Should she replace it? Part 3

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I can’t believe we have a part 3 🤣 this has provided some lighthearted entertainment at a time where I’m feeling really let down by someone I considered a good friend. So thank you! I have posted an update on thread 2, will post it here also.

I have sent the following text message ‘Having reflected on what you have said, how the airwrap was lost/broken or otherwise is irrelevant. I considered asking you for pictures of the broken airwrap or asking to speak to your sister to ask her what happened but it will get us nowhere. All that matters is I am down a Dyson airwrap and I want a new replacement. You’ll need to either transfer me the £399 tonight to pay for this or purchase it yourself from boots and send me the email receipt this evening. You can then sort out with your sister whether she is going to contribute to the cost of it. We can then put this behind us’

I have no interest in maintaining the friendship after this for obvious reasons. I am worried that she’s seen the thread (how can she not have 🤣) and knows this fine well so will have no intention of replacing it sadly.

I don’t think I’ll ever get the truth (was there even a wedding at this rate?! 🤣) all that matters to me now is getting a replacement airwrap!!!!

She's been held accountable. She's been found out and called out and OP expects her to buy a new one, and hopefully that's exactly what she's done.

It's this pathetic, childish, bitchiness that some of us have an issue with.

The op’s friend was happy to get hotel employees fired over this, this could have been the outcome when op contacted the hotel. She is pure scum and deserves all that’s coming to her. Also she hasn’t actually paid a cent yet and has lied and dragged her heels. I’m glad this thread made the op feel strong enough to stand up to this nasty piece of work.

Nope. You're wrong. The OP will be fine.

What you don't seem to be able to understand is that people who steal from their friends and then lie about it repeatedly are the ones that are going to end up really, really unpopular.

The fact that you seem to think that the OP is going to 'come off badly' speaks volumes about you. But no surprises there.

It's the way she's going on on MN that people are criticising.
This shouldn't be difficult to understand.

It isn't 'difficult' to understand your pov, but could it be that people simply... disagree with you? Imagine that!

Although, if we're talking difficult to understand... your view that presumably OP should give her friend a sympathetic hug and declare it all water and £500 under the bridge is somewhat... well, difficult to understand. To most of us on this thread, I'd imagine.

Omg OP your post is now on board panda on Facebook . It's obviously gained so much interest

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Well, one of you. Or three of you. Whatever.

Everyone else knows the stealing, conniving CF deserves everything she's brought on herself.

It's really easy to avoid this kind of thing, you know? Don't steal from your friends then lie about it.

You are choosing to participate in this discussion. You don't have to.

Your messages add no other purpose other than to aim to shut the conversation down by applying a narrative that the posts on here are "bitchy" or "childish". This is either because you are taking it personally for some reason OR you are trying to show you are better than (quite honestly the very reasonable) people who have responded.

This is still an active thread, because the situation has not been resolved and has a clear moral problems. The person who has the OPs property has chosen to lie and not return the OPs property.

The only way this thread will stop is if the OP gets her money back.

She’s posting the updates for the many people who invested their time and effort to give her some guidance on how to deal with the situation.

The vast majority of posts are not from the OP. Call out the petty bitching if you see it, but I can't see that it is coming from her.

How is bitchiness affecting anyone when it's incognito on here? Op asked for advice on a set of circumstances and due to the friend constantly lying is getting support and folk rightfully being gobsmacked at her behaviour...

No one is getting piled on in real life, it's not Judge Judy!

If cheeky friend is on here and realises it's her then hopefully she can see how badly she's behaved, but noone else knows who she is so accusations of pile ons and bitchiness as kind of moot.

To those defending the "friend".

1. She was careless (at best) with a VERY expensive item not belonging to her
2. She held off telling the OP what had happened obviously in the hope it would somehow be forgotten
3. She lied and said it had been stolen, implicating innocent parties at the hotel and potentially staring a serious police investigation of innocent staff
4. She potentially dragged the name of a business through the mud
5. She lied and said she had called the hotel
6. She lied and said she was driving to the hotel to investigate the "theft"
7. She lied and said the (fake) trip couldn't happen because of the weather
8. She lied and said she had spoken to the hotel about the "theft"
9. She implicated her new husband
10. She has now implicated her sister
11. She tried to get the OP to feel bad by saying it had "taken the shine" out of her wedding, KNOWING that she was lying all the while
12. She was happy to fob the OP off with a cheapo crappy un-warrantied piece of shit from ebay/gumtree

What the OP has done

1. Started an (anonymous) thread on Mumsnet

Yeah, I can see how the OP is a big bad meanie here. What an absolute cow, trying to get her property back from a lying low-rent craphole of a friend.

Gives your heads a wobble.

A salutary lesson to never lend stuff especially expensive items.

Your friend has behaved appallingly and I hope you get your money back or a new airwrap.

I wouldn't worry about outing her especially if she doesn't deliver. It may serve as a warning to any mutual friends she is careless with other peoples belongings so as not to put others through this. I really cannot believe there are people out there who behave like this. If the story is true then her sister is just as bad.

If my child, friend or family member berhaved like this I think it would be a good thing if people knew what they'd done. If people get away with this sort of brazen dishonestly they will probably never learn not to do it again. As @Cornishclio just wrote, I'd have thought that CF's friends would like to know about her too, so that they know not to trust her.
Why on earth do you suggest that the OP will come off as badly as her friend? She has not done anything wrong other than to ask, anonymously, for advice and support.

It doesn't say anything bad about me so I'll take that as a compliment.

Nothing wrong with thinking adults should behave like adults, sometimes adults do shitty things and people should then deal with that like adults, instead of regressing to acting like mean girls. I wouldn't have even acted like that as a teenager but it's clear some of you never grew out of it.

Isn't there something you should be doing tonight?

She has completely failed to take any responsibility for her actions, lied, passed the blame and given OP no indication of how and when she will replace her property. The thread is likely to continue until she does

I still don’t think that this wedding was as small as the friend claimed.
She says it was her and the groom, and two witnesses.
So why hold it in a hotel two hours away and why did the cost involve the sister paying half. If the bride is that strapped for cash then she could have done something lovely and local for much less money.

Can you contact the sister via facebook to check with her directly? Or ring her so she hasnt got time to check stories with CF?

if you do send the text re taking CF to the small claims court, id also mention your putting the claim in with CF sisters name as well as CF. In the case that the sister is nothing to do with it, that would send her into a panic?!

id also mention your putting the claim in with CF sisters name as well as CF.

That might muddy the waters. CF might turn round and say - "Fine. Here's my half of £399. Get the rest from my sister."

It's just laughable anyone is able to defend the friend at this point.

Shit happens. People fuck up. People break stuff.

If thats even true then It's the whole elaborate story and delaying telling OP the truth that's just fucking wrong. I assume this is a grown woman and going along with a story her sister made up is something I would have done when my siblings said we could get more sweets if we mad up a story! It's not what adults do.

I still believe that's all bullshit and the friend is currently checking out Dyson hair wrap tutorials while thinking of the next person to blame.

My money is on them finding a repair man and him doing a runner with it.

Kkloo

Im super curious. What exactly do you mean by "It's this pathetic, childish, bitchiness that some of us have an issue with"? The OP? The comments?

Either/or isnt the whole point of AIBU to get advice about issues that you arent sure about, and subsequent handholds? In which case, wouldnt you then find the whole of AIBU to be abhorent, and therefore why are you even here?
Not being snarky or goady I am just genuinely trying to understand your viewpoint, because you have commented many times, with this suggestion that the OP or maybe commentors Im unsure, or maybe both - are morally defunct for doing exactly what AIBU is designed for? Please can you explain further.

At this point I'd ask for the money for a new one, as you have, and also the broken one back. Tell her if it's repairable with your warranty if she wants to pay then she can have it once Dyson have returned it. At least you will have sight of it-if she still has it.

Even if mutual friends knew and now know about this, that is not down to you, you didn’t start this situation, she did! Also she could be screwing over other people for all you know.

Well done for standing up for yourself. You won’t know yourself, it’s a very empowering feeling knowing that you’re not letting someone walk all over you.

If she continues to dick around I'd tell her my next step will be to take her to the small claims court & that if it comes to that, she'll be paying for the Airwrap, the court fee & your legal costs. Slippery gits always cough up when threatened small claims court action.