase a new one in the deal today and go via small claims court.

Keep all her messages as she has admitted to endless lying and admitting it's been broken.

I would buy myself an airwrap at the deal price, don't think CF will be buying one anytime soon.

P.S. No wonder the hotel had no idea about this!

"Doris
I dont care if it's lost, lent or broken.
I lent my AW to you for your wedding hair.
You didn't return it & I've now been fed lie after lie & gaslit & I STILL have wet hair 2 weeks later
A new one currently costs £400 in the sale. ( i require the receipt first the guarantee)
I dont care how you finance it. It Is not my problem
I will not be dropping this. If I dont receive it by tomorrow I am applying to the small claims court, which will inevitably cost you more than the current offer on Boots."

Don't issue a small claim just yet. It isn't free to do and should be a last resort. I'd potentially consider messaging her husband or sister if she doesn't reply.

Never heard of securing a judgment in the Civil (small claims) court then?

Perhaps this has already been suggested, but could you just turn up at her house?

I just searched them

It won't