Should she replace it? Part 3

[Langarg]

I can’t believe we have a part 3 🤣 this has provided some lighthearted entertainment at a time where I’m feeling really let down by someone I considered a good friend. So thank you! I have posted an update on thread 2, will post it here also.

I have sent the following text message ‘Having reflected on what you have said, how the airwrap was lost/broken or otherwise is irrelevant. I considered asking you for pictures of the broken airwrap or asking to speak to your sister to ask her what happened but it will get us nowhere. All that matters is I am down a Dyson airwrap and I want a new replacement. You’ll need to either transfer me the £399 tonight to pay for this or purchase it yourself from boots and send me the email receipt this evening. You can then sort out with your sister whether she is going to contribute to the cost of it. We can then put this behind us’

I have no interest in maintaining the friendship after this for obvious reasons. I am worried that she’s seen the thread (how can she not have 🤣) and knows this fine well so will have no intention of replacing it sadly.

I don’t think I’ll ever get the truth (was there even a wedding at this rate?! 🤣) all that matters to me now is getting a replacement airwrap!!!!

OP is getting some really useful advice - and some not so useful!

A letter before action costs nothing - but is the first stop if OP decides to go to take the small claims route.
OP does not need to send any other communication threatening anything. LBA covers that. It does not remove any options, but is a first step to further action if OP chooses that route.

Absolutely do not go to CF's house. That will not help and will potentially make it worse for OP.

Tell her when the sale ends, they're £500 again and you would really prefer to not have to go via small claims court. Her silence is only making you question your friendship from the start.

Is this the 1950s ?

There's a gigantic, unmentioned lever here:
That's some lovely anonymity CF is hiding behind. It'd be a crying shame if something were to happen to that anonymity, things could become pretty unpleasant for her given the global wave of revulsion her shitty behaviour has caused.

Give these scum no quarter, drive a bulldozer over them.

Well she has a 'paper trail' of messages where the op is accusing her of stealing something, it'll be quite easy for her to make a case that it was OP who damaged the car.
Or even worse this might spark a campaign of revenge attacks.
This slippery light fingered woman it's not going to do the honorable thing and pay for the item, she has no honor. She won't be shamed into paying for it because she has no shame.
I'd say this woman is a practiced con artist, she knows exactly how to pick her victims and exactly what she can get away with.

The fact the OP has documentary evidence they provided a cheaper solution (£399) for the CF to mitigate the full £500 is also a very powerful fact for a court action. It shows the OP really has gone the extra mile to avoid the last resort.

They will be of no help. Will claim they know nothing/side with CF. If OP goes to the house they may not answer the door or it becomes some kind of s doorstep shouting match. Either way friendship is now done. OP, get yourself another at the reduced price and if the matter does get resolved you can sell it on.

Ghosted She'll probably claim she left her phone at the hotel and her sister stole it and broke it!

I heard the phone is blue and matches the carpet

What are you talking about. This is exactly what small claims court is for.

It is. But until the issue is resolved the OP is without her item.

I agree it isn’t fair and she shouldn’t get away with it but the above will take ages and OP will be without her airwrap and is not guaranteed a positive outcome for all the stress.

This dishonest woman with no shame at all, how do you think she's going to respond to being publicly humiliated?
Will she hold up her hands and say it's a fair cop, I'm banged to rights and I'm going to pay up?
Or will she immediately start spinning and spreading lies, light fingered Laura ends up looking like the victim and the op the bad guy?

I'm not saying she doesn't deserve it, if she'd done that to me I'd be in a murderous rage. Hopefully I would restrain myself and not act on my feelings.

I fannied about for months trying to get £5000 owed to me - lots of excuses and back and forths - it was hugely stressful. I emailed and posted a very detailed letter before action, outlining my case with all my evidence attached, and it was transferred to me within 20 mins!

It can be that quick.

If OP wants to she may have this sorted by the end of the day.

I don’t think you will see a cent, sadly. I would go to small claims in the sheer principle of it combined with the fact she is one of the largest cheeky fuckers on the planet. You have evidence of her admitting to Lodi g it, that’s enough. Sadly, you likely won’t get the full amount (due to ‘wear and tear’ before lending it, but hopefully you will at least get the sale amount. I know that’s still not great and unfairly leaves you out of pocket but better than nothing. Plus it forces cheeky fucker to pay something in one go vs paying you over a decade or trying to give you a shit second hand one.

Sorry - posted on the original thread initially as it’s still open.

If the actual receipt is provided the buyer can write "ownership transfered to..." on the receipt and sign and date it and hten the receipt should be valid for returns. Still a faff though.

Would this result in a CCJ that CF would have to declare when completing forms or that something else?

If you couldn't "imagine coming online and reading 10000s of messages all hating on" you, that's because you wouldn't do what CF has. And to say CF "could never repay" is nonsense. Of course she can, but she hasn't even explored options for paying via installments and/or interest-free credit. She's simply said she'd have to put it on her credit card but that would put her in debt so she doesn't want to (her thinking hadn't gone "to pot" when it's applied to her interests). Stop making excuses for the CF.

without proper proof that she lent it, there’s not much she can do about it.

unfortunately, the OP will need to buy herself a new one, and accept the friendship is over, and lesson learnt that when you lend stuff, there is a chance you may not get it back, and that’s all there is to it.

I think the sale has ended i can't find it less than £475

She does have proof, theyve discussed it via text so its in writing

If someone doesn't have the money they don't have it.
We are talking about someone who didn't have the money for a hairdresser for her own wedding.
£500 in installments could be years getting repayed.

Why isn't anyone claiming the insurance

@Langarg
You should order one today for yourself while the offer is still on, just in case. Then, if she doesn’t order it or send the money, at least you haven’t had to spend quite as much as you would have to get a replacement.
If she orders one, you return yours or if she send the money then it’s all sorted.

She’s got a credit card, she’s told OP that. She needs to use it. I doubt she’ll even have insurance that would cover it.

Does she have a landline? It would be great if you could ‘accidentally’ speak to her husband about it and find out how aware of the situation he is. I would order the air wrap whilst it’s still on order. I also think time for excuses and friendship is done, time to file a claim in the small claims court.